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Subject: Re: pregnant dumb and young Author: Lisa [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 02/21/07 6:51pm In reply to: danielle 's message, "pregnant dumb and young" on 02/21/07 1:50pm Hello Danielle! First of all, welcome to the board, I am glad you found your way here. Also, congratulations on your pregnancy! This is a very exciting time for you! I do not think you are that young. Ladies much younger than yourself have had a baby and raised the baby and done quite well! I do not know all the particulars of your situation, like where you live, what kind of work you do, etc. What I can tell you is that no matter your situation, there is always hope! I am 38 years old and I had my daughter who was an unplanned pregnancy 3 years ago at the age of 35. I will tell you, I thought it was the end of the world, although there was a small part of me that was so excited! Although I never considered abortion, I had no idea how I was going to make it through. I will not sugar coat it and tell you all went well. My daughter and I have had our problems and have struggled, esp financially. Her father is not in the picture, but he does pay support and pay very well! I can not imagine my life without her! She is everything I wake for and my last thought when I go to sleep. She is an amazing little person and watching her grow from a tiny baby into this little 3 year old full of wonder has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. I could gush over her for paragraph after paragraph, but my point is that you can do this just as I and most, if not all of the ladies on this board have done. There is a wealth of help and information that you can get. There are all kinds of programs for young and even single mothers. You can do this with your boyfriend, and you can do this without him. We are all here to help you through this and let you know that you are doing the right thing. Who knows? Three years from now, you will probably be on here writing this same message to a gal who is in the same situation as you once were. Much as I was. Good luck Danielle! We are here for you! With love, Lisa and Sophie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: pregnant dumb and young Author: Sharon [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 02/21/07 7:56pm Danielle, CONGRATULATIONS! Another awesome program you should get as soon as possible is WIC (Women Infants and Children). It's through your county health nurse and provides you with vouchers for lots of wonderful, healthy food (like eggs, beans, peanut butter, iron-fortified cereal, fruit juice, mild, cheese). It will even provide your little one with formula for a year and healthy food vouchers until he or she turns 5! (If you decide to nurse, instead of formula, WIC provides YOU with healthy food for a year while you nurse and then provides your little one with healthy food vouchers until he or she is 5.) It's such a wonderful program. And, the income ceiling is very high (meaning you can make quite a bit of money and still be eligible for WIC.) You sign up through your County Health Nurse. As for morning sickness, I found it was "all-day" sickness! ;-) One thing you might try is to have some saltine crackers by your bed and eat a couple BEFORE you get out of bed in the morning. Having just a little something on your stomach can help. Also, NEVER take your vitamins on an empty stomach - that's almost a sure-fire way of getting nauseous ;-) BUT, the good news is that morning sickness usually goes away after the first trimester (when you reach about 12 weeks.) Also, they measure the number of weeks of a pregnancy starting from the start date of your last period. So, if your last period started on Jan. 1, you probably ovulated around the 15th and conceived right around then, BUT they actually count the pregnancy as starting Jan. 1. Yon mention you're pro-choice, but I really encourage you to visit some of the post-abortive support sites. It's also a good idea to view pictures of fetal development (and maybe even pictures of what abortion looks like, even though those are very difficult to look at.) The reason I say that is that I've heard SO many women say 'If only I knew - I thought it was a blob of tissue'. It's important that you be fully informed. This is your own little one growing inside you and he or she has only you to protect him or her. You're right, this is a very supportive board! I'm glad you found us ;-) I'll say a prayer for you. Sharon