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>>>Oh, I didn't understand you meant asking the bpys to >>stop >masturbating openly in front of you, vs them >>doing it >privately. I dont think its unreasonable to >>ask them to >keep it private if you wish. I'm guessing >>they only did it >in private before you put them in >>diapers. Obviously their >privacy is now under your >>control, which you mention as a >reason for playing >>with their bits after a bath. What made >you decide it >>was important part of the diaper change >routine as >>well? >> >>Hi Jeff. Well, as you mentioned, Peter and Chase are >>no longer entitled to any privacy while they are being >>punished. And to us, one of the main points of diaper >>discipline is to allow a parent to take away their >>child's genital and anal autonomy (e.g. take away >>their ability to control when they pee or poop). We >>believe that while a boy is being diaper disciplined, >>parents should have full control over his penis and >>anus, and the boy should have no privacy. This is why >>we decided that fondling our boys' bits is an >>important part of our routine. And the natural time to >>do so is during bathing and diaper changes, as this is >>when their private parts are most on display. >> >> >>>You also said raising two teenage boys is a learning >>>experience, do you feel the diapers have been a big >>reason >for that? >> >>Yes and no. My wife and I have learned a lot raising >>two boys. For example, we naively thought when they >>were younger that we could treat them almost like >>adults. But we quickly realised our mistake when their >>behavoural issues started, no doubt due to our >>overly-lax parenting. We take full responsibility, and >>are now trying to course-correct before it is too >>late. It has been a learning experience, even long >>before we started diaper discipline! Although we have >>of course learned a lot more about our boys since they >>began their punishment. >> >>>Like has changing or bathing them now felt much >>>different than when they were little? >> >>Of course! They are much bigger and harder to wash of >>course! Teenage boys smell bad at the best of times, >>even when they are not made to pee and poop >>themselves. I never thought I would be scrubbing clean >>my 15yo and 13yo sons' anuses every day, for a start. >>Emotionally, they are of course much more embarassed >>to be changed and bathed by their Mom and Dad than >>when they were little! >> >>>Has there been any other progress with their >>attitudes now? >>>Have they seemed more willing to be upfront about >>anything >bothering them? >> >>Yes, we have seen some great progress with Chase. He >>seems remorseful and wants to be better behaved in the >>future. Of course, only time will tell whether he is >>better behaved now out of choice, or because he is >>forced to be because of his diaper situation (makes it >>too embarassing to sneak out at night!). But he has >>been a lot more open with us - his fears, what upsets >>him, his school life, etc. We have been a little less >>successful with Peter. He is still quite closed off, >>and he is still resentful that we are making him wear >>and use diapers 24/7. But we hope to see some >>improvement soon. >> >>>Do they seem more eager to do activities >>>around the house (or outside) such as sports. >> >>Around the house, yes! I often find the boys playing >>ping-pong together in the garage, which is something >>they had not done together since they were very small >>(too addicted to their smartphones!). They are finding >>ways to entertain themselves in healthy ways without >>technology, which is amazing to see. Chase has gotten >>back into practicing the guitar big-time since being >>diapered, we hear him playing from his room almost >>every day. He told us during one of our one-on-one >>chats that he wrote a song about his experience being >>made to wear diapers again at 13 years old. He is too >>embarassed to play it for us yet, but we told him we >>look forward to hearing it, and that we are proud of >>him for being so open. Peter has taken up drawing. He >>has been practicing how to draw diapers for some >>self-portraits he is working towards. Both boys are >>involved in sports at school. It is tricky with their >>diapers, but they manage! >> >>>Has either felt ready to meet up with friends at all? >> >>Peter has not invited friends over yet, although we >>have allowed him to stay back after school to talk >>with his friends (we have made it clear that if he >>goes to a friend's house, his clothes must come off >>and he must stay naked except for his diaper). >> >>Chase had friends over to our house for the first time >>last week. Two boys from his class that he has known >>since he was little (I think I mentioned them to you >>before). He was anxious all week before they came, and >>almost begged us to cancel their visit. He was visibly >>shaking as he opened the front door for them and their >>Moms, standing naked in his diaper in front of them >>for the first time. But both boys greeted him with a >>hug instead of laughing or being disgusted, which is >>what he was worried about. They played basketball in >>the back yard for a few hours, before coming inside >>for food. Chase had to pee and poop while they were >>playing, so he ended up being changed in front of his >>two friends. He found it very embarassing, but the two >>boys were curious more than anything, asking me lots >>of questions about diapers and diaper punishment. Even >>still, Chase was quite upset that his two best friends >>had seen his naked private parts on full display (and >>in such a vulnerable position!). He was on the verge >>of tears, and it seemed nothing would cheer him up. >>That was, until his friends came up with a remarkable >>idea. They decided to pull down their pants in >>solidarity with Chase, so that he could see their >>naked penises and butts in return. I thought it was so >>empathetic and brave for boys their age to do that for >>Chase. It cheered Chase right up, and the boys began >>laughing about how different their private parts >>looked from each other's, comparing length and color >>and size. They also agreed that Chase's butt was the >>roundest and firmest, while Paul's was the flattest. >>It made me emotional to see Chase playing and laughing >>with his friends for the first time since he was >>diapered, and to see him so comfortable with his own >>naked body in front of his friends. Chase's friends >>removed their pants and underwear for the rest of the >>play-date, and ended up in the living room playing >>their Nintendos completely naked from the waist down. >>When they had to leave, he was begging for me to let >>them come back soon. So we have organised another >>play-date for next week! > >Wow, those are some incredible recent developments. >What more do you feel you've learned about the boys >since putting them in diapers? It's great that Chase >has become more open with you. Do you feel Peter has >been less responsive to the diapers because he is >older or might he still be resentful for other >reasons? Maybe he would benefit from more one on one >time. I gotta imagine he knows opening up like his >brother has will make you more likely to see the >progress you feel is needed before considering letting >the diapers come off. >You said you were going to decide on whether to >continue their punishment every three months. Even if >you've already decided they will continue to wear >diapers, maybe have a group meeting (with the option >for either to talk to you privately) about the status >of their diaper discipline, how satisfied with it you >are and what else you might be looking for the kids to >do in terms of behavior improvement. >It's great that the kids are taking up more creative >activities. Do they ever help each other with their >interests, like does Peter give feedback on guitar or >Chase review the drawings. An original song about the >experience with diapers does soung interesting and I'd >love to learn more about the self portraits. >Do you think Peter's friends want him to come over >sometime? I assume they know he's in diapers and know >the rule about wearing nothing over them when at home. >Are you close with the parents of his friends as well, >do you have a plan if either goes to a friends house >and needs a change while there? >That's simply heartwarming hearing about Chase's >friends. The fact they gave him a hug instead of >laughing shows they are good kids. It doesn't sound >surprising that they had a lot of questions about >diapers for you. Were they similar to what you've gone >over here, were you able to answer them all? >Im glad Chase's friends were able to cheer him up >after his diaper change, what a silly oddball thing to >do. Hopefully this is a turning point for both boys to >see they can still have fun and enjoy themselves while >in diapers. It sounds like Chase is becoming less self >conscious of his body overall, which I believe you had >expressed as a goal before. Was Peter out when this >playdate happened, does he know it turned out really >well for his brother? I'm glad to hear you have >another playdate already scheduled, looking forward to >hearing about it. > >Oh and one more thing. I'm sure by now you have >switched to cloth diapers like you mentioned. But if >you still have a reason to keep some disposables on >hand, you could look up a brand called BetterDry. >Another poster here mentioned those in the thread >about changing tables so they would likely fit your >boys too.

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