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Subject: Re: Help

Author:
luka

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Date Posted: 11/10/06 2:19am
In reply to: Susan 's message, "Help" on 11/ 9/06 2:28pm

Obviously your cirumstances are not ideal but if youre highly against abortion then the answer is don't have one! No matter how many children you have had the pleasure of knowing nothing can compare to the complete and utter love you will feel for you baby once you meet him or her (and often times before that while still pregnant). I am right now pregnant to a man who doesn't want our baby and certainly does not want or love me. While i am not ecstatic about that fact i have found myself in a place where i am for the most part happy. Even so i too have my ups and downs as all women do during pregnancy regardless of their circumstances. What i am trying to say is that once you get used to the idea and work out how you are going to do this you may find yourself feeling incredibly greatful for the gift of your child. The babys father may be the same. Do you love each other? Without knowing what your relationship with him is like it's difficult to be able to give advice. My instinct is to tell you to give this baby a chance let it all sink in and try not to think of the worst case senario as there are plenty of positives to keeping your baby also. All i needed to do with regard to deciding about my own unplanned pregnancy was to do what felt right to me. Every time i even considered abortion i just felt sick inside, it's a horrid feeling, that's because i know. I have had abortions in the past and i can tell you no matter what the clinic says to you or what you say to yourself or how far along you are after the operation this creeping black emptiness feels like it's knawing away at your insides. It's really hard because you just want your baby back and theres not a single thing you can do about it. It's excrutiating emotionally and not something to be taken lightly. A 10 minute operation can equall a lifetime of regret. Love your baby and yourself, you can't do one without the other :) This baby is a part of you.

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[> Subject: Re: Help

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Pat
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Date Posted: 11/10/06 7:02am

Susan,

Sorry I didn't get by sooner. I have been up to my eyeballs.

I think if you don't want an abortion, you shouldn't have one! Especially if you are against abortion. You would regret it the rest of your life. You obviously will need some resources. You can find them here:

www.pregnancycenters.org.

Look for a crisis pregnancy agency in your area. They can help you with the practical problems.

Give your boyfriend time. Most guys don't really deal with pregnancy until they can see some signs for themselves, either a change in the mother's body, or hear the heartbeat, or feel movement, or see an ultrasound. You both need time, and the last thing you should do is make a decision when you are in a panic. People in a panic don't make good decisions.

We are here to encourage you and give you someone to talk to whenever you need it. Plenty of people just like you have made it through. You have plenty of time to decide how you will handle this.

Your baby is depending on you for your protection. Please protect your baby!

Hugs,
Pat