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Subject: Re: Rationalization Author: Lurker [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 15:31:12 10/07/25 Tue In reply to: Dana 's message, "Re: Rationalization" on 17:47:59 10/04/25 Sat Dana were your spankings as a teen in some way abusive? Were they way too long or for every little thing? Were your parents abusive in other ways? If any of that is the case that's one thing. But if you were very bad and the result was a good spanking that you hated well too bad. You many just be anti-spanking by nature. Hard to tell from the little you have written. But if you felt you had to "forgive" your parents then maybe there's more to the story. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Rationalization Author: Dana [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:47:46 10/08/25 Wed I was not spanked often, and certainly not for every little thing. Life would have been hell in that case, and I doubt I could even love parents who were so abusive. Some spankings I got were under circumstances where I had been very bad, and punishment of some kind was called for. I got blistered for those. There were also a few times where I was not really at fault for what had happened, or I was careless and did not intentionally do wrong. Those spankings taught me nothing other than life does not always make sense and is not always fair. So I did forgive my parents because they tried their best, made some mistakes as humans do, and the love between us was stronger than any resentment. I do not like spanking children, and I do not believe it is the safest and most civilized method of punishment possible. However, it does work out okay in some families because there are all kinds of people in this world. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Rationalization Author: ALGuy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 02:13:27 10/14/25 Tue Better than jail [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Rationalization Author: CaringThroughAction [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:36:53 11/26/25 Wed Dana, I agree with you in that for some, spanking may not be the best method of correcting behavior. Every family is different... personalities, environment, closeness, etc. Some children and teens are never spanked and turn out just fine. Others in that category not so responsible and functional in the adult world. It's important to listen to those with all experiences. Including yours, where there was a lingering resentment. It's good you forgave them. That does not mean you have to think it was "okay". It does however, free you from the emotional bondage that major resentment can have on us as people. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]