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Subject: Not Sure About This... Author: Aunt Nat [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 12:08:14 09/19/24 Thu As I've said before on here, I live in a small college town where the university makes up literally half the population of the town. Many of us full time residents support the students in various ways. I know several of the students, listen to their problems and concerns, give care packages etc. I took one such student to lunch today, one of my favorites who I feel very close to. She's an adorable, sweet, quirky little thing and has a bit of a wild side. She often confides in me things she wouldn't tell anyone else. I listened and occasionally offered advice as she told me all of her problems and concerns. She blew me away when she said "I just feel like I have no....discipline in my life" She sort of leaned in and accentuated the word 'discipline'. as if to say she felt she needed a good spanking. It threw me. Is she asking me to SPANK her? She went on "I just mean, I try to self discipline and try to motivate myself and be my own conscience, but I just can't...discipline myself and I feel I need...guidance and...discipline." I thought to myself, am I really hearing this? What is it she's implying? Of course the lifelong, closeted spanko in me is thinking this sweet, adorable little thing is straight out asking me to spank her. And don't think I've never thought about it. I'm beating my brains in trying to think if I've ever outed myself. I can't remember ever saying anything like "You need a good spanking" or anything like that. I have certainly thought it, but I don't remember ever even remotely implying anything about spanking. I would turn her over my knees (in a loving way, of course) in a heartbeat. Do you think she was trying to tell me something? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Not Sure About This... Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:16:01 09/19/24 Thu Have another conversation with her. Let her know you are concerned for her because you feel based on what she said that her life is kind of spinning out of control and that you would like to help in any way you could. Ask her if that makes sense to her. Then ask her what she meant by needing more discipline in her life. Let her tell you. If she doesn't mention spanking steer it to that by raising the need for 'consequences' for discipline to be effected and ask what consequences she thinks would or could work. If you as a spanko get your way, you many need to be less loving and more stern with her if you are actually going to help improve her life, that is, forcing her to do what she wants to do but simply lacks the self-discipline to do. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Not Sure About This... Author: Concerning to Aung Nat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:25:00 09/19/24 Thu You quoted her as saying the following: "but I just can't...discipline myself and I feel I need...guidance and...discipline." Reply along the lines of: "You seem to be saying you need guidance and discipline from someone else. Have you thought this through as to who might be best to help you and the form that might take?" If that dead ends then ask her how her parents gave her guidance and discipline. Hopefully one of these will be effective. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Not Sure About This... Author: Dana [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 22:38:56 09/19/24 Thu It sounds to me like she is asking you to help her by applying the discipline she is unable to provide for herself. As a spanko, my mind immediately equates discipline with spanking but, unless she says the word out loud, I would not jump to that conclusion. My advice is, next time you talk with her, bring up the subject of discipline. Ask how she is doing and if she was serious about seeking guidance. If that is what she is looking for, she will be happy you are interested, and will be eager to tell you more. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Not Sure About This... Author: Aunt Nat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:01:05 09/20/24 Fri All, thank you very much. It all sounds very reasonable. I'm meeting her for lunch again today. I'll see if she brings the subject again and if she doesn't I'll try to steer the conversation towards what she was talking about yesterday. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Not Sure About This... Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:15:44 09/20/24 Fri You can always bring up vaccine injections and see if that will link the conversation to painful but beneficial procedures. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]