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Sharon
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Date Posted: 03/12/07 12:22pm
Sophie,
Be sure to research the effects of abortion on a woman (physical and mental) before you decide to have an abortion. If this is your first pregnancy, there is an increased risk of breast cancer if you abort. (The risk doesn't appear to be present if you give birth to your first pregnancy and abort a subsequent pregnancy.) It appears to be due to the fact that when you're pregnant, your breast tissue changes. If you continue the pregnancy and give birth, the breast tissue settles into a stable state - producing milk (or drying up, if you choose not to nurse.) But, if you cut the pregnancy short, the breast tissue stays in that sort of "unstable" state and appears to be more prone to breast cancer in the future. Some sites will tell you the risk is not there, but the main study they refer to included women who had NEVER been pregnant and included women under 25 (the breast cancer typically doesn't show up until later than that) - both of which throw off the results. In fact, the whole idea of their being a link came from breast doctors who noticed more and more women presenting with breast cancer who didn't have any of the known risk factors. They found that a high number of them had had abortions. (So, if you DO end up aborting, be sure to get VERY regular check-ups for breast cancer.)
Also, be SURE to go out and visit some of the post-abortive women sites. At those sites, women express their anguish resulting from their decision and the life-long devastating effects it has had on them. Most of them expressed a belief that the abortion would fix everything, but it only created a whole new list of problems in their lives.
Also, be sure you really know what the abortion procedure does. I've heard from lots of women who've said "If I'd only known it wasn't a blob of tissue I wouldn't have had an abortion." So, be sure you know how developed your little one is. (You'd hate to find out AFTERWARDS and have to shoulder the knowledge that if you'd known ahead of time, you might have done differently.) One site that has pictures of what an abortion does to an 8 - 10 week old fetus is http://www.abortionno.org (Be warned, though, there are some very graphic pictures there.)
I'll say a prayer for you...I know you don't think you can do vet school and have a baby, but you might surprise yourself. A lot of us at this site didn't think we could handle school and a baby, but we managed.
Also, don't worry about the dad not being in the picture. Actually, sometimes that can be a bit of a blessing! It means you don't have to hassle with him ;-)
You might also look into an open adoption.
Sharon
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