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Date Posted: 10:08:30 04/10/06 Mon
Author: Jes
Subject: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party
I am not going to be able to plan a summer Cleveland party. I have decided that I am so unhappy with almost every facet of my life that big changes are in order. I am not the person I portray - and that needs to change. The person people see needs to be the person I am. I am going to be giving my notice at work within a few weeks. And I'm kinda free-balling it because I don't intend on finding another path to take until I've left this one. Sometimes you just have to take that risk. And I'm sure I can't fail, so.... Anyhow, until I get myself where I need to be, I'm gonna have to be cautious with $. I will plan a party...but it may not be this summer. I just know I'd go all out and I can't afford that right now. Not even holding a room somewhere. Sorry guys. One day, though....
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- taurus, 10:17:37 04/10/06 Mon [1]
Oh man I was wondering what was going on. I may go anyway, I've heard it's only a 4hr drive from Toronto. That's an overnight. I'm a little disappointed though, but it looks like people are already making other summer plans anyway.
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- tg, 10:20:30 04/10/06 Mon [1]
I also don't understand what you are going to do without a job and what your planning on doing?
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- Jes, 10:26:20 04/10/06 Mon [1]
Well let me know if you do make it to the area!
I'm not sure, exactly. I have a few ideas, but I have so much to get in order I haven't decided on a path yet. I'm closing out my 401K to carry me over just a couple months. Told you it's radical!
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- 23, 10:28:15 04/10/06 Mon [1]
I wish you the best of luck on your quest, Jes.
Also, can I borrow your nuts? Mine don't seem to be in working order lately.
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- light, 10:34:01 04/10/06 Mon [1]
Good luck on this change Jes! Now that's what I call an exciting adventure!!
Maybe we'll all get together in the summer anyway. The burden of a party doesn't have to rest on your shoulders. We can each take care of our own expenses and have a great time going to the Hall of Fame... and stuff :)
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- carson1, 10:42:58 04/10/06 Mon [1]
Dang, good luck, Jes! I agree, that takes some guts, but it sounds like you are ready to take a big step.
Happy soul searching!
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- Jes, 11:07:45 04/10/06 Mon [1]
You ever see the gym teacher in Scary Movie 1? That was me. LOL! j/k
It's not just the $, though I'm sure I would have reserved alot of stuff. I can't guarentee my time just yet. Let me know though if any of ya'll are coming here and when!
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- tg, 12:50:05 04/10/06 Mon [1]
I say you take your savings (i'm guessing the 401K is that, I never heard of it) and buy a small camper and do the road trip thing. Nice time to change your life in the summer! :) I'd join you, if I could. Good Luck!! Start a journal.
BTW I won a raffle and it's a spa treatment on Saturday from 9-4 and it's the works. So that's as close to a break from things as I'm getting right now.
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- carson1, 16:49:27 04/10/06 Mon [1]
Oh, TG, that sounds freakin' awesome. I did the whole Hershey Spa thing for my 30th last year, and I must say, I have never been so relaxed in my life. Enjoy it, doll!
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- chrys, 21:56:40 04/10/06 Mon [1]
jes,
been dying to reply to this all day, but haven't sat down by the computer until now.
THIS IS THE BEST NEWS I HAVE HEARD ALL WEEK!
of course it kinda sucks that we can't do the cleveland party. i was going to post and let you guys know i can't go either. i just can't afford it. i might be moving into my own apartment, which will cost more in rent and utilities. also i th ink i posted here that i'm starting my own publishing company, and there are a lot of start-up costs for that. so really there is no way i can make it either.
BUT YOUR NEWS IS AWESOME! it may not be the easiest thing in the world, but i promise it will be worth it. plus for how long on here have you said you wanted an adventure? it's about time! this is so exciting. i have done that a few times, left places or left jobs, with no real plan, and it has always given rise to some of the richest experiences. last july i quit my job and lived day to day and even made it to that writer's conference, and then finally got my 401k, and it has been so worth it. i am so happy for you!!!
and you'll have to fill us in on how things go!
