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Subject: Younger sibling treated differently Author: Lyra [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 12:33:07 10/27/24 Sun Hi guys, Do you think it's all right to change your approach to discipline over the years? I'm 22, and I wasn't spanked in ages, and I guess I will never be spanked again. I have a younger sister though who is only 10, and she has many years of spanking in front of her. Mom had never spanked me bare. Most of the spankings were over whatever I was wearing, and more memorable spankings were over my panties or pyjama pants and no panties underneath. Some time ago mom accidently took both waistbands of my sister's pants and panties, and she yanked them down. I remember she was surprised, but she was mad at my sister, and she was like whatever, and she spanked her bare. Out of blue it became like a new standard, and now she gets bare spankings all the time. I feel that it's a bit unfair, because she gets embarrassed, it hurts more, and I also think that mom spanks her longer now that she sees her bottom not getting red enough. My sister pleading is meaningless and mom is deaf to her arguments. I tried to negotiate but mom told me that I was out of my place asking her to reconsider. I feel sorry for my sister. Isn't it a bit too much to bare her for the spanking? She's not 5 anymore, and I'm not surprised that she doesn't feel comfortable standing half naked in the living room. Also this 10-11 age is when mom usually follows the hand spanking with a small leather paddle. I have butterflies in my stomach thinking about how much it will sting my sister on the bare bottom when mom will use it sooner rather than later. Any thoughts on this? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Younger sibling treated differently Author: Beth Swikart [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:19:52 10/27/24 Sun The same thing happened in my family. My oldest sister was never spanked I was spanked a lot and my younger brother was spanked a few times. I was slapped across the face by mom non of my siblings got that. My younger brother had his mouth washed out with soap that didn't happen to any of us. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Younger sibling treated differently Author: Kylan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:12:57 10/27/24 Sun I had the opposite I being the oldest got spanked harder because I should have known better than my younger sisters. It makes sense as a adult but sucks as the oldest child [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Younger sibling treated differently Author: Helen [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:58:34 10/27/24 Sun It does get a bit awkward when kids get to different age groups so some are still getting spanked bare bottom by hand, over the knee like little kids while the big kids graduate to the strap or the belt but start having their modesty protected once they hit puberty. As for your sister, I too am sorry for her, but she is still a little kid and it sounds like the embarrassment she feels during these spankings is very powerful. That is how a truly effective spanking is supposed to feel, as important as being painful. Be grateful you were never spanked in front of someone else, not to mention bare bottom. You must have been a very easy child. Eventually your sister will learn to listen, behave herself and obey her mother if she wants to avoid such a shameful punishment. She shouldn't bother with the paddle. It really won't be necessary. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Younger sibling treated differently Author: ts92 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:03:15 10/28/24 Mon This did not happen in my family. I think my sister and I were treated equally.Mon did all of the spanking; always bare, no exceptions. My sister may have gotten just a bit more than I did but she was a bit more "rebellious" if that's the right word. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Younger sibling treated differently Author: Dana [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 19:38:45 10/29/24 Tue It is good for a parent to change their approach to discipline as they learn better parenting from their own experience of raising kids. Why stick to methods that are ineffective or even possibly damaging to the child? Were you a bad girl, and spankings on a covered bottom not effective? Some parents may over the years become worse at parenting. Not everyone is capable of learning, so a change of approach is not always a good thing. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Younger sibling treated differently Author: Lyra [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 01:08:39 10/30/24 Wed Hi Dana I wouldn't say that I was bad, and neither is my sister. I used to get in trouble for not cleaning my room, coming home after my curfew, and not doing the homework the most. I guess it's typical for every kid. My sister is about the same. One time I skipped a day in school, and I guess that was the worst spanking I ever got. At first I was surprised, I guess mom was too that she took down both, her pants and panties in a single swoop. But now I feel sorry for her when I see mom taking off her panties for every spanking. She's embarrassed now, and with puberty coming it will be only getting worse. Not to mention that it must sting a lot more on the bare bottom, and mom is spanking her more meticulously now than ever. I guess it's because she can see her bottom and make sure that every part gets the same treatment. Since we are basically the same behaviour wise, and I never caused any major problem being spanked less severely, I don't understand the change. It's like mom suddenly realised that she liked this approach more, and my sister was just unlucky. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Younger sibling treated differently Author: Dana [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:43:04 10/30/24 Wed Hi Lyra. That's unfortunate for your sister. We always got it bare in my house, and you really feel the paddle with no protection whatsoever. Being seen unclothed by parents was not that big a deal to me, but I was used to it from an early age. That was never normalized for your sister, so having her bottom bared probably feels very awkward for her. I hope your mom reconsiders and goes back to the established method that worked well for you in your home. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Younger sibling treated differently Author: Kay [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 20:39:24 10/30/24 Wed Lyra, that's good you empathize with your little sister - suddenly getting bare bottom spankings must be super embarrassing for her. And she's reaching the age when having her panties pulled down is extra shameful. And true, in my early teens bare bottom spankings just got more and more embarrassing. Until what age were you spanked? I smiled when you said your poor sis has "years" of spankings ahead of her. It reminded me of being 13 and knowing I would be spanked at least 3 more years. I did the math lol. Averaging one spanking a month meant I faced at least 36! spankings to come! Plus, your sister knows you are there watching her bared and spanked, but at least she knows you tried to stand up for her to keep her panties up? And when you see her get spanked it might make you imagine how it would feel if YOU still got spankings - only now on your Bare Bottom!? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Younger sibling treated differently Author: Lyra [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:00:21 10/31/24 Thu Hi Kay, thanks for sharing. Of course I empathise with my sis. Some of my friends act like having a younger sibling is the worst that have ever happened to them. But me and my sis are getting along despite the age difference. I like to watch her grow up, and listen about her days, good or bad. I was being spanked till my late teens, up till 17, and I believe the same will be true for my sister. She's getting spanked anywhere from once to three times a month, so she has a lot of potential spankings ahead of her. She's really good kid though. Everyone gets to forget about their curfew when they have fun outside, or argue with mom one time too many. My sister knows that I support her plea, I was the first person she complained to when mom bared her for the first time, and then it became a new standard. Mom is stubborn though, and changing her mind is next to impossible. She says that if my sister doesn't want to be spanked on the bare bottom then all she has to do is behave and follow the rules... I know that my sister is going through the phase when she closes the door while changing. Sometimes I help her with hair when she bathes, and she makes sure that foam covers her. I totally understand that she wants some privacy now. You asked an interesting question. Honestly I'm scared to even think how I would feel. I was never spanked on the bare bottom. Maybe when I was 5 or 6 mom gave me few slaps when I was splashing the water, or I had no panties under my night shirt. But being bared intentionally seems like a different game. The first thing that comes to mind is that I would die from embarrassment. My sister probably doesn't even realise that I can see everything when she kicks her legs apart. I'm so sorry for her. But then it's the pain. One thing is that it obviously hurts more on the bare bottom, but I swear that it seems to me that mom spanks her longer now that she sees everything. I remember our bottoms being red around our lower area the most, but now she spanks her entire bottom, including the parts she couldn't see before. I cannot even imagine how bad it will be for her when mom will finally use that small paddle, or she will give her a corner time afterwards. I don't think there is anything I can do for her. I just hope that the harsher punishments will be more effective and she will be spanked less often. But everyone makes a mistake from time to time or misbehaves. Anyway, I hope that answers your questions, Hugs [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Younger sibling treated differently Author: Kay [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 19:42:21 11/01/24 Fri Lyra (such pretty name!), thanks for sharing and it's a great relationship you have with your sister. You can sympathize because you know what it's like to be spanked, but it's true being BARED for a spanking is MUCH worse. LOL, I never "died" from embarrassment but when my panties were pulled down I'd start weeping in shame. Being exposed front and back was horrid but also like you said about seeing your sister get spanked - I knew I was gong to kick and show everything. Sorry for your sis that your mom now spanks more throughly. I get how she would decide to spank both bare cheeks entirely but all those extra spanks must