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Subject: Re: More Painful and Less Embarrassing, or More Embarrassing and Less Painful? Author: Wondering-supportive [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 14:50:06 06/18/24 Tue In reply to: Rebecca to Wondering-Supportive 's message, "Re: More Painful and Less Embarrassing, or More Embarrassing and Less Painful?" on 22:09:02 06/16/24 Sun You and your dad appear to be an exceptional to the rule. Spanking tends to be generational. Parents who spank were spanked and their children often spank their children. Your dad spanked less than he was spanked and spankings you administer and experienced left you with a distaste for spanking anyone as an adult, particularly your own child. So my read is that unlike many there was and is no erotic aspect to spanking in your life. Indeed, your response is to primarily view spankings as unnecessary. That raise one other question for me: What brought you to this spanking site? I note that in your initial post you did not condemn spanking as such but rather simply related your own experience. Why did you share and what if anything did you expect from others by way of their replies? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: More Painful and Less Embarrassing, or More Embarrassing and Less Painful? Author: Rebecca [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:29:47 06/29/24 Sat I’m not sure what brought me here originally but I’ve been following the posts for a long time. I wrote my recollection because I had been meaning to express it for many years but never had a proper forum to do so. I found it therapeutic in a way. I was just curious if people had experienced something similar in their upbringing, namely being spanked naked from the waist down in front of family members, particularly opposite sex family members, at an age where that would produce unspeakable levels of embarrassment. I was interested if anyone had experienced the same method of punishment with the exposure and humiliation being a deliberated, openly acknowledged part of the punishment like I experienced or rather just a byproduct. I was wondering if people would rather have experienced this as opposed to being spanked with an implement to the point of howling in pain. The replies have been interesting. While I consider myself lucky to have been spanked by hand despite my cousins seeing my bald vulva, most people seem to think this was worse than if I was belted with my modesty protected. The punishment was even labeled by one person as emotional abuse, which I don’t even disagree with especially in the case of my cousin Noah. But I genuinely believe all spanking to be abusive in some form, by its very nature. Why is an emotionally abusive spanking any worse than a physically abusive one? I know most people here will argue it isn’t physical abuse, but I’m just going to be arrogant and let them know… it is. Even one swat on a clothed bottom is just watered down physical abuse. It is true that there isn’t an erotic component to spanking in my life. However, you mentioning this makes me want to confess one thing I find a bit shameful: I was disappointed when I found out I wasn’t going to see my older cousin John take off his underwear. I was excited that I might see his penis, and I was disappointed when I found out I wasn’t going to. So there was a very slightly erotic component to that punishment that still produces strange butterflies in my stomach when I think about it. I do wonder if he would have traded the pain he felt for humiliation and embarrassment instead. Forgive me for taking so long to reply, at first I didn’t even notice you had responded and then I had to think long and hard about my answer. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]