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- alicemudgarden, 09:16:53 04/11/06 Tue [1]
Congratulations on such a courageous move!!!
Follow your heart and make yourself proud!!!
and please do keep a journal!
RON-E!
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- light, 11:29:56 04/11/06 Tue [1]
Jes, I was wondering if you've given thought to going to NO and taking a part in recovery/redevelopment efforts there. Seems like something fulfilling that could be right up your alley.
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- Jes, 11:44:35 04/11/06 Tue [1]
The ideas you guys are coming up with are interesting and show me that I must be representing myself true on these pages, because they're all right on.
I can't leave my family behind though and I am stuck in a mortgage. And I don't have alot of $ to back me up. So my ideas are much smaller scaled.
But A Light - if I didn't have a son depending on me, I would have been down there months ago.
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- chrys, 19:23:27 04/11/06 Tue [1]
jes,
what about starting your own business or something? maybe doing those tours, or combining that with a couple other things and making a company out of it? the reason i suggest that is you seem to be an extremely self-motivated person, and better than most of us are with handling finances. i still am so impressed that you could get a house at 23, so very few people can say anything like that. i've always thought of you as very skilled in practical matters, and if you had your own business or with a few friends/partners in crime, or independently, i could see you being very good at that, and applying those skills to something you are really interested in doing. there are ways to findh elp for small businesses.
anyway i'm sure whatever you figure out will be awesome, just the risk and the daring and the courage is enough to make it surely awesome.
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- amadaun, 19:48:01 04/11/06 Tue [1]
Jes, you have got courage, and I wish you all the best. Not many people are brave enough to make such a big change in their life. So, good on you!!
I hear ya about the mortgage thing, like a fricken noose around your neck, huh?
Sometimes I think it would be fun to cut loose all that financial bullshit and just live from day to day.
Other times, I like where I am now, and that I have control of where and how I live.
Which to choose??
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- Jes, 08:43:31 04/12/06 Wed [1]
Exactly! It's good to have a home to come to at the end of an adventure!
Chrys - I plan on the tours (and will have time to perfect them before actually taking people out). I'm thinking now about that and a few other smaller things (like reading tarot like you as I was once good at it and possibly doing ghost hunts, etc.) along with maybe a part time job at the library or book store. There's a lady in a smaller nearby town (for RD2 & Chico - Canal Fulton) who has done the same thing and has been really successful at it - so I know there's interest).
The only thing that scares me is health insurance. Last time I was about to toss caution to the wind (and at that time go back to school), I ended up finding out about the melanoma a week or so before I intended to quit!
But hey, I'm not going to let that stop me.
Ya'll are just so encouraging - that's why I luv ya! :)
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- chrys, 12:29:11 04/12/06 Wed [1]
dude, that's awesome!
yeah, health insurance is a worry. i haven't had any since i moed out of my parents' house. even at the camp job, the deal was too shitty to bother with. for average things like going to the doc. every now and then, it's worked out fine, but i worry about big things too, like wtf would i do? some states have a health insurance you can get based on your income. here it's called Basic Health. ikeep forgetting to sign up though. but i know for some people it's only like, twenty or thirty bucks a month. they hae some huge complicated calculation to try to make it fair. it's definitely worth looking into if OH has anything like that. in most states i think it's the sorta thing where even if you're working, you could qualify, it would just cost more per month.
that ROCKS about the tours/ghost hunts/tarot/etc. you should throw the party after you have that going for awhile, and we can all go ghosthunting together : )
you wouldn't happen to need a tarot deck and book would you? my friend who's moving in a week or so was cleaning out her house and found this box with a rider-waite tarot deck (which i think is the most common) and a booklet, and she gave it to me. i'm definitely going to keep the box, but i'm pretty attached to the deck i use, and so was looking to give away the rider-waite deck and book. if you want it, e me your addy and i'll have it in the mail in the next few days.
my e addy is lotusmoonfloweirng@hotmail.com
this is awesome!
