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Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: Sarah [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 15:00:51 11/03/24 Sun In reply to: Karin_ven 's message, "Pro spanker or spankee" on 14:21:55 11/03/24 Sun I grew up being spanked and my parents and I had a great relationship I always knew I would spank my kids and now I have spanked grandkids I cannot think of a time I became pro spanking . I knew my spankings worked [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: JenniAnn [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:59:40 11/05/24 Tue I never become a pro-spank. Rather the opposite. I don't want any girl having to experience the harsh and humiliating spankings that I got from my parents. So I am indeed anti-spank. Having said that, I am a spanko and love hearing about other women sharing stories how they got spanked and how embarrassing and humiliating it was. Also like to hear, perhaps, how women, young or old, are spanked by their partners until they cry over the knees like babies. Just as I do if I get a punishment spanking from my husband. But I get spankings for pleasure as well and can reach climax from spanking alone with no other stimulation. But I do get depressed from hearing other mom's sharing how they spank their daughters bare bottom until they howl. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: Phil [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:10:12 11/05/24 Tue What is your relationship with your parents after you moved out? Ever confronted them on how they treated you? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: JenniAnn to Phil [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:18:20 11/05/24 Tue I never had a good relationship with them after I moved out. The spankings I got burned a scar in my soul that never will disappear. Yes I have tried to confront them but they think I am exaggeriting and says I got spanked just like most girls did, which I know is not true. My sister has a somewhat better relationship with them but she was affected as well. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: Phil [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:46:30 11/05/24 Tue Thank you for the answer. I'm very sorry to hear that. Hope I didn't open wounds and bring bad memories. I have a curious personality and ask a lot of questions. Like you, I'm anti-spanking as well. Sometimes I read similar stories of people where they go the opposite direction. How they have great relations with their parents, and no personal problems, despite their punishments or even because of it. Cannot say I can always believe them. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: JenniAnn [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:12:15 11/05/24 Tue No worries. I can't gain good stories if I don't share my own. And I don't mind talking about it, actually I think it helps in some ways to talk about it. I also have difficult to believe all of those claiming how much they benefit they had from being spanked bare bottom by parents. But those who had less severe or less humiliating spankings may experience it differnt of course. I can't tell how I would have felt had I been spanked less severely and felt less humiliation. And I know many were spanked harsher than I did. I only was spanked OTK with hand or hairbrush except from one time one I got it with a birch rod (worst ever!!). I have not experience the belt or paddle or cane from my parents. But they spanked very hard and for long so perhaps end pain was similar. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: Phil [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:06:15 11/06/24 Wed Noticed I replied to myself. It should've been here. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: Phil [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:17:36 11/06/24 Wed Glad you didn't mind, thanks. I agree talking can help in ways. Personally I do not have good stories to share. This wasn't a practice in our family. Which is why it does get uncomfortable sometimes when reading staunch pro spanking advocates. And how this apparently is the solution to most problems. Because whatever problems we might've had, and there were, which is normal. I know for a fact that physical punishment wouldn't have been the answer to them. But I'm not here to argue with people. Just to read and learn. I searched a birch rod (it brought a bundle of twigs) and it and looks painful. What was it for and why was it used only once? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: JenniAnn to Phil [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:29:24 11/07/24 Thu The spanking with the birch rod was extremely painful. I have never screamed like that in my entire life. (I was almost 16 at the time). My mom had gotten it when she grew up for serious offences and she suggested that I needed a birching after having participated in bullying another girl at school. So she prepared the birch while dad whipped my bare bottom while I was over his knee. The skin broke at several places on my bottom and I had dark red strips all over. I think they realized it was too harsh so they never used it again. This occassion was one of very few where I could agree I really deserved a spanking but not like this! This was the only time I also did the so called spanking dance after a spanking. I thought I was going to loose my mind while it was ongoing. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: Carol [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:21:30 11/13/24 Wed Both my parents have gone. But I still catch myself thinking about some of the unfair spankings I received as a child, and wishing I could confront my parent about them. But I know that whenever I tried to talk to my mother about her spankings when she was alive, she would just say "I don't remember that." I even asked her if she had *any* memories of spanking me *ever*, but she just avoided the question. My father had no memories of ever spanking me, although he did. He remembered spanking my younger sister, though, who was the strong-willed daughter in contrast to goody-two-shoes me. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: Ross to JenniAnn [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:37:59 11/07/24 Thu To JenniAnn: Thank you for sharing your story. You hated the spankings you got from your parents, but you like being punished that way by your husband, crying over the knee like a baby. I understand it can work that way for us spankos, but it's still hard to wrap my head around how something so hated can become desired as an adult. How do you relate your adult discipline to the spankings you received from your parents? Do you want your husband to take a parental role? Do you feel humiliated when you are punished like you were growing up? Are spankings fair, and do you believe you deserve them when you get them? Do spankings from your husband influence or modify your behavior? