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Date Posted: 2020-06-13 05:14:58
Author: Anita
Subject: different ages
In reply to: Lucas 's message, "Re: parents" on 2020-06-13 03:29:25

>Are there any difference if the child is a toddler or
>for example 10 years old? Any difference between boys
>or girls?

Of course toddlers don't have the experience to know what to look out for, or to take all decisions responsibly, so they need more guidance. It's good to look out for them and tell them what to look out for. Parents also have to take decisions for them before they learn to take their own along those lines. But they learn very quickly and gather an enormous amount of experience in a few little years.

A ten year old can certainly be trusted to take own decisions so I wouldn't tell them whether to put on shoes: They can take a decision and if the worst consequence is getting cold feet, that doesn't make them sick, they'll decide differently next time not because of what they've been told but because of a life lesson they learned. Putting trust in them also greatly improves parent/child relationship, of course I care a lot about them but that doesn't mean I have to micromanage every detail about their life and the sooner they can learn to take their own decisions, the better their individuality forms and their ability to take good decisions in life.

No I wouldn't make a difference between boys and girls here. As written previously, my eight-year-old daughter likes to make herself pretty, including the feet. She's making a point of looking nice and cute while barefoot. Our ten-year-old son seems to like testing his limits, trying out difficult surfaces, or also going barefoot in the snow. I just told him: When it feels bad or you get numb, better get back into the warm. He's curious and eager to try new things, but not foolish.
Not sure if it's a general boy/girl thing. I prefer to care for each child's needs individually, not because they're girl or boy, but for the individual personality that each of them are.

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Re: different ages -- Sandra, 2020-06-14 03:46:17
- Re: different ages -- Susan, 2020-06-14 07:38:20

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>>Are there any difference if the child is a toddler or >>for example 10 years old? Any difference between boys >>or girls? > >Of course toddlers don't have the experience to know >what to look out for, or to take all decisions >responsibly, so they need more guidance. It's good to >look out for them and tell them what to look out for. >Parents also have to take decisions for them before >they learn to take their own along those lines. But >they learn very quickly and gather an enormous amount >of experience in a few little years. > >A ten year old can certainly be trusted to take own >decisions so I wouldn't tell them whether to put on >shoes: They can take a decision and if the worst >consequence is getting cold feet, that doesn't make >them sick, they'll decide differently next time not >because of what they've been told but because of a >life lesson they learned. Putting trust in them also >greatly improves parent/child relationship, of course >I care a lot about them but that doesn't mean I have >to micromanage every detail about their life and the >sooner they can learn to take their own decisions, the >better their individuality forms and their ability to >take good decisions in life. > >No I wouldn't make a difference between boys and girls >here. As written previously, my eight-year-old >daughter likes to make herself pretty, including the >feet. She's making a point of looking nice and cute >while barefoot. Our ten-year-old son seems to like >testing his limits, trying out difficult surfaces, or >also going barefoot in the snow. I just told him: When >it feels bad or you get numb, better get back into the >warm. He's curious and eager to try new things, but >not foolish. >Not sure if it's a general boy/girl thing. I prefer to >care for each child's needs individually, not because >they're girl or boy, but for the individual >personality that each of them are.

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