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Date Posted: 20:58:18 02/19/06 Sun
Author: stillreign
Subject: Re: myspace high school bully dilemma
In reply to: chrys 's message, "myspace high school bully dilemma" on 20:28:52 02/19/06 Sun

I think you know what I would do in your shoes. I�d totally confront the motha fucker! Big ass surprise there huh? Anyone who knows me even a little knows I would do it even knowing there is a strong possibility that he has no clue who you even are anymore. Stuff like that usually sticks with the person it happened to more than the one who did/said it.

Still there is something to be said for getting it off your chest. As long as you don�t have some expectation of them feeling guilt or even giving a damn because they might not.

When I was living in New York (sometimes between 81-84) I decided that I was going to contact anyone who I felt had wronged or hurt me and tell them how I felt. So I did. I confronted my dad on every single wrong I thought he made with me. Generally just really sucking as any kind of real dad. I also had an uncle on my list. This uncle aside from being super shitty with kids chose to embarrass kids whenever he could just for shits and giggle. He would often publicly make comments about my intellect and my limited reading/writing skills as a kid due to server dyslexia. He even went as far as to make announcements of this at family parties. Ok, so it�s not wonder I have issues with this as an adult. And I pretty much blame him for it (him and a few others). Ok, so yeah I gave it to him not once but twice. I also announced at my cousins wedding that he was a total jerk to kids, and that he singles handedly crushed my self-esteem where my intellect was concerned. Turns out he doesn�t even recall those events. But pretty much every one else did.

For me it helped me to release some of the anger I felt about this by confronting him. Obviously I didn�t forget it, but I have let go of some of the deep seeded anger that rather than boosting me up as a child he caused me to pull more inward. What kind of adult does that?

You know my answer -- Yes, yes, yes I�d totally give him a piece of my mind. And NO you are not being childish. It�s clear that like me those comments have stayed with you and play a part even today in how you view yourself. And I don�t see anything wrong with wanting to let someone know how you feel about what they did.

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[> Re: myspace high school bully dilemma -- tg, 21:13:01 02/19/06 Sun [1]

I would say something to him, but he didn't say that to your face so I don't think he was intentionally trying to hurt you.
He sounds like a stupid jerk to say that without knowing you, but maybe he has changed so he may be really happy to hear from you. I've bumped into people who were assholes in High School and they haven't changed, so I don't know.However it's time to clear the air with him and tell him how you felt, closure and getting it off your chest could do some good. How ironic to meet up with the person who caused so much damage to your person. This is your opportunity to move on.

btw I'm speaking for everyone when I say we all want to see his myspace profile, so feed us the link. lol

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