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Subject: Re: Do you think most kids are spanked bare bottom?


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Gary Steven
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Date Posted: 07:22:20 06/09/24 Sun
In reply to: Alex 's message, "Re: Do you think most kids are spanked bare bottom?" on 22:33:23 06/08/24 Sat

I didn't like spanking my kids and for the most part they were good kids. There were times I felt a spanking was necessary and like my mother, I always did it bare bottom. There were rare times that my kids misbehaved in public and that resulted in a quick trip to the bathroom or other private spot where I did pull their pants down and spank them. Onlookers at that time weren't as open minded about corporal punishment as they were in the 60s and 70s. When I was growing up, people really didn't give a second thought to a parent spanking a child bare in public. But that has changed. Also, it was pretty humiliating as a child to have my bare butt spanked in public. Which was part of the punishment. They were however, spanked in front of each other and family and once or twice in front of friends. I spanked my son a few times when I went to pick at the sitters I had. One of my sitters had a boy his age and they had gotten into some trouble. I gave him a spanking bare, in front of her and her son and when I finished my sitter asked me to pull her son's pants down and spank him too. Also, I was fifteen when I got my last bare bottom spanking from my mom, and was threatened with it several times after until I finally moved out. From the time I was eleven until my last spanking at fifteen. I wasn't spanked as often. Maybe three or four times a year. With my own kids, they averaged three or four spankings a year even when they were younger. The most I gave my son was six in one year when he was eight and my daughter five when she was eleven. There were other punishments I could use and I reserved spankings for certain behaviors. The last time I spanked her, she had been to a friend's house and came home well after dark. I told her to be home before it got dark. So she was already in trouble. She knew she could have called to let me know she was going to be late and I wouldn't have been as upset and there probably wouldn't have been any punishment, or maybe just restriction. But she didn't and when she came home she actually argued that it wasn't dark, which it was. Plus telling me I was being unfair to her and so forth. I decided a spanking was in order. So I made her pull her pants and panties down, lean over a chair in the kitchen and I gave her eleven swats with a belt I used specifically for spanking. Plus an extra four because she argued with me. After the spanking, I sat her down and told her. "You know, I think you are really too old to have to get a spanking and I don't like being put in a position of having to do it. But as long as you keep doing things you know you will get spanked for, I will keep spanking your bare little butt, and that's going to get real embarrassing as you get older. You're a smart girl and you need to make a choice. Because I will keep spanking you as long as I feel you earned it." That was the last time I ever had to spank her. She still got restrictions and even the threat of a spanking on occasion, but I never had to do it again. It was basically the same with my son. I told him the same thing when after I gave him a spanking at eleven. I only had to spank him one time when he was twelve and then never again. There were times he also got threatened but I never had to do it. My kids are now awesome adults.
I hope I sufficiently answered you're quedtions. Please feel free to ask me anything else.

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Date Posted: 12:45:31 06/09/24 Sun

You did answer my questions sufficiently and I appreciate you being open to more questions because I certainly have plenty of them. Answer whatever you feel like at your own leisure.

You exclusively spanked your children bare bottom the same as your own mother. Were your reasons for this the same as hers? That being said, you never spanked outside of the family or family friends including sitters it seems. If attitudes toward this type of punishment were still positive, do you think you would have spanked your children publicly in front of strangers? You openly acknowledge that it was very shameful being spanked bare bottom in public and a very important element is you say this was a deliberate part of the punishment your mother inflicted. Did you want to spare your boy and girl that element of humiliation you experienced in your upbringing?

What was the age gap between your two kids? Were they close in age or far apart? How old was your son the last time his sister witnessed him get a spanking? How old was your daughter the last time her brother witnessed her? The last time you spanked them at age 11 and 12 I am assuming they were not private, but you belted your daughter in the kitchen where her brother may well have also been, and while it appears you had no explicit goal to embarrass them you did spank them in front of each other and in front of other people. You no doubt knew this would be very embarrassing for them, but was this in any way a deliberate part of the punishment like what you experienced or more of an unfortunate coincidence for the youngsters? What age was your son when you gave him a bare bottom spanking in front of his friend’s mom? Did you use an implement or was the spanking by hand? Almost a rhetorical question but, did your boy cry as a result of this punishment?

You mentioned you used a belt when your daughter was 11 while I remember your mother tending to use an open hand. Did you most often use an implement like that belt or were you more of a hand spanker?

I’m curious, what had your son done when he was 12 to earn that very last spanking? Was that punishment with a belt or by hand?

A quick break from the questions to quickly compliment you, because I love how you had a heart to heart with your daughter and told her that you did not ever want to spank her but you had no choice and would continue to do so if she gave you no choice. I like that you told her that it would continue to always be bare bottom no matter what, which I’m sure was a major deterrent for her for a reason you openly discussed with her: as she gets older it’s going to be a very embarrassing punishment. With older children like that, I think it’s appropriate to acknowledge the embarrassment factor because once they turn around 10 it becomes naturally embarrassing because they have developed a sense of modesty by then. If you had spanked your daughter completely clothed she likely would have been embarrassed as it’s an embarrassing punishment at the baseline, but enforcing a bare bottom spanking is a very powerful deterrent and makes for a very effective and memorable punishment, being both painful and embarrassing. This increases ten fold if other people are watching, particularly opposite sex witnesses. It leaves no doubt that both what they’ve done and what is now happening as a result is shameful. That being said, it seems spankings for your two kids were most often private affairs. Bottom line is if parents are going to spank they need to look their kids in the eyes and tell them they don’t EVER want to do it but will if they are left with no choice. Kudos to you on that.

Finally, if I still have you, I want to ask about you personally. When you were last spanked at age 15, what exactly had you done that made your mother spank you? Was it with an implement or by hand? Was it private or public? I’m drawn back to that public spanking you described in the store, I believe you were 7 at the time. I have a strong feeling that was not the last time you were given a bare bottom spanking in a public place in front of strangers. Am I wrong? If I’m right, how old were you the last time you experienced that type of punishment? Also, a very harsh element of that punishment was the fate of the two oldest kids. You remembered being embarrassed being spanked in front of those witnesses but I recall you saying the embarrassment the oldest girl must have felt must have been enormous and I completely agree given the context. I also feel especially bad for the oldest boy, as I’m sure as tweens those two kids had developed a significant amount of modesty by then, as your mother was no doubt aware, which was completely disregarded as part of the punishment. For goodness sake you remember the embarrassment you felt and you were just 7. I can’t remember if they were your older brother and sister or older cousins, perhaps one and/or the other, but I do remember the 12 year old girl was named Carmen. The oldest boy (I believe 11 years old) and Carmen had to wait while the 3 younger kids were given over the knee bare bottom spankings by hand, knowing they would soon be getting the exact same very soon, while they watched the crowd of strangers steadily grew, all of whom were going to watch them take down their pants and underwear and submit to a bare bottom hand spanking. Extremely humbling for them I’m sure. Extremely humbling for you all I suppose but most especially Carmen. Despite being the oldest, and a girl, your mother enforced her humiliation in front of over 30 people, and it seems that was no accident. Anyway I digress, because this incident has stuck with me ever since I read your post about it (a post that has disappeared into the void it seems). I really just have one question about it: was Carmen at 12 the oldest child you ever witnessed spanked bare bottom in a public place like that?

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