Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 02/21/07 5:30pm
Hi Danielle,
First of all, C O N G R A T U L A T I O N S !!! The wonder of a new life in you is always a miraculous beauty, even when the circumstances outside the womb don't always line up just as we'd like.
And welcome! I'm really glad you found this place; it's awesome. I'm also really happy for you that you've found peace and confidence with your decision to keep your baby.
I wouldn't feel too bad about the 'wanted to wait until 30 something to have a baby.' It just puts you in the company of countless women throughout the generations whose lives didn't go exactly as planned, including myself. ;)
And in most cases things roll on just fine anyway and we find ways to adapt to an unexpected tapestry woven into our lives.
From a biological standpoint, as you probably know, you're at the ideal age for having a child, so maybe that's a consoling factor on the timing.
About the heartburn and nausea, I don't have much to offer about the heartburn because I never experienced it during any of my pregnancies, but I sure can relate to the morning sickness. I had incredibly easy births, really just so much simpler and amazing than I expected birth could ever be, so when I look back on anything 'traumatic' about being pregnant it's always the morning sickness I had in the first trimester, lol. I would take giving birth to that any day!
The good news of course is that it usually goes away at about 12 weeks. Mine did like clockwork. Some women find it persists past that but not nearly as severely. I just found that my sense of smell remained very sensitive in the second and third trimesters, but the nausea went away completely. As far as surviving those first weeks, I didn't find a whole lot that helped, lol. There is some merit to taking some plain bread or crackers in the morning before you get up, I think, but it wasn't a miracle cure for me.
My greatest help was mint flavored lifesavers. I found when I sucked on them it distracted my sense of smell from being so reactionary to everything. Gum would probably do the same. I definitely learned to stay away from big meals and eat more small ones.
Hopefully someone else has some insight into the heartburn thing. Have you heard of/purchased the book "What to Expect When You're Expecting?" It's a huge, huge help to first time mothers in that it asks and answers literally any question you could think of to do with pregnancy and childbirth. You can find it at any bookstore - it's very common.
It sounds like you're already on the ball with looking into what resources are available to you. Most states do an excellent job of taking care of pregnant women and their children's needs. Pregnancy Resource Centers are in most major cities, too, and they can be a big one stop shop of resources to help, too.
I hope your boyfriend comes around sooner rather than later. I'm glad he's supporting you regardless. Often being able to see the ultrasound is huge for the man involved, so you may want to consider scheduling one of those. You can tell whether or not your baby is a boy or a girl as early as 13 weeks! The visual of seeing the little one really helps to process things. It's one thing to know there's a little human being in there with your mind. It's another to actually see them moving around, waving their tiny arms or kicking their legs. With one of my ultrasounds, we saw our daughter sucking her thumb while she was making little cycling movements with her legs. I forget how far along into the pregnancy I was, but it wasn't very far.
Anway, welcome! I hope you keep posting and give updates.
And again, congratulations on your baby. :)
With Kindness,
Heather
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