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Date Posted: 20:02:27 05/19/16 Thu
Author: Lucy ('gay' husband provokes anxiety)
Subject: Re: Blaming and shaming
In reply to: Sue 's message, "Blaming and shaming" on 19:40:37 05/19/16 Thu

If you should decide to continue to communicate with your gay husband I can assure you that the BS about your being an inadequate wife will continue and even escalate. Its his way of pushing the blame for the end of the marriage [which is because he is gay and wants to screw men], to blaming you for your shortcomings.
And as you mentioned, he never bothered to even bring up your shortcomings during the marriage....he is now grasping at straws to find SOMETHING to blame YOU for, when its his GAY that is the reason for the end of the marriage.
Also, living with a closeted gay man is sure to make the wife anxious--the constant questioning, suspicions and gas lighting produces anxiety.
There is NOTHING that you could have done to keep him happy, short of growing a penis and becoming a man.
He knows you well. He is using your soft spots to hurt you even more. Is that love? No,that is the narcissism characteristic of a man who has used you as a cover all of these years and now wants to run off with some dude. He has to justify his actions and he refused to even admit he is gay ['Im bi! I'm bi!!!I cold have chosen to run off with a woman!' } OR TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE END OF THE MARRIAGE.

I urge no contact .
Take care- hugs and good wishes from Lucy

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