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Date Posted: 18:04:35 03/01/06 Wed
Author: tg
Subject: Re: Advice
In reply to: chico781 's message, "Advice" on 15:59:14 02/28/06 Tue

I still think you should move on, but I would have to agree with twan/23. If you don't know what she wants and you need to know if she still loves you, you need to tell her how you feel and she needs to be honest. I would say it's better to know than to not know so you can go on with things.

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[> Re: Advice -- chrys, 19:12:29 03/01/06 Wed [1]

i'd also vote for it's better to know. that's whyi think you should try to sit down and have a talk with her about where things stand now and where they're going.

in hs i dated this guy, for seven months, lol, nothing compared to six years. anyway, he broke up with me and gave me a completely bogus story about why (he said it had to w/a friend of mine getting in the middle of things). he later told me it was bogus, well actually was like, why would you ever think that had anything to do w/why we broke up? ummm duh b/c you said it had everything to do w/it. at the time he even gave me all this "i love you too much to put you in the middle of me and your best friend." (insert gagging). so the point is that it was a bogus reason. when i finally got the courage up to ask him what really happened, cuz i thought it was info i should know for the future, he gave me another bogus answer (this time it was something that happened AFTER the actual break up so that was obviously not really it). and then, being the type of person to overthink things, i imagined all the things that might be the real reason. that is no fun.

sooo my point is, if you can sit down and try to be straight with her, now, about how you feel, and at the same time being open to what she feels even if it's not what you want to hear, i think that is the chance to get things on the table. and i would also say make her own up to it. ask questions. be honest. i think the more open and honest you are, the more it will encourage that in return. it will be better to have some sort of closure then it will to torture yourself with wondering this and that, and with the regret you have already spoken of in an above post. in the end it'll probably be best for you both.

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