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Subject: Re: Help!!! Single, pregnant and 40.

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Sharon

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Date Posted: 03/23/07 1:42pm
In reply to: Beth 's message, "Help!!! Single, pregnant and 40." on 03/14/07 9:50am

Hi, Beth.

I'm sorry I didn't get to the board sooner. I'm hoping this gets to you in time.

First, these people are concerned about the WRONG thing...embarrassment is pride gone awry. Your kids will be PROUD of you (the RIGHT kind of proud ;-) for doing the right thing and having their little brother or sister. They'll LOVE him or her. And if any of us as parents felt we couldn't tell our kids to NOT do something we ourselves did (and paid the consequences for), then we'd be relegated to not guiding them AT ALL! We've ALL don't things we don't want our kids to do - and sometimes that's the best lesson for them.

Also, all of the things these others mention (finances, dating, etc.) are things that tend to fall into place. As for the dating question in particular, it will tend to "weed out" the guys who aren't good fathers. A good man, one who REALLY loves you, will APPRECIATE the fact that you stood up in the face of obstacles and chose to give birth to your little one.

Plus, no one EVER regretst NOT having an abortion, but MANY women regret HAVING an abortion.

Be sure to visit some of the post-abortive sites to read the stories of women who've had abortions and later regretted them. They are heart-wrenching. One of the indicators of whether or not a woman will regret her abortion is if she felt pressured into it. So, you are a prime candidate for later regretting an abortion if you let them push you into one.

I'd strongly echo some of the other posts that encourage you to find a crisis pregnancy center. You need support from people who value your baby's life like YOU value it. Your little one has no one but you to protect him or her right now.

I'll say a prayer for you and your family...and I'll pray that those around you will stop pressuring you toward abortion. That is SO unfair. They might THINK they have your best Maybe you should encourage them them to visit some of the sites (Priests for Life and the Center for Bioethical Reform at http://www.abortionno.com are two) where they have pictures of what an abortion does to the fetus and tell them THAT's what they're wanting you to do. Maybe they'd realize that you need their SUPPORT to help you PROTECT your baby, not kill him or her.

Sharon

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[> Subject: Re: Help!!! Single, pregnant and 40.
Author: Sharon [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 03/23/07 1:44pm Beth, I forgot to mention in my last post, I had my last baby (he's 6 now ;-) when I was 40! He's such a blessing ;-) Sharon