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Re: Very Confused

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Lori

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Date Posted: 02/17/07 11:18am
In reply to: Deb 's message, "Very Confused" on 02/17/07 9:47am

Hi Deb,

Thank you for coming to the board. I can tell you from my own experience that I know what your going through. I found myself in a unplanned pregnancy when I was only nineteen years old. I felt a lot of pressure to abort my child, from friends, my boyfriend etc. I came to realize though that none of these people who were influencing me to abort would have to go through with the procedure themselves.
I realized that if I went through with this abortion that I was the only one who would regret my decision and I would be the only one to live with my choice. You sound like you really don't want to go through with this abortion. You already said that you had a prior abortion and that you still regret that decision to this day. You now are given a new opportunity to have a child. Don't listen to what others tell you because frankly speaking it is your life and you will be the one to deal with pain of regret.
It might not be easy to raise a child on your own but would it be worth it to you to sit and wonder how old they would be or what they would look like every passing year? There are so many programs available to you that would love to help you. You can do this no matter how hard you think it may be I will tell you that its completely worth it. I chose to keep my little boy and it was the best decision that I have ever made. As soon as my son was born, I thanked God for the gift that He had given me.

If you go to http://www.pregnancycenters.org/ they can help you find a pregnancy center close to you. They provide free counseling and they can talk with you about the resources that are available to you.

If you need to talk feel free to email me. Please continue to come to the board, we are here to support you in your decision no matter what you choose we care about you.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I look forward to seeing more posts from you.

God Bless you,
Lori

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Lisa Ruby
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Date Posted: 03/21/07 11:38pm

I read a book a few years ago called, Aborted Women, Silent No More. It was a very sobering book with testimonies of women who had had abortions and suffered deep regret (often for years) afterward. All (or almost all) of the accounts were by women who had abortions because others wanted them to do so. I hope Deb and others who have unplanned pregnancies will be able to read this book.