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Subject: Re: Update

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Pat

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Date Posted: 12/12/06 6:12pm
In reply to: Mary 's message, "Update" on 12/12/06 4:57pm

Mary, your message brought me tears of joy!

You are absolutely right. We are NOT in control of our own lives, no matter how much we want to be. This is a challenge to be mastered, and there will be others in your life.

I think having to think about The Decision robs women of their joy, and that's wrong.

We're not here to change your political views. That's up to you. We're here to reach out to you in your time of need.

You have realized that you are connected to your baby, and that will never change, even if you were to have an abortion. This is a relationship which we will probably never fully understand, but it's a relationship that is deeper and more profound than any other a woman can experience, including with her significant other. I'm not saying that you won't struggle with feelings and contradictions. You probably will. But at this point, I just want to say, congratulations, mom! :) And you are so right about the self-doubt. Congratulations on conquering that one, too. It doesn't mean you won't ever experience it again, but you will grow immensely from conquering it this time around. And you won't have all the emotional baggage that would just get in the way of your own self-respect.

We will be here for you any time, whether you have questions, or need to vent, or whatever you need to do. I look forward to your reports.

Hugs,
Pat

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Heather
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Date Posted: 12/12/06 7:31pm

Well what a great post to read! Congratulations, Mary. I'm really happy for you, not just because you're about to start an indescribably wonderful journey, but because of the peace you now have to 'look forward' as you put it.

I really do think that's the hardest part for women conflicted about whether or not to abort the life inside of them. Once the decision has been made to rule it out, the largest and most vexing hurdle seems to be behind them.

No doubt you'll have more coming up along the way, but I don't think they'll be anywhere near as difficult as the one you just cleared.

As a mother myself, I can testify that the the hurdles and work are more than worth it. I know you won't know what to do with the intense joy and wonder that wells up in you when you hold your little son or daughter for the first time.

I think you'll make a great mom, and I'm happy for you as a woman that you're at peace with this unexpected yet joyful event. May the grace of God go before you and bless both you and your little one in your pregnancy and beyond!

I hope you'll stay plugged in here. There is such a great group of women here with a lot of collective wisdom and practical advice on pregnancy, childbirth, and childhood.

For my two cents, I'd recommend that you get yourself three things right away: 1) a great prenatal vitamin (natural not synthetic ones) 2) A copy of "What to Expect When You're Expecting (because it's a wonderful book, simply a must have for every first time mom) and 3) As much rest as you can possibly get!

Remember to take good care of yourself. You're every bit as unique and precious as the new life that is now being wonderously woven together in you.

With Kindness,

Heather