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Subject: Re: Help

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Pat

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Date Posted: 11/10/06 7:02am
In reply to: Susan 's message, "Help" on 11/ 9/06 2:28pm

Susan,

Sorry I didn't get by sooner. I have been up to my eyeballs.

I think if you don't want an abortion, you shouldn't have one! Especially if you are against abortion. You would regret it the rest of your life. You obviously will need some resources. You can find them here:

www.pregnancycenters.org.

Look for a crisis pregnancy agency in your area. They can help you with the practical problems.

Give your boyfriend time. Most guys don't really deal with pregnancy until they can see some signs for themselves, either a change in the mother's body, or hear the heartbeat, or feel movement, or see an ultrasound. You both need time, and the last thing you should do is make a decision when you are in a panic. People in a panic don't make good decisions.

We are here to encourage you and give you someone to talk to whenever you need it. Plenty of people just like you have made it through. You have plenty of time to decide how you will handle this.

Your baby is depending on you for your protection. Please protect your baby!

Hugs,
Pat

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[> Subject: Re: Help

Author:
Lisa
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Date Posted: 11/10/06 7:54am

Hello Susan,

Welcome to the board and congratulations on your pregnancy! Is this your first child? I would not worry about your boyfriend right now. Your feelings and emotions are what count right now. You never know how he might react. As far as your baby being "out of wedlock" I do not like that term at all. It puts a negative image on the child and that is not fair. All babies are a gift and it does not matter how they came into this world.

That said, we can help you with some resources. We would need your state at least. A city would help too. I am not the best one to go for that, but Tracey and Shellie and Pat and some of the others here can help you.

If you feel strongly against an abortion, that is good and I think you will continue to feel this way. I had my unplanned baby at the age of 35. She will be 3 in December now and she is the best thing to ever happen to me. I have struggled, sure and I still do. But it has all been worth it in the end.

It is ok to be afraid right now. We will help you in any way we can.

Do you know how far along you are?

Lisa