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Date Posted: 23:00:57 02/19/06 Sun
Author: 23
Subject: Re: myspace high school bully dilemma
In reply to: chrys 's message, "myspace high school bully dilemma" on 20:28:52 02/19/06 Sun

I can think of very valid reasons for going either way .

On the one hand, if you say something, you take the emotional weight off of your shoulders and put it on his. Which is only just, as his comment has stuck with you for so long.

On the other hand, you could just ignore him and take the high road. Forgive him for being a closed-minded ass, and don't let him have any more power over your life.

I don't know what I would do.

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[> Re: myspace high school bully dilemma -- chrys, 23:56:14 02/19/06 Sun [1]

all right...

as soon as i read stillreign's response i was of and running, lol. i will show you guys what i wrote:

chris,

you probably don't remember me, and may not even after i tell you who i am. i went to high school with you at PTHS but was a grade or two ahead of you. my name is chrys buckley and i used to hang out with heather brink and a few other mutual friends. one day during our junior year, our friend steve from belleville called and told you that one of the girls in our group had a crush on you. my name must have come up, because steve told me a few days later that you said, "i hope it's not that albino freak."

that really hurt my feelings. that was a completely inappropriate thing to say, and somethig that i have never forgotten. just because i look different and have a genetic condition that most people don't have to deal with (something that i have zero control over), does not make me a freak, or make it okay for anyone to treat me that way. it is not easy, socially, to live with such a condition, and all these years later, your sentence still follows me around. it's become almost a knee-jerk kreaction when i'm meeting new people or interested in some guy, to wonder to myself, oh what if they think that way too? luckily most people i meet these days aren't that insensitive, and will look at people as people and not as some image or label. and still what you said echoes in my head.

you may not remember any of this, but i just looked up PTHS on myspace today for the first time and when i saw yours, all of this came back up again, and i didn't want to let it go without saying something.

and yes christian, i have considered these things. not really sure what to do with them though. btw i was 17 and he was 15. i would like to think at that age i would not have said something like that, either to a person directly or not. it is really hard for me understand how anyone would even think that was okay. i mean 15 isn't 5. then again, i think having a condition tha'ts different maybe gave me a heightened awareness of stuff like that at a young age. like maybe b/ci knew what it felt like, i was more aware of not saying stuff like that to other people. also my momwould have gone apeshit if i had ever said anything remotely like that, like based on soemoen's appearance or race or disability or something like that. so i had that instilled at a much younger age. it just seems like common courtesy/human decency to me, but oh well.

anyway as for the purpose, i guess its' like, i couldn't say anything at 17. i wastoo scared, and scared he'd figure otu that yes it was me w/the crush. i totally had no clue how to stand up for myself then, and anyway i was mousier than a mouse at school. so this feels like my chance to do it over and hopefully to do it in a mature way like w/o being some sort of total asshole in return.

okay here is his myspace:

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=2461066

he has some cool bands on there. oh well i feel weird about the whole thing but at least i sent it and can't undo it now.

and btw, here's mine:
www.myspace.com/lotusmoonflowering

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