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Subject: Re: Not Sure About This...


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Wondering-supportive
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Date Posted: 13:16:01 09/19/24 Thu
In reply to: Aunt Nat 's message, "Not Sure About This..." on 12:08:14 09/19/24 Thu

Have another conversation with her. Let her know you are concerned for her because you feel based on what she said that her life is kind of spinning out of control and that you would like to help in any way you could. Ask her if that makes sense to her. Then ask her what she meant by needing more discipline in her life. Let her tell you. If she doesn't mention spanking steer it to that by raising the need for 'consequences' for discipline to be effected and ask what consequences she thinks would or could work. If you as a spanko get your way, you many need to be less loving and more stern with her if you are actually going to help improve her life, that is, forcing her to do what she wants to do but simply lacks the self-discipline to do.

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Concerning to Aung Nat
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Date Posted: 13:25:00 09/19/24 Thu

You quoted her as saying the following: "but I just can't...discipline myself and I feel I need...guidance and...discipline." Reply along the lines of: "You seem to be saying you need guidance and discipline from someone else. Have you thought this through as to who might be best to help you and the form that might take?" If that dead ends then ask her how her parents gave her guidance and discipline. Hopefully one of these will be effective.

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