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Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Aunt Nat [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 19:58:34 09/30/24 Mon In reply to: Aunt Nat 's message, "Re: Cooking Tonight" on 03:31:43 09/30/24 Mon Wonderful night. As for the casserole, I wonder how it would be with ground beef. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:06:57 10/02/24 Wed I infer from your cheery, pithy description of the cooking night that you achieved your objective of increasing the bond with her. Were the talks limited to social chit chat or did she initiate more substantive communication? Did she evidence any nervousness about the scheduled session on Oct 8? One comment: you have not stated what behavioral objectives the two of you have established. The best objectives will be pass/fail because she will more readily understand and accept the need for discipline if there is a clear failure of some objective. For example, her desire to eat more healthily suggests a desire to be fit, which comes from exercise as well as diet. A program of exercise can easily have clear pass/fail criteria (e.g., jogging or walking 180 minutes per week). Perhaps I am preaching to the choir, in which case my apologies. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Aunt Nat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:12:45 10/03/24 Thu We talked about whatever she wanted to. We did not talk about her upcoming appointment on October 8. I'm not real sure what you're asking in the second part and some things just don't need to be detailed on here. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Concerning [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:11:33 10/03/24 Thu On Sept. 29 you posted a large number of questions seeking input/advice about exactly how to best carry out the spanking. I am cutting and pasting them below. What decisions have you come to? How do you now answer each question as to what you intend to do? "Questions; How do I do this? I'm starting to get cold feet, but I'm committed to this. Basically my intentions are to have a long discussion with her about her behavior, performance etc. Then turn her over my knees for a very long and hard hand spanking. Then use my hairbrush. Do I... Sit in a chair or couch? Do I tell her to pull down (or off) her pants and underwear or do I do that? Do we have our discussion with her pants on or off? I am determined that the hand spanking will be a very long affair that would be enough for the message to sink in, do I... Go immediately to the hairbrush or give her corner time in between? How many swats and how hard with the hairbrush? Do I put her in the corner after or do I cuddle and sooth her? Should I be so stern as to send her home or do I cuddle and mother her afterwards?" [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Aunt Nat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:37:30 10/06/24 Sun Unfortunately I haven't gotten much feedback from the experts. I believe I'm going to sit in a chair rather than the couch. I believe I will pull her pants down, but as someone suggested I will leave her underpants on for this first spanking. I believe I will have the discussion with her with her pants around her ankles. I believe I will spank her in several segments with corner time in between and finally a few good swats with the brush. I'm not sure how many swats I should give her. I hope for some input on that. I think after the hairbrush I will cuddle and sooth her and will keep her around a little while for bonding. I'm nervous as hell about this and almost want to back out, but I feel I've made a commitment and for her and my best interest need to do this. I've read with great interest Emmie Sue's most recent spanking and will use that as a guide. I hope to get more advice before doomsday. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Concerning [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:47:41 10/06/24 Sun Aunt Nat, it sounds like you have thought this out carefully and I understand your nervousness and caution. You do what you feel is best. I only take issue with dividing it up into several segments as I believe an authentic spanking is one good segment; first with hand then with brush; you could perhaps do her age in hand swats and then half her age in brush swats. Remember she kept saying to you "like parents do..." It would help to know her experience in that regard so you could use it as your guide. Please keep us informed! All the best to you. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:09:03 10/07/24 Mon 20 + or - hand slaps? That's hardly a spanking. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Wondering-supportive [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:42:51 10/06/24 Sun Your expressed reluctance to detail some things leaves your audience wondering. what will she be spanked for tonight? The severity of the spankings should reflect the offense(s) she is being spanked for. Using Emmy Sue as a guide as you state, she was spanked harshly but deserved it based on the mess she made and her seemingly indifference to it. So, what about your girl, guide yourself accordingly. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Concerning [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:22:37 10/07/24 Mon You have become a little too quiet. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:35:46 10/08/24 Tue You didn't back out did you Aunt Nat? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Aunt Nat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:42:34 10/08/24 Tue No I haven't backed out. I do have cold feet, however. Tonight is the night. She has earned a spanking and a good one. I guess I'll just wing it. I would like to know what Shelby (or anyone who has actually given disciplinary spankings) has experienced and how she separates play spankings from punishment spankings and how she feels about actually doing it. I'm sure the play spankings aren't hard to do, but being a disciplinarian is a whole nother headspace. I am excited, but also very apprehensive. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Aunt Nat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:44:26 10/08/24 Tue I will pick her up at 3:30 and take it from there. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Concerning [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:29:42 10/08/24 Tue Do you mind telling us what timezone you are in? A disciplinary spanking should be given with a FIRM demeanor, generally pleasant but not too nice as this is not a social event. My view on this first time is a spanking this stings like crazy but does not go on too long. I trust you have not agreed to any safe words. She needs to be able to trust you to set her bottom on fire but not go on and on. I hope this makes sense. Don't over think all this. She is counting on you to discipline her with the right attitude. If she senses nervousness on your part that might take the experience down a notch for her. So just "fake it til you make it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Aunt Nat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:01:55 10/08/24 Tue Having raised children I believe I'm a professional at keeping a demeanor. Those times when your kids do something naughty but hilarious and you want to laugh out loud, but keep a straight face, lol. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:45:41 10/08/24 Tue I suggest you make it totally clear that you will honor any safeword or hard limits agreement. You might want to read about Emmie Sue's experience with her Professor friend after she said that for a disciplinary spanking there are no safewords! It does totally change a relationship once the other person has administered a really firm spanking. I would suggest that you offer her the opportunity to stick around, be comforted, and even have supper together. The only warmth should not be just in her bottom. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Aunt Nat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:15:17 10/08/24 Tue We have not discussed a safe word and I don't believe for discipline there should be one. I wont overdo it but she is certainly going to be a sorry girl. Hopefully the emails over the next two weeks will be much improved. The 12 or 14 I've received shows she is not taking this seriously. I do appreciate her honesty though. I have grown very fond of this girl and see a great deal of potential. There will be much comforting, understanding and bonding on my part, you don't have to worry about that. My intentions are to have a long discussion, with the evidence, inform her of her spanking, pull down her pants myself and have another long discussion while she stands in front of me in her underwear. She needs to know that this is serious business. My intention is to start out slow for a prolonged period of time then give her a good hand spanking. I will definitely accentuate it with the hairbrush, but I'm not sure how many or how hard. I know not everyone cries, but that is my goal. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Concerning [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:22:00 10/08/24 Tue This sounds at least to me like an excellent approach. Will certainly be looking forward to your follow-up post here once it is done. So are you not willing mention your timezone? I understand; it's just that you said 3:30 but that could four hours from now or 7 depending on the area you are in. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: SJ [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:23:44 10/08/24 Tue Let's not kid ourselves, all punishment spankings between adults are really fun spankings. As I've mentioned before, no-one has a right to spank another, only a mutual choice. It's the degree of "fun-ness" that dictates how severe it is. If you are into it, you'll always find reasons to give a spanking or receive one. Indeed, I hope to meet Miss Norway again later next week, and have already warned her her bottom will be on the receiving end of a sound "punishment", but haven't thought up the reasons yet! One thing to consider Aunt Nat, what if the young lady genuinely resists your attempt to spank her? She has every right to. Will you go ahead anyway, or bow to her wishes? OTOH, if it goes ahead, I can't wait to read about it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Aunt Nat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:15:11 10/08/24 Tue I understand what you're saying. I think I will know, I hope I will know when the young lady realizes that this is serious and meant to improve her behavior and she is truly sorry. I won't go past that point. And I think I can tell pretty well when someone is faking it to get out of the consequences. This was basically her idea and she has agreed to it. If she puts up a fight and resist I will go no further, but if that's the case, the deal is off. I'll take her home and she's on her own at that point. I doubt I will completely turn her away, but it will show me that she is not taking this seriously and thinks it a big joke. I have the feeling that she embellished some of her emails to ensure a spanking. I HOPE that's the case. Knowing that, I will also take that into consideration. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: SJ [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:41:48 10/08/24 Tue Well said, you sound very fair. It's good you won't go OTT. Good luck, I hope you both get what you want out of it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]