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: JenniAnn to Ross [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:35:00 11/08/24 Fri Hi Ross, good questions, I have difficulties to understand how one can turn something so horrible and hated into something positive. I have read that some psychologists suggest this is one way of trying to overcome a difficult experience like humiliating spankings into something desired. But not only this, my husband plays a big role here. I love him with all my heart and I feel the trust and love from him when he spanks me. Also, this was never a domestic discipline from the start. I have always loved sexual spankings and he spanked me as foreplay since we met. It slowly advanced to harder spankings trying new implements. I started to ask him to spank me hard at times when I felt I needed a good cry, sometimes for something I did but not necessarily. I wanted to lie over his knees and kick and cry. It made me feel better. Then one time when I really had misbehaved, he had had it and took me over his knees and started to spank me hard and long. I felt embarrassed and humiliated but in a positive way. Completely the opposite from how I felt after a parental spanking. After this occassion we both were in agreement that he could spank me as punishment. I hate the sting but I love the feeling afterwards when we cuddle and he is comforting me. So this is the story of my personal development within spanking. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: Ross [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:59:54 11/08/24 Fri That is very interesting and thank you, JenniAnn. You started your adult relationship with spanking only as a fun sexual activity with your husband. If you don't mind me asking, was he the one to push you into trying it, and you reluctantly found you enjoyed it? In many cases I've seen, if one was abused as a child, it is difficult to trust that spanking can also be a pleasant experience. And even as play, it can bring back unwanted memories. Did you have any inclinations growing up that spanking was special to you, and could possibly be a good thing under the right circumstances? From a very early age, despite my hatred of getting a spanking, I had a strange pleasurable fascination for the idea that I did not understand. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: Intrigued to JenniAnn [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:28:28 11/08/24 Fri I hope this does not seem like a bad question to ask but how many spanking did you typically get at, say, 16 (just randomly picking an age) and for each spanking how many swats did you usually receive and with what? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: JenniAnn to Intrigued [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:09:09 11/08/24 Fri There was no fix amount of swats and I lost count most of the time. They both spanked hard and fast for about a minute (my guess) so 40-60 hard slaps maybe? Dad mostly used his hand while mom mostly used the hairbrush. I think it was less from mom when she used her hairbrush so say 40-60 very hard wacks with dad's hand or 20-30 with mom's hairbrush. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: Intrigued to JenniAnn [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:11:06 11/08/24 Fri That is not terribly atypical. How many spankings like how often? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: JenniAnn to Intrigued [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:24:27 11/08/24 Fri Where I grew up in New England, it was not typical at all to be spanked in the first place. To be spanked bare bottom at 16 was certainly not the norm, very very far from. When I was younger I was spanked probably twice weekly. At 16 2-3 times per month. You should know that at least dad, probably both of them, enjoyed spanking me and my sister. I have told previously about I a time when sis got spanked over dad's knees at age 15. He spanked as hard and fast as he could and I saw how he was grinning while he starred at her bouncing cheeks. Realizing he did the same when spanking me was HORRIBLE. That for sure contributed to how I feel about my parents today and how they spanked us. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: Intrigued to JenniAnn [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:32:28 11/08/24 Fri I understand and see there were some unfortunate issues there. At least they were not any frequent. Did you deserve the spankings? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: JenniAnn to Intrigued [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:08:40 11/08/24 Fri There were of course times when I really deserved a spanking but I would say that 80-90 of the spankings I received were not justified. Many times I hadn't done anything wrong at all, they only though I did. Other times I got spanked for really minor things. Probably as a result of that they enjoyed spanking us. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: Janice [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 19:55:41 11/08/24 Fri JenniAnn, I'm sorry you suffered such spankings. I'm also estranged from my parents mainly due to spanking-related trauma. Getting spanked is bad enough, but realizing the adult(s) were taking pleasure from our pain/shame added a whole emotional whirlwind. For me, it was my stepmother, Jackie. She never spanked me but anytime she told my father to spank me, he did. And she always watched/participated and didn't hide her enjoyment. Sounds like you were spanked even more often than me, but from 10 - 16 at least once a month Jackie found reason to warn me "just wait until your father gets home." I remember being frustrated that I was so scared while my stepmom was so chippy. I'd be seething in shame my mind racing about my panties coming down for a spanking and Jackie would ask if I wanted to help her make some cookies? Now and then she'd drop a snide comment about "enjoy sitting while you can" or "make sure to do your chores before Dad gets home, you're already in enough trouble, Missy." Actually getting spanked in front of her was humiliating, especially in teen years, when she'd make sure I was humbled enough before it was over. We haven't spoken for decades and even though I do blame my father for going along with Jackie when she wanted to see me get spanked I still speak with him on the phone now and then. He's actually apologized for it but also makes excuses like "times were different back then." PS You mentioned feeling like the only 16-yr-old still spanked. I remember in middle school being so jealous of my friends who complained about being "grounded" but was too embarrassed to tell them to count their blessings because my behind was still sore from the bare bottom hairbrushing I'd suffered last night. