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Subject: Re: More Painful and Less Embarrassing, or More Embarrassing and Less Painful? Author: Ross [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 15:50:19 06/16/24 Sun In reply to: Rebecca 's message, "More Painful and Less Embarrassing, or More Embarrassing and Less Painful?" on 13:42:32 06/16/24 Sun Shame is an important part of a spanking. One should feel shame for the misbehavior. But was it really necessary to go this far? If you all just got the same spankings out of sight from one another, would you not have learned the lesson? Were you really bad kids who could only learn by seeing each other spanked naked, and then have to live with that shameful memory the rest of your lives? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> Subject: Re: More Painful and Less Embarrassing, or More Embarrassing and Less Painful? Author: Pamela Jane [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:25:49 06/17/24 Mon I responded to this thread on another forum. The embarrassment and shame of having someone other than mom and dad, which is bad enough, present cannot be emphasized enough. This happened to me and the embarrassment and shame is still strong as ever even though the actual pain of that spanking has long since faded. It was my uncle who was watching which was now close to a year ago. No, I still cannot oand will not face him. IN this case, he wasn't supposed to be watching which makes it even worse. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: More Painful and Less Embarrassing, or More Embarrassing and Less Painful? Author: Ross [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:31:08 06/17/24 Mon I'm sorry that happened to you. Spanking is a very interesting subject to me, but it's painful to read when people are emotionally injured by it. And having grown up with it, I know the feelings of shame run far deeper than they should when others besides mom or dad see the punishment. You really never forget it. Relationships can even be destroyed. I guess your uncle wasn't aware of the pain he was leaving you with. Most important, don't blame yourself. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: More Painful and Less Embarrassing, or More Embarrassing and Less Painful? Author: Pamela Jane to Ross [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:23:39 06/17/24 Mon THank you for the encouragement. I don't blame myself. Mom and dad didn't make sure the door was closed. It's just us three in the house so leaving the door open is no big deal, usually. It was an ovsesight. Mom and dad were upset with him. It's mom's brother. He knew he shouldn't be up there. He has apologized but still the embarrassment and shame knowing he saw EVERYTHING is just awful. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: More Painful and Less Embarrassing, or More Embarrassing and Less Painful? Author: Ross [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:13:00 06/18/24 Tue When I was a teenager, if a girl in the house was getting a spanking, I think I would have tried to sneak a peek if at all possible. It seems your uncle was acting immature, and maybe allowed his curiosity to cloud his better judgment. Maybe he saw more that he expected to see. In addition to your awful feelings, it is too bad he had to learn from his mistake and ruin any relationship he might have with his niece. I hope your embarrassment will fade over time, and that you will be able be around your uncle, but I know how shame can be too much to be forgotten. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: More Painful and Less Embarrassing, or More Embarrassing and Less Painful? Author: Pamela Jane to Ross [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:57:50 06/18/24 Tue Dear Ross, Actually, talking about this here is a big help. THank you for responding. I understand what you are saying. My uncle is in his early 50's so he isn't a teenager any more. He certainly allowed his curiosity to get the better of him. He knew darn well that I was going to be punished and he knew my parents spank because he and mom also were spanked. What he probably didn't know was that dad uses a leather strap and I get it on the bare so yes, he probably didn't expect to see what he saw. From what mom told me they were spanked in private in their rooms sometimes over underwear, other times on the bare. Grandpa had a wide leather belt. I think my shame will fade over time and I don't see our relationship as forever damaged. Like I said, he has apologized so he knows he messed up. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: More Painful and Less Embarrassing, or More Embarrassing and Less Painful? Author: Rebecca [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:33:37 06/29/24 Sat I don’t think spanking us in any way was actually necessary to teach us a lesson, but the adults believed it had to be done and my aunt and uncle were not afraid to make embarrassment part of the punishment. It’s true that I have this shameful memory for the rest of my life, but I do believe I got off easy with my spanking being by hand despite having my naked lower half exposed. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]