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Date Posted: 05:31:34 05/15/16 Sun
Author: Rachael
Subject: How can someone be so incredibly horrible and no one sees it?

I just need a moment ventand I truly appreciate that I can do it here because everywhere else I smile and nod and just ignore it all. After my decade+ marriage and finding out that his best friend was his boyfriend and finding out about him being on Ashley Madison and him not paying the bills for months, etc. and him proving his "hetero" qualities everywhere possible by trying to sleep with every teacher and mom in our children's school (even texting them while I stood next to him..) and him actually sleeping with our nanny and screwing around with guys in gay bars in LA and so so so much more.... Now he has a new fake girlfriend. He even bought us the same gift for Christmas - I know because he accidentally had both shipped to my house (....and it was a picture mug...same design, just different pictures.... Yaaaaay!!)

Anyway, he has started the full court press bringing our two young boys (8 and 6) around the girlfriend and her kids. I told him several times to just please be honest with her about his best friend who is still very much in his life and he refuses. And I'm a horrible b///h because I tell him he shouldn't hurt her by lying. I've never met her. It's been hurtful, his just moving forward with another woman, because if he can go right ahead and do it to someone else - well.... Then it really didn't matter much to him how much it hurt me.

So my vent - Tonight I updated my son's iPad with the family Apple ID. It started reading iMessages (only ones being sent after the sign in) from both my phone and his phone. I didn't understand how our messages could be on there and then realized because it was his Apple ID he could access my messages any time. Meh, I don't care. I have zero to hide. But. A message came in from his girlfriend saying goodnight, love u, etc... And then an hour later... Another number, calling him "baby," asking to stop by, etc. I looked at the number..... It is our son's first grade teacher. A teacher at a whole new school where I begged him not to fool around...man. And she's NOT the "love u" girlfriend. Dammit! I like this school. It's a small little private school. Sigh.

My boys will be around this forever - and so will I. Constant lying and screwing around while coming across as the nicest man in the world. The girlfriend works for the city and I work for the county. I teach city and county agencies in specialized skill sets. We will eventually cross paths. This other woman is my son's teacher. Why? Can't he go find anyone outside of my tiny circle of the world to destroy? I will just quietly deal with the teacher by speaking to her. The girlfriend, I can't imagine I should go anywhere near that, but holy hell I feel terrible for her. But why would she listen?

Just a vent. I'm just sick right now. Damn technology. I would rather not know any of this stuff any more. It's just too much.

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Re: How can someone be so incredibly horrible and no one sees it? -- Abby (It will get better), 09:16:04 05/15/16 Sun
Re: How can someone be so incredibly horrible and no one sees it? -- Gail (Hurting for you), 14:35:23 05/15/16 Sun