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Date Posted: 03:52:02 03/01/06 Wed
Author: Christian
Subject: Re: Advice
In reply to: chico781 's message, "Advice" on 15:59:14 02/28/06 Tue

Chico,

Man I don't envy you...

Having read your side of the story (and if you want me to be brutally honest) she's trying to ditch you, plain & simple, but she doesn't have the guts to come out and say it.

"I need to find myself"..."I don't know who I am"..."I think we should see other people"..."It's not you, it's me"..."I need some space"...

She's hit you with pretty much every gem in existence to get out of a relationship without really taking responsibility for it or appearing to be the 'bad guy'. And if her friends/relatives are telling you to back off - it's because she wants them to tell you that.

I've seen this happen alot around the time that people make that commitment to marry. It raises all kinds of questions and doubts. A good friend of mine and his girlfriend recently got engaged, bought a house together and within a month of moving in, broke up. At least there aren't children involved which is where it gets really complicated.

Mate my advice is to take a hint & move on. I personally would make her take responsibility for her decisions and call it what it is - after 6 years she owes you honesty and respect if nothing else. But I think she's trying to put you in a situation where she can make the decline of the relationship YOUR fault ("he just smothered me" etc) and you shouldn't play into that game.

Chris

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[> Re: Advice -- tg, 18:04:35 03/01/06 Wed [1]

I still think you should move on, but I would have to agree with twan/23. If you don't know what she wants and you need to know if she still loves you, you need to tell her how you feel and she needs to be honest. I would say it's better to know than to not know so you can go on with things.

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