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Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Aunt Nat [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 03:31:43 09/30/24 Mon In reply to: Aunt Nat 's message, "Not Sure About This..." on 12:08:14 09/19/24 Thu I've been wanting to try Tim Walz's Turkey Tater Tot dish and since we had so much fun with our lasagna I invited her over to help me with this. https://www.washingtonpost.com/recipes/tim-walzs-tater-tot-hotdish/ It's not about spanking or discipline or anything else, I guess it is about mentoring, but spanking aside I felt proud to teach her how to explore new culinary delights and to be self sufficient. She has also expressed having fun exploring new things and learning how to eat healthier and more flavorfully. Of course this isn't the healthiest dish, but cooking together is truly a bonding experience. If she wishes to talk she can talk, but I'm not going to push it. The main goal is bonding. I feel this will also help us both for when the time comes to turn her over my knees (and judging from her nightly emails that time is just a week away) it will be done with love and not just laying across a stranger's knees and getting your butt beat. That goes for both of us. I'm a genius, if I do say so myself. No, but seriously, I cherish the times when my son and/or daughter (sometimes my niece) cooked and sat down to dinner together. I didn't realize at the time what everyone was actually gaining from it, but it has become clearer to me recently. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: SJ [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:38:54 09/30/24 Mon Aunt Nat, as one who has had quite a lot of spanking experience, may I be allowed to enter my two pennyworh into this discussion? Firstly, what you have in mind to do to this young lady has little to do with punishment, maybe a little to do with mentoring, but mostly to do with sexual pleasure, however you dress it up. You have absolutely no RIGHT to spank her, it is your CHOICE, and presumably hers too. You admit to being very interested in spanking, obviously as you are on this site, you are just looking for the right opportunity. If you do go ahead, may I advise you build up slowly, especially if you intend to make it last some time. That's what I always prefer. You don't want to scare her with extreme pain before she's got used to the idea. Give her a number of firm smacks over her clothes to start with, enough so she feels it but can stand it. Then suggest that this is hurting your hand, so it would be better if her jeans be lowered or skirt raised. I think the question of underwear removal should be her decision initially. By all means suggest it, but don't force her. That can come in subsequent sessions. Build it up gradually and you'll be able go go on much longer, hopefully to your mutual satisfaction. Possibly introduce a hairbrush or something similar, but you need to have the option of increasing the severity in following sessions. Don't blow everything the first time. Definitely give her plenty of hugs and aftercare. You must convince her it is being done for her benefit, even though you both know that's only partly true. I hope to meet my "Miss Norway" again in a couple of weeks, and that's how I will go about it. I will tell her she needs to be "punished", but that is just the excuse we both want. At the venue I have in mind, there is a large array of implements to play with, so it should be fun. May I wish you the best of luck, and admit to being just a touch envious. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:47:36 09/30/24 Mon I think this is such a great idea. I want to reply to what SJ said. In your first statement I don't think you're right that Aunt Nat is only doing this for sexual pleasure. She surely didn't when she spanked her niece. I think it's part of it with this college girl, but the girl is the one who brought it up. From what I've read Aunt Nat truly cares about her and wants her to improve. She sure is putting an awful lot of unnecessary work into it when I'm sure the college girl would be satisfied just getting spanked by her. So, second, I guess that's kind of what Shelby is doing with me. After the play and real spankings in various forms of dress she's given me I'm sort of prepared for the real thing (but not really). But I think you gave Aunt Nat really good advice. Even know I would like to read about her getting her panties pulled down and paddled till she can't sit for a week. Aunt Nat, I cooked with my mom all the time and learned a lot. Sometimes I would rather have played games or watched tv, but we still had fun and talked and bonded. I did with my dad too, but he made these weird things like throwing whatever was in the fridge in a pot. It usually turned out disgusting and I refused to eat it, but he thought it was the best thing he ever tasted. I did learn to appreciate liver and onions though. Most people my age never did that with their parents and now they don't even know how to cook outside of ramen. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:35:34 09/30/24 Mon SJ: I have read your posts for years and have considerable respect for you. However, in this case I believe that your suggestions do not properly account for the facts. The young woman initiated the discussion about her need for discipline and then acknowledged that she wants that discipline to take the form of spankings. Aunt Nat then made clear that the spankings would be by paddle on a bare bottom. So the tentative approach that you suggest is misplaced and might even disappoint the woman. I have already expressed my view that the punishment should not be so severe as to discourage the young woman from continuing the process but that view in no way contradicts the need for a paddled bare bottom on Oct 8. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: SJ [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:44:40 09/30/24 Mon Ok, Emmie Sue, maybe not only for sexual pleasure, but I don't believe, if a prolonged spanking is given, be it hard or more gentle, that is no turn-on at all, its impossible. What anyone involved in spanking has is a bottom fetish. I am unable to watch a ladies tennis match without hoping their skirts ride up to reveal their shorts underneath. Viewing Strictly Come Dancing (Dancing with the Stars over your way) and not hope we see what the girls are wearing under their revealing costumes, is difficult. The buttocks are a true erogenous zone and should be worshipped (or do I mean horsewhipped lol?!) Gantard, thanks for your kind words. Although Aunt Nat has described what she intended to do, she did also ask for advice. For all we know, she did enjoy spanking her niece, that's a different discussion. I still maintain that a gradual approach will reap longer lasting benefits. One thing should always be remembered. Whatever is the relationship between consenting adults, the sub must ALWAYS be in at least partial control, or it could turn into an abusive one without realising it. It should only be severe if the spankee explicitly requests it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Aunt Nat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 19:58:34 09/30/24 Mon Wonderful night. As for the casserole, I wonder how it would be with ground beef. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Cooking Tonight Author: Gantard [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:06:57 10/02/24 Wed I infer from your cheery, pithy description of the cooking night that you achieved your objective of increasing the bond with her. Were the talks limited to social chit chat or did she initiate more substantive communication? Did she evidence any nervousness about the scheduled session on Oct 8? One comment: you have not stated what behavioral objectives the two of you have established. The best objectives will be pass/fail because she will more readily understand and accept the need for discipline if there is a clear failure of some objective. For example, her desire to eat more healthily suggests a desire to be fit, which comes from exercise as well as diet. A program of exercise can easily have clear pass/fail criteria (e.g., jogging or walking 180 minutes per week). Perhaps I am preaching to the choir, in which case my apologies. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]