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: JD to Janice [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 21:06:51 11/08/24 Fri Janice, I'm sorry this happened to you. Honestly, it sounds like Jackie was the one who could have most benefitted from having her bare behind blistered! As you've alluded to, your dad was not innocent either. SHAME on him for essentially putting someone else - ANYONE else, even a new love interest woman - ahead of his own children. Not to go too far down this rabbit hole, but I was divorced when my two sons were 9 and 12. My (now ex) wife and their mother, essentially abandoned the family when she and I were in our late 30s...so I raised them, primarily. I would NEVER have put any woman ahead of my own children, I don't care WHAT she had to offer, it would have been NOTHING compared to my children. Likewise, I had discussions with my closest guy friend, Pat, when we were both divorced (he's now remarried). I told him and he agreed, we would NEVER even date a woman who would EVER put US ahead of her own children because we'd know there was something seriously, fundamentally, wrong with her. This attitude doesn't make me some kind of heroic martyr or anything, just a dad who loves his children. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: Janice [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 19:12:48 11/13/24 Wed Thanks JD. Back when I was being spanked I struggled dealing with guilt/shame but I've realized none of it was my fault, although at the time I'd feel like I "deserved" my spankings. And my sexualizing spankings was a natural combination of coping/innate emotions. So I'm comfortable with my sexuality now but, as I said, I don't really have much contact with my parents. Much of my guilt came from my fantasies. I was very ashamed of spankings as a teenager when I knew my friends were no longer spanked. I was so jealous of them and would imagine them pants-down going over the lap. I especially felt guilty about Gina (13) who is a year younger than me and was my sister's best friend. It bothered me that Gina knew I still got spanked (my sister admitted it) but Gina never mentioned it and was only ever super nice to me. She was a pert bubbly cheerleader, popular and mature for her age. It seemed impossible that she had ever been spanked and I used to imagine what it would be like for her to suffer her first spanking - bare bottom and hard - like I got. She had a perfect bottom for it, picturing it red hot etc. But what got me going was knowing the emotional roller coaster Gina would ride at being bared and spanked. Miss Perfect would realize the extreme embarrassment of having her panties pulled down and the wicked sting of the spoon. She'd know how it felt to be bawling and kicking like mad the way I did when my buns were on fire. Later, I'd feel guilty at having such fantasies. I wanted MY spankings to stop, not for other girls to be spanked but when fantasizing my own spankings were too raw to deal with. Now days I'm curious about adult spanking relationships. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Pro spanker or spankee Author: JD to Janice [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:30:54 11/14/24 Thu Hi Janice, I really do "get" you...or so I believe. IMO, even AS MUCH as a spanking is obviously a VERY physical event, I have long maintained it is even more so, a psychological/emotional event. As far as "bubbly cheerleaders" go, I was friends with this drop-dead gorgeous, petite cheerleader ever since I was in middle school. Janet was unofficially "The School Princess," she was like royalty among the masses of we commoner other students. And similar to what you mentioned, she had just the CUTEST, pert little behind you could imagine, like it was just BEGGING for a good spanking - BUT - even though Little Princesses can be haughty and naughty, because of their station in life among the rest of society, they are way beyond such an embarrassing and humbling punishment! I think most every guy had love/hate feelings for Janet. "Hate" is probably too strong a word actually, but there are some people whom you really want to see get their comeuppance, just to let them know they are a mere mortal like the rest of us, subject to the same rules and consequences the rest of us are, not above them. Still, I know practically EVERY guy was in love with her, because she was just SO FREAKING ADORABLE looking. We thought that day had come when in the 6th Grade as Janet had somehow stoked the ire of our "rotating" Music teacher, "Mr. O." He came to our classroom twice a week for an hour, to teach Music. Our regular teacher, "Miss M," would leave the room while he was present. I honestly don't know what Janet did to set him off, but Mr. O became INFURIATED with Janet. He grabbed the paddle from atop Miss M's desk and strode right up to the front of the row of desk Janet occupied...she was probably like the 2nd desk back. He stood there STARING DOWN at her with fire in his eyes, as he slapped the paddle against his own thigh. I sat directly to Janet's left, I could see her beautiful blue eyes began to water up, her long eyelashes beginning to push a few tears down her reddening cheeks, her lips began to quiver. She looked every bit the "deer in the headlights!" Time stopped. No one spoke, including Mr. O or Janet. It was like a Mexican standoff that seemingly could go either way...either Mr. O was going to relent, or Janet was going to be paddled. I honestly had really ambivalent feelings about it. On the one hand, it would have been great to have seen Janet taken down a peg or two...not to mention the excitement of a really cute girl getting her cute lil derriere spanked...but OTOH, she was my friend, and I felt sorry for her in this predicament. And honestly, I didn't really like Mr. O very much at all...he could be a real d*ck. Mr. O blinked first, slowly turned and replaced the paddle atop Miss M's desktop, resumed the Music lesson again. I think Janet took a breath for the first time in more than a minute. Thank You for sharing! JD PS - The whole class finally did get to witness Janet getting one "surprise" hard SMACK across the seat of her miniskirt with a yardstick in 10th Grade Biology by Mr. L, and she was BEYOND embarrassed! But that's another story perhaps for another time. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]