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Re: Help!!! Single, pregnant and 40. Beth, YOU know best!!!

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Shellie

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Date Posted: 03/17/07 11:17pm
In reply to: Beth 's message, "Help!!! Single, pregnant and 40." on 03/14/07 9:50am

Hi Beth,

First of all, I want to apologize for not getting back to you sooner. The day I posted I was getting ready to leave for Missouri that night (I live in California). I came back that day to this forum, posted to Mary, then discovered I was out of time. I'm using the hotel's internet to post right now. I just wanted to explain why I didn't come back sooner. Please know that you've been on my mind and in my prayers.

I just read your second message, and I can't tell you sad it makes me to know that the people you love and trust are the same people who are leading you to a choice that would obviously hurt you. The crazy thing is, the same people who are so opposed to your baby right now, will be the very same people who will love this child to pieces, later. But they won't get this opportunity if you abort. But really, this isn't about them, it's about YOU and YOUR baby!!!!

The same man who can love you and your 2 kids, can love you and your 3 kids. Trust me, there are plenty of men with a big enough heart to love 2 preteens and a little baby, in addition to the woman he loves.

After talking to women in unplanned pregnancies for several years, I can say with certainty that you would have serious grief and regret if you abort. It's a proven fact that women who abort to please others are the women most likely to suffer afterwards. Another sad aspect is that these women usually resent the people who lead her to make the choice to abort. So she's left with grief, pain, regret, a baby she'll never get back, AND ruined relationships with the people she loves the most.

I urge you to listen to YOU!!! You know what's best. Have your baby, prove your friends and family wrong! And when these people beg to hold your baby, smile to yourself for not listing to bad advice. You can do this. You're already this baby's mom!

Post anytime. Feel free to email me directly too!

Take care,

Shellie

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Lisa
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Date Posted: 03/21/07 5:17pm

Beth,

There is not much that I can add to what Shellie wrote. Have your baby, you know what is right in your heart. You will never be sorry that you had your baby, but you will most likely be sorry that you had an abortion.

There are many men out there who will want you and your children. That will all come in time, there are many things that you need to concentrate on right away.

I do not know how old your other children are, but for your cousin to say such terrible things makes me very sad. A baby is a baby no matter how that baby is conceived. My daughter is the same flesh and blood that she would have been if I had been married. It makes no difference there. To look at her as anything different because I was not married to her father is crazy.

Your family will come around. My Dad was upset initially, and he now dotes on my daughter, his only grandchild. He adores her. I look at him and think of what he would have missed if I had not gotten pregnant.

You know what is right for you. Do it and you will be just fine!

We are all pulling for you!

Lisa and Sophie