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>Sorry I was away, I'll pick up here though it doesn't >seem there is much interest in the bigger thread. > >My husband and I agreed quite easily on the steps of >spanking that I started to describe. Our only >somewhat continuous disagreements were over whether to >always give spankings on the bare bottom, and whether >to one day begin using an implement. I should stress >that while we didn't quite see eye to eye, these were >both MINOR disagreements that worked themselves out as >I will describe here. > >My husband and I discussed discipline, and especially >spanking a number of times, though usually briefly, >before we were married or married but before our first >daughter was old enough to begin using spanking. One >of the things that made the discussions easy was that >we shared memories of how our own childhood spankings >happened. We quickly found that our parents had very >similar approaches, though there were a few >differences. Those lead to differences in our own >preferences (if not hard beliefs) as to how we should >give spankings when it became necessary. As I've >shared elsewhere, he also doted on our girls, and they >were both confirmed "daddy's girls." Early on I >worried he would have a difficult time spanking them >at all, though that never proved to be the case. Our >first minor point of disagreement was not whether >spanking on the bare bottom was appropriate, but >whether it should be the only way to spank. > >My husband clearly recalled being spanked both on the >bare butt, as well as over his pants. Probably as a >result of that he didn't object to spanking bare, but >didn't feel it was required. He especially recalled >being paddled on the seat of his blue jeans, and he >said it still had an unbelievable sting. He advocated >for bare bottom spanking being more rare but using a >small paddle to allow spankings over the pants. I >would also add, with two girls, my husband was also a >bit uncomfortable with the thought of spanking them >bare when they got older. > >This differed, though not by much, from my own >experience. I only recall being spanked on my bare >butt, and believed early on that this was the natural >way to spank. Even to this day (nearly five years >since the last time either of us gave a spanking) my >reasons are simple. First, though I believe firmly in >spanking, my feeling is that it should be uncommon. To >ensure that it would be, it needed to be effective and >a BIG DEAL when it did happen. To me, spanking on the >bare bottom was natural for three reasons. In order >of importance, these were: > >1) To ensure a good sting. This may sound cruel, and >probably is a big reason that spanking is such a taboo >subject of discussion these days. However, my >husbands mom did a lot to make me comfortable with >discussing the "sting" topic. In her words, a >spanking can be relatively brief, the mechanism for it >to work is for spanking to provide a memorable, and >even "unbearable" sting. The best way to ensure that >was to remove any clothing that might impede the sting. > >2) I wanted to see the bottom as I gave a spanking, >both as a way to ensure it wasn't excessive as well as >a second way (after listening to the reactions of the >one being spanked) to ensure it was effective. An >angry red bottom to me indicates a good spanking, any >darker marks that could turn to bruises indicates that >the spanking should end immediately. > >3) Others on these forums may disagree, but I placed >only minor importance on the psychological aspects of >baring. I also feel that when a child has already >misbehaved enough to earn spanking, there should be >either an expectation that they recognize that the >parent's decision is final, and they should comply. >While we did always tell our girls to bare their >bottom and bend over the knees on their own, they >didn't always do so. When that happened, it didn't >anger me, and I would simply bare the bottom, guide >them across, and firmly held them over the knees. > >In the end, my husband pretty easily agreed to the >reasons above, and we both consistently gave spankings >bare bottom only.
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