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- 23, 12:38:54 04/12/06 Wed [1]
Speaking of health insurance, you should just move to Massachusetts:
http://www.businessweek.com/investor/content/apr2006/pi20060404_152510.htm
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- Jes, 15:43:59 04/12/06 Wed [1]
Chrys - Thanks so much for your offer! I know it's a good thing to have someone give you cards, but I need to pick my own. I had a deck like that before, and I got rid of them only because I didn't know they could be cleansed! I haven't decided for certain if I want to do that or not, but I was thikning that you know - there really are never any tables set up at all the festivals my town has ever. I used to be good at it. I could use that talent that must come from like 1/8 of my geneology! We'll see.
I could also take over for my Grandmother, who is a fairly well known china painter who retired just last year. She had 3 full classes that would come as far as 45 minutes away. I'm no good, but she could take me under her wing and teach me - then I could carry on her name.
I could write and see what comes out. But being that I don't currently have any ideas that I think would work...I doubt this route.
I could go back to school. Get that librarian degree I want and then work in the museums restoring and storing works.
I could get my real estate liscense. I love homes and can find something special about any house.
All require a part time job I think - and I love the bookstore.
See - I have all this other stuff I need to work on that's so much more important than money. My child is not doing well in school. My relationship is pretty sad. And me! I'm not being me! I've become this sort of working stiff. Hell, I don't even look like me. I need to return! And all this I can't do with my current job taking up so much of my time and molding me into a lump. Another thus Lump!
Oh, and on the insurance. If something were to get bad...like I had another spot or something...I could always get married. LOL! j/k That's awful. I do have options. I can't let something stupid like that stop me.
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- Jes, 13:16:39 04/19/06 Wed [1]
I got it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The historic society! That's where I'm going!!!!!
Just had to share - it just came to me today. I'd be happier harvesting beets at a local historic farm than where I am today! Huge paycut, but the correct direction and they're all hiring! Next time you see a woman in a bonet and full dress in the middle of summer, think of me! :)
I was asked to wait an extra month before leaving my current situation, and am doing that. BUT YEAH! I have a direction! So excited I had to tell someone. Anyone ever work at these types of places before?
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- light, 13:47:45 04/19/06 Wed [1]
whoa! I thought that said harvesting bees!
The Historic Society sounds great! And yes, the next time I see a woman in a bonnet and full dress in the middle of the summer, I'll think of you. Actually it'll be the first time that ever I see that. I have seen some men dressed that way. Ahhh... summer in the Village.
Do you get insurance with this job? I actually do know a couple that got married for the sake of coverage. They were together for 10 years before that though, and still are many years since... so all's well that ends well, at least in their case.
An extra month ain't that long. It'll just fly by!
Congrats on your decision!!
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- lakemnitz, 07:04:30 04/20/06 Thu [1]
Yes you are taking a big risk but as said before it will be worth it! I did the same thing last year....quit my job of six years and struggled to find something where I would fit and it was so weird because after I gave up obsessing about it this really good job fell into my lap. A month or so later I left my husband which was a good thing, hard but very necessary.
I was feeling much like you were; I was not being true to myself and man that really feels awful. In fact I had Chrys do a online tarot reading and the card I drew was oppression....interesting eh?
So good luck in your quest and remember that spiritually there will always be someone there to catch you when you fall....
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- Leo, 19:40:37 04/20/06 Thu [1]
Jes - I am so happy for you, and really proud too!
I think you are perfect for that job.
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- amadaun, 20:01:47 04/20/06 Thu [1]
Hey! Glad you got that job Jes!
No more Lump, just Jes from now on, huh?
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- Jes, 08:34:48 04/21/06 Fri [1]
The job itself is just a tour guide for a government run historic village in the area. I'm gonna drive down tomorrow as it's a pretty long drive and check it out. Applying Monday. The history is really really interesting. It's an original commune the German seperatist set up after being persecuted in Germany. I don't have a full understanding of their religion yet, but there's some mystisicm in there so that's always fun (and makes October a haunted month!). I'm cutting my pay by 2/3rds!
