Re: were you spanked as a teen -- A nice red bottom

[ Show ]

Support VoyForums

[ Shrink ]

VoyForums Announcement: Programming and providing support for this service has been a labor of love since 1997. We are one of the few services online who values our users' privacy, and have never sold your information. We have even fought hard to defend your privacy in legal cases; however, we've done it with almost no financial support -- paying out of pocket to continue providing the service. Due to the issues imposed on us by advertisers, we also stopped hosting most ads on the forums many years ago. We hope you appreciate our efforts.

Show your support by donating any amount. (Note: We are still technically a for-profit company, so your contribution is not tax-deductible.) PayPal Acct: Feedback:

Donate to VoyForums (PayPal):

[ Login ] [ Contact Forum Admin ] [ Main index ] [ Post a new message ] [ Search | Check update time | Archives: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10 ]

Subject: Re: were you spanked as a teen

Author:
Destiny

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Date Posted: 10:44:01 06/22/24 Sat
In reply to: Veronica 's message, "Re: were you spanked as a teen" on 02:34:48 06/22/24 Sat

Hi Veronica,

I appreciate your posts, because they seem realistic and you honest. If I may I would like to ask a couple questions as a mother who has started spanking (kids 6 and 8) but was not spanked as a child.

I come from a very secular background, but after my divorce I found a church I really feel at home in and love. Most of the moms do spank and encouraged me to also (and I admit their behavior sometimes left something to be desired). So far I am sold on it, but have a few nagging doubts.

Do you think the spankings helped your behavior. Did being spanked cause you to have a special interest in it as an adult? Would (will) you spank your children?

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Replies:

[> [> [> Subject: Re: were you spanked as a teen

Author:
Veronica
[ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 14:47:32 06/22/24 Sat

Hi Destiny,

thank you very much. Yes of course please feel free to ask whatever interests you.
Your first question if spankings helped my behavior is the most difficult to answer.
First I want to say that I absolutely believe that boundaries, limits, rules are most important for children and they helped me grow. I miss them in college. I see from others my age that they didn't have any limits, they didn't learn how to deal with money constraints, curfew or any other restrictions. That never ends good.
Once limits are set it means that any breaking of rules must have consequences. The consequences were very clear for me growing up and that's what I become to appreciate.
However I think I would have turned out the same with different consequences. There are alternatives to spanking that can work as well. I think I need a bit more distance to my own spankings to judge that better.
I did behave better after a spanking but I also did my best that mom didn't find out about any misbehavior, so I became more sneaky at times, which is not good.
Looking back I think I would have needed consequences, maybe even spankings in my mid to late teens and feel I'd have deserved them at that age but didn't get any. I'm not so sure if they were necessary when I was younger. I'm sure it is difficult for parents to start with them later though.

Getting spanked from mom was never exciting for me but I had a special interest in hearing about others getting spanked from a young age. I think that was even before I got my first spanking. My neighbors got it and while I never saw them get it, I could hear it occasionally which got me very curious while feeling sorry for them at the same time. My own spankings might have contributed but I think that special interest was there even before. I do not know why though.

I don't think I will spank my own children but I will set boundaries, limits and consequences. I know that really helps. If spanking turns out to be necessary than I would do it the same way as my mom did it.

I hope that helps a bit. When did you start spanking and what are your first experiences with it?

[ Post a Reply to This Message ]