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Subject: Re: Up's and downs of life Author: Debbie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 13:57:12 03/29/03 Sat In reply to: Bruce Wilson 's message, "Up's and downs of life - actually, LAB" on 20:53:21 03/28/03 Fri I like to think I’m a success because, despite all the ups and downs over the years (and believe me, there have been many, just as with most of us, I’d wager), I’m still a good person who turned out well thanks to my parents raising me the way they did (although I didn’t necessarily appreciate it at the time!) and making sure I got an education, no matter what I did with it. You don’t go to college to major in English and then work in government-run psychiatric hospitals with the goal of getting rich, believe me! But my life was indeed enriched by all those experiences, not the least because I appreciate things that I might not have otherwise, and now I’m happily married and just plain happy with my life. It took a heck of a lot longer than I would have liked, but I’ve finally “arrived,” well, by my standards, anyway. As for Alan, I honestly expected him to be a rocket scientist or an academic by now (never could picture him as an accountant, though), so on reading his reply to my “Music Careers” question I was rather surprised to find he was neither. But my other immediate reaction was to be extremely pleased to find he’d achieved such (hard-earned and well-deserved, I’m sure) success in a completely different field of endeavour, especially one as competitive as music. And those among us who are parents probably were equally as thrilled to find he had chosen a career managing symphony orchestras rather than taking a couple of other career paths, given his driving prowess in the Band Hall parking lot, namely teaching Driver’s Ed or driving limos to high school proms. (Here’s to Alan for making a lot of people happy with his choice. Good on you, mate!) [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Up's and downs of life - actually, LAB Author: Susan Taylor Jolly [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:17:54 03/29/03 Sat Hi Bruce! I was so glad to see your post, and so happy to hear you and Val are doing well!! You know, I think you were probably not talking specifically about Alan V., but rather that elephant that is always in the room at every reunion type event, and is the reason why many people avoid reunions like the plague. On some level, because we are human, we all feel we are being sized up based on our type of career, marital status or singleness, height, weight, looks, bank account, clothing, politics, and social contacts. Essentially all those things we thought would go away after high school. Many of us have grown comfortable in our own skin and circumstances, many of us haven't. Many will feel no discomfort in that setting, many will be very uncomfortable. Some will be courageous about being truly transparent, and many just won't be able to. All have had life successes ranging from "average" to wildly successful, and difficulties ranging from annoying to painfully tragic. We're all just folks, and will probably just have to practice rejoicing with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep, and try to enjoy each others' company for a few hours in April, as well as the really interesting posts here on the web page. As for me, my life is very average, in all respects. I'm still married to Larry Jolly, I have three wonderful children I've stayed at home with for the last 18 years, I am the accountant for Larry's graphic design business (I do the books from home), and though life has been entirely different from what I expected, I do have a tremendous amount to be thankful for and content about. Thanks for your honesty, it's always refreshing. Hopefully, we'll all remember that web-posts and emails can be dangerous ground for misinterpretation because we can't hear each others' tone and inflection. I'll miss seeing you at the reunion, but maybe you can make the next one. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]