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>Sarah, > >You mention seated corner time after a spanking. >That’s a new one on me: sitting on a sore, freshly >spanked bottom for reflection. Most corner time is s >done while standing? > >How long is the corner time? I know he went through >the spanking Time Machine, but did Jason get corner >time after his last spanking? That would be >embarrassing at that age. > > > >>Mark, >> >>This is really an interesting post. And I agree >>wholeheartedly, at least when the children get to be >>older, spanking also becomes even more psychological. >>I still feel it's important to make sure the spanking >>hurts, and hurts a lot, even when the child is older. >>However, I do feel just the impact of children knowing >>spanking is an option for them (at their older age), >>and especially if others are aware they are still >>spanked, is just as strong. If not even more so. >> >>As Mary made reference in her response, I touched on >>the aspect of embarrassment in regards to spanking in >>my reply to Pam's thread. A lot what I said there, >>applies here, as well. Where I don't go out of my way >>to embarrass the children, it really is inevitable >>when the children are older. And as I had indicated in >>my other post, it is a strong and effective means as >>part of the spanking process. >> >>Mark, in raising my own children, as well as spanking >>other children under my care (grandchildren, >>babysitting), I have done a number of your examples. >>I've used a few of them quite often over the years, >>most notably corner time and spanking in front of >>others. >> >>I usually have the child do seated corner time after a >>spanking so they can reflect on what they had done and >>what they can do next time to avoid in having to go >>over my lap. The corner time happens in the same room >>as the spanking took place. >> >>And as for spanking in front of others, it's not >>something I go out of my way to do. But it's also >>something I don't go out of my way 'not' to do, >>either. If the children misbehave in the living room >>or a public area of the house, I have never been a Mom >>(and now Grandma) that takes them to another room to >>spank. However, if we are in an area where we are >>alone and they act up, then I also won't take them out >>to the living room or public area to spank, either. >>Although, unfortunately for the kids more often than >>not they have acted up in situations where others have >>been present instead of misbehaving in private. I >>can't tell you the amount of times I've had to spank >>in the living room/dining room during family/holiday >>gatherings or just having company in general over the >>years. >> >>Mark, I wanted to comment more on your response to >>Mary. Where you brought up the psychological aspect of >>her choosing to put Scott over her lap instead of >>bending him over the sofa arm or the back of the >>chair. I can tell you, if Scott felt anything like my >>son Jason, he would have MUCH preferred Mary put him >>over the couch or his bed. >> >>As I said in my last post, from about the time he was >>12, Jason HATED that I put him over my lap every time >>I spanked him. He said it was "so childish". And of >>course it got worse for him the older he got, but I >>spanked him that way up until his last spanking, which >>he he was also nearly 20 years old. >> >>But as I said before, one of the main reasons I >>continued to always spank him over my lap was because >>of how much he hated it. And that it reminded him he >>was very much still my boy, that I was in charge, and >>he was not too old to have his bottom bared by me and >>turned over Mommy's knee for a sound spanking if his >>behavior required it. >> >>And I let him know that however much he wanted to >>think he was an adult, he wasn't. Especially when he >>was naughty and needed a spanking. And as always, if >>he didn't want Mommy to bare his bottom and turn him >>over her knee, then all he needed to do was behave. He >>was in complete control in that regards. But once he >>misbehaved and a spanking was needed, Mommy would be >>the one deciding on how it was done. Of course he >>never liked that answer, but he respected it. >> >>So was there embarrassment at that age for him? Oh >>yes, most definitely. The same applied for my girls as >>well in their late teens. Although I know it was worse >>for my son in being bared and spanked by Mom. But as I >>said, embarrassment is an inevitable aspect for the >>children in regards to spankings when they are older, >>so it was something they just needed to learn to deal >>with. But as I mentioned before, the embarrassment is >>also a strong and important part of the spanking >>process. And to be honest, I also view it as an added >>benefit as it just makes the spanking all that more >>effective for me, as well. >> >> >>Sarah
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