BUT, I will be able to see if I want to go through 5 years to become an archivist (which is what I wanted to do, though I joke I want to be a librarian...cause you know the rumors! LOL!). I'm already 31, so 5 years of school HAS GOT to be worth it! I'll also be able to get my foot in the door for my own touring company and get the doors open that I need open!
All in a historically correct costume. LOL!
Anyhow, I'll keep ya'll in the loop! I'm excited.
And yeah, I'm just Jes here. I don't see a need for a screen name in this community! :)
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- chrys, 12:20:48 04/21/06 Fri [1]
dude that totally rocks.
oh man, sometimes taking pay cuts is so worth it. not easy though. is the job full or part time?
let us know how the application goes...
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Re: librarians (theory) -- rdtwo, 13:14:13 04/21/06 Fri [1]
are sexual beasts in the bedroom, though i unfortunately
couldn't tell ya from experience. ;) just like all girls
named nicole are hot. and um. well, nevermind. heh. =)
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- Jes, 14:27:20 04/21/06 Fri [1]
LMAO! You know, you're right. I can't think of an ugly Nicole!
Until I joined this forum (well, the cc forum), I had never met a Heather that was nice to other girls! And this after I would have named my son that had he been a girl! Heather from the cc forum was the only exception I've ever seen!
Hah! Let's use that and get into trouble.
Never met a MIKE that wasn't soley out for the nookie.
Never met a Bob that didn't struggle with a beer belly.
Never met a Connie that wasn't somehow wholesome.
Never met a Tony that wasn't extremely self-protective.
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Re: names -- rdtwo, 15:39:34 04/21/06 Fri [1]
haha. like any of this is full proof, but we're not
far off, jes. happy weekend to you! :)
ashley- most are hot, allot are flighty. ;)
girls on the bigger side give the best, well, ya know. ;)
nicole- simply are all hot
jessica- sweet and loyal. trusting. dependable. on occassion, possessive. ;)
anna- ahh.=) all are lovely. my favorite girl name.
carry on. ;)
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- Jes, 16:50:37 04/21/06 Fri [1]
Well, I disagree with Anna - but you must have a girl you're thinking of.
I know one - I wish I had a picture - she's like a dark haired Miss Piggy crossed with that episode of of Twilight Zone where they were going to make the pretty girl "pretty" like the rest of the people. Of course, there's personal distaste there because I'm pretty sure this lady has Munchousen's. Anyhow....
Mark's are usually sensative.
:) HEHE. Alrighty - have a good one!
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- chrys, 19:10:22 04/21/06 Fri [1]
i know an ugly nicole! but only one.
i don't know if i have any "this name tends to be this way" but i have certain letters.
i have loved a disproportionate number of boys whose names start with an A. what's funny to me about that is when i wrote a lot of short stories as a teenager and early twentysomething, an equally disproportionate number of characters, male and female, had A names. sometimes i even had to change some so a story wouldn't be too confusing with an amanda, an andrea, an arden and an andrew. science fiction stories were even worse, i wanted to name the people avia, adria, and so on. hmm, i said "boys" in that first sentence, but come to think of it, the girl i had a crush on in college was named angie.
the runner-up letter for people i've loved (and sometimes just the people i've been surrounded with) is J. and that would also be the runner up story-wise. i had couples like andrea and justin very frequently appear in my stories.
C & L would probably be next on both accounts.
even maynard's name, i love it for all the As. i guess it goes back to the whole seeing letters as colors thing.
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Re: Radical Sabbatical not Cleveland Party -- lite, 19:36:14 04/21/06 Fri [1]
With the 'doesn't apply to anyone here' exclusion, guys who use the name Robert tend to be pricks. If they call themselves Rob, Bob etc. they're probably ok.
I like 'K' names, particularly for pets.
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