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>The second topic of some minor disagreement my husband >and I had was whether to one day use an implement, and >to an even lesser extent, what that implement should >be. > >In this case, I was the reluctant one. We were both >raised with spankings, and both recalled being paddled >when we got older. While I didn't recall my own >paddlings as being more terrible than any other >spanking, as a mom, my initial thought was that I >simply thought my hand should be enough. My husband >still reminds me how I sometimes said I didn't want to >"spank my babies with some old piece of wood." > >This didn't mean though that we didn't discuss someday >using a paddle. Growing up, we both knew other kids, >cousins, etc who were spanked with all manner of >objects. He and I agreed that our own parents' >preference for a small wood paddle was somewhat >uncommon. We both heard of a lot of spankings with a >belt, wood kitchen spoons, and hairbrushes. I grew up >in a town near the edge of a rural area, and once >heard a kid getting "the swutch." My husband recalled >(and his mom confirmed) being spanked once or twice >with a wood kitchen spoon. However, while I was >initially opposed to using any object, we had some >agreement to discuss again one day if spankings seemed >ineffective. While I didn't expect to change my mind, >I told him if we did some day use an implement, my >only preference would be to use a small paddle. > >Fortunately, our oldest responded well to bare bottom >spankings with the hand, and from the ages of five >through eight, she only needed about two to four >spankings per year. Our younger daughter (a little >more than three years younger) was similar. >The need for a big change started to become apparent >around when our oldest turned nine. While she was a >good girl, she was "high-spirited." We encouraged our >girls to take risks, but to always do so within the >rules, boundaries, and common sense lessons we >taught. Nevertheless, for about a year or so, when she >was eight she was noticeably well behaved, and >probably got only two spankings that year. However, >around her ninth birthday, we began to notice a >change. Within just a couple of months, she began >testing household rules and boundaries (for example >straying well outside the neighborhood limits we >expected her to stay within while playing outside with >friends). And more obvious was that her sass and "back >talk" to me. In the span of just a few months, she >earned three spankings, by hand, the way she had >always been spanked previously. Since spankings for >both of our girls were uncommon, and usually had a >"shelf life" of at least three or four months, my >husband and I took notice. What was also obvious to >both of us (though at first I didn't admit it) was >that during the spankings, she seemed more defiant. >There was no doubt the slaps on her bare bottom did >sting/hurt, I had a sense from listening to her >reactions that they weren't as effective as in the >past. > >After the third hand spanking, my husband and I sat >down to discuss our concerns. I wasn't at all >surprised when he suggested that maybe it was time to >begin using a paddle for our nine year old. Being the >doting dad he is, he surprised me by saying we needed >to do something soon to be sure she didn't go into her >teen years as a raging brat. We talked a little about >what we recalled about the paddles we both were >spanked with, but in the end, I easily agreed that we >needed to make the change. I also told him I trusted >him to make a small paddle, and agreed that from now >on I would use it if needed as long as he took >responsibility for giving paddlings for misbehavior >that took place when he was home (if needed). A few >days later he finished making our small spanking >paddle in the garage, and within a few weeks, he was >the first to put it to use. Without getting into more >detail, I will say that it was clear that the paddle >added much needed sting back to spanking. > >Changing to the paddle when our oldest was nine (and >also when our youngest turned nine a few years later) >was a much needed upgrade.
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