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>Madison, > >You won't get any disagreement from me on what a "good >and proper spanking" entails. It definitely should be >a memorable experience for the child. Not only in >regards to the sting and burn they experience, but as >you said, the psychological aspect of it, as well. > >I can tell you there are spankings my children still >relate to me about that I honestly don't remember >administering myself. Although they were certainly >very memorable to them, which was the important thing >as it likely helped them in avoiding another trip over >my lap when thinking about doing a similar situation >later on (as a child). > >How long ago was that talk with her? That really is >wonderful that Eliza has seemed to take that >discussion to heart as it was around a month ago when >you last spoke about it. That she hasn't needed a >spanking yet at 11 is really great to see. > >I feel you are handling it best in not spanking her >any differently than her brothers. There is no reason >to do so. I have always feel it is best to treat the >children as equal as possible in regards to >discipline. Age of course withstanding in regards to >level of severity. As I know you treat all of them >equally in love and affection, they need to see that >you treat them equally in regards to discipline, as >well. > >And that leads into my next part on your question of >modesty. Of course you should do what you feel is best >for Eliza, as you and your husband know her better >than anyone. However, in my belief of modesty, that is >a right, not a privilege. And they lose that right if >they have misbehaved and earned themselves a spanking. > >As I mentioned in my post to you last month, I have >always been a Mom that has spanked "there and then", >and now the same as a Grandma. I have never been one >to take a naughty child to another room to give them a >spanking for privacy. They were/have been treated the >same. My feelings are if they want to act up in front >of others, they lose the right to modesty and I >certainly have no issues spanking in front of others >if they want to misbehave in front of them. I will >find the nearest place to sit to put them over my >knee. And there was never any exceptions for age or >gender in that regard. > >There were many times my children saw one another >spanked over the years. As well as being spanked in >front of the extended family, close friends of the >family and even their own friends. When they wailed >"But they will seeee!" as I began to bare their >bottom, I told them "if you didn't want others to see >your spanking, then you should have thought about that >before <misbehavior why I was giving them a >spanking>." or simply "then you should have behaved." > >That said, I never made a point to spank in front of >others. Like if they acted up in their bedroom, and it >was just us two, that is where they were spanked. But >I never made a point 'not' to spank in front of >others, either. > >But it was like that with all of them, there were no >exceptions. So they knew it could happen with any of >them, at any age. So they never felt they were being >treated unfairly over one another, however much of >course they hated sometimes having their bottoms bared >and spanked where others could see. > >But in the end, do what you feel is most comfortable >for you and your husband for Eliza. However, I do feel >it would be best to treat her as equally as possible >to her brothers in all aspects, including on where you >administer her spankings. Will she be embarrassed? >Absolutely! But that is part of a good and proper >spanking, and as we have talked about, a lot of what >makes it a very needed memorable spanking for the >child. > >Please keep us updated on what you decide. > > >Sarah
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