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| Subject: Life Strategies - Doing What Works, Doing What Matters - Or Not! | |
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Author: Dennis S. Vogel |
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Date Posted: 23:50:07 03/30/12 Fri In reply to: Ron 's message, "Re: Elvis Presley Had (Many) A Clue" on 21:14:14 11/27/11 Sun This Side Bar post will hopefully explain why many people do the same things & settle for the same results. I'm not claiming what I described below is logical, but some feel it is. Here's an excerpt from "Life Strategies - Doing What Works, Doing What Matters." by Phillip C. McGraw (Dr. Phil). 1st 5 of Phil McGraw's 10 Laws of Life Life Law # 1: You either get it; or you don't. Strategy: Become one of those who gets it. Life Law # 2: You create your own experience. Strategy: Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life. Life Law # 3: People do what works. Strategy: Identify the payoffs that drive your behaviors and that of others. Life Law # 4: You cannot change what you do not acknowledge. Strategy: Get real with yourself about your life and everybody in it. Life Law # 5: Life rewards action. Strategy: Make careful decisions and then pull the trigger. Consumers create their experiences by doing what works (seems logical) for them. You may know a better way to achieve the same results. You may know how they can get a better result for their situations & solve their problems. You may know what they've been doing causes them more problems than they want to admit. According to a cliche stated various ways, "Survival of the fittest" & "(Only) the fittest survive". The fittest aren't the only ones to survive. Survival is like a group of swimmers being attacked by a shark. The best/fittest swimmers are apt survive. But how many people can a shark attack at the same time? Usually only 1 but maybe 2, if those 2 are close together. In a group of 10, the slowest swimmer may not survive, but 8-9 of them probably will. They only need to swim faster & better than the slowest or worst. As long as the flailing of those mediocre swimmers "works", they survive. Some of those mediocre swimmers may have offspring who grow up to be bad swimmers too (not much evolutionary progress). They're still swimming in the gene pool. Whatever the minimum requirement is for survival, it's barely ENOUGH to get by, but some are satisfied with that. According to Henry David Thoreau, "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation." Why men, not women? Why do you think men are desperate? (OW! That's not how I meant it! Seriously though, she wouldn't hurt me, but I still hope she never reads this.) Some lives may seem to be endless desperation, but to those living like that, it may just be a normal, good enough life. They may feel they have enough of whatever they want. From the outside (your perspective) they & their lives may seem empty & futile, but trying to sell what you think is better can be hard. People may be offended if somebody implies or asks, "Is your life empty & futile? Do you lead a life of quiet desperation?" People may admit it internally, but outwardly deny it. It May Suck Or Blow Chunks, But They Don't Mind It can be like a vacuum cleaner (I mean more than just it sucks!). Many people figure since their vacuum cleaners still make noise, suck up some dust & blow most of it back out again, the machines work. When a machine seems to do something worthwhile when it's plugged & turned on, they consider it to be a good day. It seems that way with their bodies, too. Their hearts are still beating, so they must be doing something right, right? No! If they don't acknowledge a problem, it seems like it doesn't exist. They cannot change what they do not acknowledge. Maybe they don't know how to change their lives, but frustration & anger just cause more stress (make things worse). They may believe they can't change anything. Consumers learn (they get it) how to survive on what they have. It seems like enough for them, so they keep the loud dust blowing machine. They keep doing what hasn't killed them yet. They do what makes them weaker in the long term. They may be making their lives harder, yet they don't feel the full problems now. Besides, too many people think what doesn't kill them makes them stronger. They do a lot of things that haven't killed them (yet). But are they really stronger? NO! Even if people aren't consciously aware of it, they have criteria for judging results of life events: 1) Sure, it could've better, I guess. But it could've been a lot worse. 2) Is my heart is still beating? Yes. 3) Am I still breathing? Yes. 4) Is life better than the alternative? Yes. 5) Can I still do it tomorrow? Yes. 6) So apparently, I did it successfully. What more could I ask for? Maybe they didn't make any progress (by somebody's standards), but they may measure success differently. Survival is what counts. They don't feel any worse off than they did yesterday. According to your reality, they may be in denial. They don't acknowledge a need to change anything so why would they feel a need to buy what you offer? Life rewards action. Many settle for far less than they could deserve. They could earn more rewards if they'd create more value. We get rewarded for correct actions, but usually only in proportion to how much value our actions create. Dennis S. Vogel thrivingbusiness@email.com Successful marketing is creating more value by helping people create & keep what they consider to be important. Learn what's important to your market niche. Please click here for free information. http://www.lakefield.net/~thrivingbusiness/ [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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