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>>You mentioned realizing the benefits of diaper >discipline >the more you read about it. Did it match >up with the >results you have gotten after >implementing it? Why do you >feel it became (as you >put it) an obvious choice? Was the >boys reaction what >you were expecting, or was there any >worry they would >resist or try to take their diapers off? > >Yes, we have been very happy with the results so far. >We expected it to be difficult for the boys to adjust, >but we think we've really given them a shock and >motivation to improve their behaviour. It became an >obvious choice because nothing else seemed to work >(grounding, spanking, etc), so my wife and I knew we >needed something drastic. The boys' reacted a little >better than we expected to be honest, especially >Chase. We have had no incidents so far of the boys >resisting (physically) or attempting to remove their >diapers. > >>When I asked what kind of diapers you were using, I >meant >what brand of disposables and where did you get >them? >Because you might be able to find a better >price with bulk >orders online, possibly with monthly >subscriptions from >some suppliers or even stuffers >that make a change not >needed as often. > >Ah, I misunderstood. We bulk-purchased Tranquility >Smartcore Disposable Briefs for the boys, size small. >But as I mentioned, we will very soon be switching to >cloth diapers. We have not decided which brand yet. > >>I have a feeling the boys will like the cloth even >less, so >you might offer to let them wear the >disposables sometimes >if their behavior is good. > >We had not thought about this, good idea. We will >consider this if they end up preferring the disposable >diapers. > >>And it's good that you have some close family friends >who >are still happy to bring their kids over. Sounds >like they >must have been understanding and supportive >upon learning >of your boys new rules. > >Yes, they're good kids, raised by good parents. We've >known them since our boys were little. > >>I'm curious why you feel the boys will still be in >diapers >after 12 months. Of course there's no rule >that says if you >take them out at any point, the >diapers can never come >back. If their behavior >improves to where you want it, you >could still keep >the diapers at the ready for shorter >stints around >the house such as a weekend, or family >events. > >That's true, however my wife and I just have a feeling >that it will take a while for them to truly take their >punishment on board and to turn their behaviour >around. We fear that if we took them out of diapers >now (for example), that things would just slip back to >how they were before, even with the threat of being >diapered now looming over their heads. We also feel >that both boys need to be punished properly - a few >weeks in diapers (say) would not be enough to send a >real message in my opinion. We also want to avoid >putting them in and taking them out of diapers >repeatedly. From what we've read, an important part of >diaper punishment is for kids to be forced to use >diapers for a long enough period that they start to >lose bowel and bladder control, adding the >embarassment of feeling like a baby who can't control >when they pee or poop themselves. The best way to >achieve that is to force them to wear and use diapers >for at least a few months. And finally, being in >diapers 24/7 is very effective at keeping them out of >trouble, which Peter in particular needs right now. > >But as I mentioned, we will now review their behaviour >every three months (and they're already around a month >in of course). > >>But that still sounds like a long way off. In the >meantime, >you mentioned changing them on the kitchen >table. I'm sure >that works perfectly fine and getting >an actual changing >table (like other posters have >mentioned) would be a big >hassle. But you might want >to make sure there are no >distractions around the >room (like a tv) nearby. Or >sometimes change the boys >individually so you can encourage >some one on one >conversations. > >We will stick to our routine for now, but thank you >for the suggestions. A changing table feels like an >unnecessary expense at the moment, as the kitchen >table works perfectly for now. I'm sure our diaper >changing routine will adjust over time as the four of >us learn more about the practicalities of diaper >punishment. It is a good point about the distractions >though. We have not had many individual changing >sessions yet (only so far for example when one boy has >an activity after school and the other one is at >home), but we may make them more frequent in future.

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