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Date Posted: 08:02:08 11/06/01 Tue
Author: Sylvia
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11/6/01 - Reponse
In reply to: Jen 's message, "Re: ~*~*~*~Jen's Journal~*~*~*~ 11/6/01" on 07:12:24 11/06/01 Tue

Jen, I don�t know everything that is going on between you and Jeff. I will tell you some things that may help out. When I was single I thought I would have sex and kiss ALL of the time once I was married. Come to find out, Manuel and I are so busy, we don�t really have a lot of time with each other. If we are home at the same time, one of us usually studying while the other is unwinding from the week or from studying. Manuel and I have not sleep in the same bed for the last 4 nights, not because we are mad at one another or because we don�t love one another, but Manuel has a very bad throat and lung infection and seeing as how I so easily get streap throat, we have decided to sleep in different beds. I figure he needs a lot of rest and I need not to get sick right now. Before I was married, I would have thought �threw snow, rain or sickness I would always sleep with my husband� but when you have crucial deadlines at work, only a few days left of sick pay days and school � well I just really cant afford to get sick like Manuel is.

I think Jeff may be feeling depressed because I imagine he thought this move to Co. would be a big a change like a golden dream or something. He probably felt like this job would jump his career. Instead, he is finding out that he may not get a raise after all of cost of living expenses, the �great ski� package is being cut and what is next � maybe jobs, he no longer has health insurance � which is a scary thought for everyone, you are excelling at your goals � and he realized he is out of shape, you are learning to be more independent � and he needs someone to fall back on. I think if I had all of those feelings I would feel separated also. I don�t know how or what you can do to make things better for him and frankly it is not your job to make him feel better. It is the job of the individual to work on their own issues. Like you and I know very well, you can�t simply move from house to house or state to state and expect things to get better, it takes hard work.

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