Date Posted:21:13:01 02/19/06 Sun Author: tg Subject: Re: myspace high school bully dilemma In reply to:
chrys
's message, "myspace high school bully dilemma" on 20:28:52 02/19/06 Sun
I would say something to him, but he didn't say that to your face so I don't think he was intentionally trying to hurt you.
He sounds like a stupid jerk to say that without knowing you, but maybe he has changed so he may be really happy to hear from you. I've bumped into people who were assholes in High School and they haven't changed, so I don't know.However it's time to clear the air with him and tell him how you felt, closure and getting it off your chest could do some good. How ironic to meet up with the person who caused so much damage to your person. This is your opportunity to move on.
btw I'm speaking for everyone when I say we all want to see his myspace profile, so feed us the link. lol
I do not and would never defend or try to minimise the hurt that this comment obviously caused you. But I think you should remember a couple of things:
1) Kids can be cruel (and if he was grade 11 he was maybe 16 and he WAS just a kid in a juvenile environment)
2) A comment that he made 8 years ago as a schoolkid is probably not indicative of the person he is today.
Think about how much you've grown as a person and how much you've learned, how your views have changed, how you've matured in the last 8 years...
I would encourage you to contact him and tell him how he affected you back then if it's important to you. But don't be surprised if he doesn't remember it. From what you've said, it wasn't something he actually said to you to try and offend you.
It all depends what you want to achieve by doing it...
