Subject:  An Adjunct Post to the Extensive "Coming Soon" Thread |
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Date Posted: 18:33:38 02/21/03 Fri
The thread below (at least I hope it is still below) had touched upon some incredibly important issues. There is one facet, however, that had gone unsaid, and it must be addressed.
For the Love of Pete and Brian and Pete have a theme in them that I have latched onto quite intensely. To put it simply: Trust. The ability to find and maintain honest and open trust with people is a singularly crucial detail in life (as well as in the stories). We are nothing without other people. We find those with whom we have a likened mindset. We slowly reveal what and who we are to them as time goes along. We depend on the sacrosanct concept of trust to protect us in our dealings with others. We are instilled with an instinct to trust other people. However, life can and does trash that concept as we grow older. It is vital that we retain some measure of our capacity to trust as we grow up and older.
Brian was the victim of having lost his innate sense of trust in people because he believed his parents betrayed him. Without it, he wandered through life as a wounded person isolated from the very emotion of love and the ability to understand his place in the world. How many of us can raise our hands and say we keenly remember a time when we felt the exact same way? Many if not all of us. The need to trust in others is a stabilizing force in our lives. It gives a real sense of constancy and continuity in our interactions with others. The world seems less hostile and threatening when we know we have a safe harbor from the storm that life sometimes is, and that harbor is other people. We anchor ourselves to others and, in turn, offer the same refuge. Anything that threatens or strips away our trust in people brings out the worst, ferral nature in human beings. Sometimes it is directed at the world, and sometimes it becomes so internalized that it is self-destructive.
I have been fortunate in my life that I have known people whom I trust implicitly. One of them was taken from me through the destruction of his mind. I grieve over that loss to this day. Another person, after waiting years with my longing for that vital human connection, has come along slipped into that spot. There is not a day that goes by where I do not thank my fortune for having discovered this person. It has brought a sense of safety and security in my life that I craved.
Dewey and I started out with an interest in writing. I spun off a story from FTLOP and B&P. What I got was someone who became a very good friend. Time graced us even more, and he became my best friend. It did not end there. There is no distinction in my mind between Dewey and family. He is my brother in every real sense. He has become my family. His family is now part of my own. I love him, his wife, and his children with an incredible fierceness. I trust in him because I know my life is secure in his hands and, as such, I would gladly sacrifice my life for his. I would not even have to think about it.
It's about trust and love, people. At the heart of all we do, and I firmly believe this, is a search for those with whom we can connect with utter assuredness. The first step is always trust. If you are honest and sincere in what you offer, it will be returned to you. This is not to imply that you simply go about instilling your trust in anyone. Some modicum of rational thought is required. However, once you know you have found it, give into it entirely. Your humanity, all of our humanity, lies within that power. It is what makes us truly alive. It is what makes us all the same.
Dewey, I love you beyond doubt and question. You are my brother.
Drake
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