sting your sister! Especially on the sit-spot - those always made me squeal! So did your sister ever see/hear you get spanked? Does she know about the paddle and that' she will be spanked with it? How did your paddlings go? I hated having to fetch the hairbrush to be spanked. But worse was the wooden spoon because it meant I got a spanking in the kitchen :-( [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Younger sibling treated differently Author: Lyra [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:52:35 11/02/24 Sat Hi Kay, The spankings with the paddle were horrible!! Spankings in our house are no secret, and my sister knows all about the paddle, and how badly it made me squeal. Like, to be honest with you, in my late teens the hand spankings were not that bad. The paddle though... I'm sure my sis will get to know all about the paddle soon. Mum already threatened her with it. Also, when mum spanks with her hand she is more random, as in with the paddling she often hits the same area a few times before moving on. Kay, I cannot even imagine how awful it was for you, having your panties removed for the spanking. I know that I have nothing that mum hasn't seen a thousand times when I was growing up, but going through puberty, I was really shy and modest. If panties go down first, then the lecture, spanking, maybe a corner time, and some hugs by the end. It's literally parading half naked in the living room for like an hour. My sis cannot accept it, every time she protests though mum just says "you don't get to choose your punishment" or "if you don't like it then be on time"... There is nothing she can say against these arguments. She's barely 10, and honestly having a look during her last spanking, she isn't that much into puberty yet. I cannot even imagine how horrible it will be for her in 2–3 years if mum won't change her mind. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: First paddling on the bare Author: Lyra [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:19:07 11/10/24 Sun Hi, My younger sister was finally spanked with the small paddle. She ripped her jacket jumping over the fence. The school is behind a small park, and we can either level the fence or walk around. It's a common thing for kids to use this shortcut. I felt so sorry for her, she was begging mom not to take off her panties but once mom brought the paddle she was almost hysterical. The sound alone was scary. The loud clapping sound when the leather connected with her bare bottom, her screams, and then another smack... Mom wasn't satisfied until her bottom was all red, like literally every inch of it, and then she finished with a final volley of smacks "so you'll think twice next time" she said to her. I have so many mixed feelings. Maybe the embarrassment of being half naked isn't the worst after all. I feel so sorry for my sis, but I wouldn't want to trade places with her... [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Younger sibling treated differently Author: JD [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:59:38 11/10/24 Sun Interesting topic, Lyra! Going in the opposite direction of leniency of older vs younger siblings, a great example is that of my ex-wife Katie and her 5 years younger sister, Cherie. To hear my ex tell it, she herself was a modern day Cinderella! She was required to help her mom with "top-to-bottom" housecleaning starting very early every Saturday morning, supposedly had to stand in a chair to reach the kitchen sink to wash dishes, was never allowed to go anywhere, to have sleepovers, and was frequently spanked. If only I knew how to play the violin, haha! Cherie came along 5 years after Katie, and by the time she was old enough to have been subjected to everything Katie was being subjected to, she (Katie) theorizes that her mom and dad realized they had been too hard on her, and so the pendulum swung back the other way...but only for Cherie...and it swung back WAY TOO far! One Saturday morning when Cherie would have been about 7 and Katie around 12, their sister-in-law - their older brother's wife Donna - stopped by for a visit. Donna said sure enough, Katie and her mom were super busy cleaning the house. She asked where Cherie was; they told her, in her bedroom. Donna went to Cherie's bedroom to find her bouncing on her bed. She asked why she wasn't helping her mom and sister with the housecleaning. Cherie replied in a haughty tone, "I wasn't born to work, I was born to play!" Donna said she told Cherie, "GIRL, you need to have your BUTT BLISTERED!" [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Younger sibling treated differently Author: Carol [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:31:00 11/13/24 Wed My little sister was spanked oftener than I was. But she was a lot less obedient than I was as well. When I was growing up, I did feel like our parents let her push them farther than they would have allowed me to push them at that age, before giving a spanking. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Younger sibling treated differently Author: Jane [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:44:18 11/13/24 Wed I think it's normal for parents to change their disciplinary methods/styles as they become more experienced. I also think it's normal for a child to think it's unfair if a sibling gets a less serious punishment than they got. Tough! Change is inevitable; get over it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]