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Subject: Re: Update

Author:
Heather

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Date Posted: 12/12/06 7:31pm
In reply to: Mary 's message, "Update" on 12/12/06 4:57pm

Well what a great post to read! Congratulations, Mary. I'm really happy for you, not just because you're about to start an indescribably wonderful journey, but because of the peace you now have to 'look forward' as you put it.

I really do think that's the hardest part for women conflicted about whether or not to abort the life inside of them. Once the decision has been made to rule it out, the largest and most vexing hurdle seems to be behind them.

No doubt you'll have more coming up along the way, but I don't think they'll be anywhere near as difficult as the one you just cleared.

As a mother myself, I can testify that the the hurdles and work are more than worth it. I know you won't know what to do with the intense joy and wonder that wells up in you when you hold your little son or daughter for the first time.

I think you'll make a great mom, and I'm happy for you as a woman that you're at peace with this unexpected yet joyful event. May the grace of God go before you and bless both you and your little one in your pregnancy and beyond!

I hope you'll stay plugged in here. There is such a great group of women here with a lot of collective wisdom and practical advice on pregnancy, childbirth, and childhood.

For my two cents, I'd recommend that you get yourself three things right away: 1) a great prenatal vitamin (natural not synthetic ones) 2) A copy of "What to Expect When You're Expecting (because it's a wonderful book, simply a must have for every first time mom) and 3) As much rest as you can possibly get!

Remember to take good care of yourself. You're every bit as unique and precious as the new life that is now being wonderously woven together in you.

With Kindness,

Heather

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Re: Update

Author:
Melanie
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Date Posted: 12/13/06 2:41am

Hi Mary,

I bet it is a relief to finally have made a decision. I think you are right that this will give you the opportunity to move forward, to make plans and to see where you can go from here.

I think you are miles ahead of many people once you realize you cannot control every aspect of life. Life will always throw new curves and new challenges at you.
I also think you'll find that once you realize you can't control everything it will enable you to relax a little and concentrate on those things that you can. I hope that makes sense.

At any rate, if you need anything, I'll do what I can to help. There is a place called "The Nurturing Network" that is geared towards assisting career/college-oriented women. Their website is located here:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org/needhelp.html
And the phone number is
1-800-TNN-4MOM

--Melanie

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Re: Update

Author:
Tracey
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Date Posted: 12/13/06 5:37am

Mary~
I can not tell you how happy I am for you! I'm so glad you decided not to go to that appointment. You listened to your heart! I will tell you right now that this isn't going to be easy, but when you first see those little eyes looking back at you for the first time and feel those little fingers grasp yours, you will know for sure you did the right thing. There is nothing in this world like holding that sweet little life in your arms for the first time. Parenthood is a HUGE responsibilty...but you can do this! You sound like a very intelligent, strong woman. Congrats on your news!
And by the way, you are right...I am pro-life, but I'm also pro-woman. You see, abortion does something terrible to the very core of a woman. I know MANY women who have been through the horrors of abortion and live with the constant regret of choosing to terminate. Abortion goes against everything in our beings...our instincts to protect our young, the amazing blessing and priveledge to carry life and raise them in love. It robs women each and every day that it happens. So, yes, I am pro-life...but I am also pro-woman. I want you to know that we don't judge you in any way for being pro-choice and we never will. We promise to help guide and support you in any way we can. You have found a safe, supportive place, Mary! Please let us know if you need any resources in your area. We can help you find centers in your area who offer many resources. Just let us know! Mary, I will continue to pray for you and your little one! Please continue to come back and keep us posted!
God bless,
Tracey