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Date Posted: 22:09:02 06/16/24 Sun
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Wondering-supportive
's message, "Re: More Painful and Less Embarrassing, or More Embarrassing and Less Painful?" on 14:37:27 06/16/24 Sun
Growing up my dad spanked quite sparingly. Much, much less than he was spanked. There were a few times he would smack my fully clothed bottom a few times which either served as a ‘last warning’ or sometimes would signal a real punishment spanking was in store. I only received about a dozen actual punishment spankings in my childhood, all before I turned 13, and they came in 2 forms: about half I was allowed to keep my underwear on, and the other half were bare bottom spankings. Dad only ever used his open hand, never once an implement of any kind. We both knew full well his hand was sufficiently painful, even over panties. Just 10 hand snacks was plenty to make me cry. So no, there was nothing else different about the way this spanking was administered other than my cousins were watching. One time my dad spanked me in front of my friend Brett from school when we were both 9 but it was over panties, although a bare bottom spanking was threatened.
You ask such a good question that has really made me think. I can tell you this, I have only given 4 spankings in my life as a babysitter when I was in college, because I was asked directly as part of the job. Now as a mother with an 8 year old son who has never been and never will be spanked, I think those spankings influenced my attitude on the subject more than me being on the receiving end as a child. It was so deeply unpleasant having to do that, and I’m sure recalling how it made me feel as a kid on the receiving end contributed to how I felt inflicting the same punishment.
It’s a bit confusing because I don’t think I ever was spanked unjustly. Yes it was mortifying having to bare my genitals for a public bare bottom spanking but my dad never took any pleasure in spanking me, least of all that occasion. He really felt he had no choice, especially with the pressure from the other parents, and I think he did his best raising me all by himself. I never forgot the shame from that day, which I’m sure will make people feel sorry for me, and no the ends don’t justify the means but that punishment did make me innately ashamed of lying and disobedience. I could have been granted modesty but the difference in seriousness between a pants down spanking and a bare ass spanking was massive. It left no doubt that my father, who I always greatly respected, was disappointed in me and what I had done was shameful.
In that moment it was unspeakably embarrassing that my father ordered a bare bottom spanking in front of my cousins, knowing full well that they would all see my nakedness, but now looking back: my cousins all saw my vulva one time. At least my dad never used anything but his hand on me. I’m thankful at least for that. It was just such a different time… now countries are completely outlawing spanking and I know I’ll be criticized for saying this but: more power to them. In my country it’s still legal however, but I would only support it in extreme, absolute last resort situations. Physical contact between my son and I, as well as between my son and his father is strictly affectionate and nurturing, and will never be anything other than that. Times have changed immensely.
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