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Date Posted: 09:31:01 06/19/24 Wed
Author: Veteran Mom
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Subject: Some ideas
In reply to: NotQuiteADanceMom 's message, "Milwaukee Area Schools" on 20:12:36 06/16/24 Sun

First of all, if your son is Oireachtas qualified, transferring now means he has to sit out because of the 6 month transfer ban. Keep that in mind looking for a good time to transfer. A lot of kids do that after Oireachtas, my dancer did and sitting that Feis ban almost made her want to quit altogether. She was only able to Feis once between O and Nationals.

Second are you looking to move because of the moms or because of your son? You mention first the moms are “mean girls” or “bullying” and then that your son is being “bullied”. Your initial post seemed more focused on your feelings. Remember that a lot of these parents have been friends for years and it is hard to break into those groups. And if both of you are experiencing this, you may want to think about your behaviors and your son’s as well as those around you. A lot may be miscommunication or social awkwardness. Talking to people rather than about them is key. Making friends is hard work, even harder as an adult. If your son is truly being bullied, talk to the teachers. I don’t know one teacher in the area that would let that persist in class.

Thirdly, looking at schools, a lot has been covered here about adults and teams. So I’ll throw in my two cents from my perspective. Trinity and Beglan are large schools. He’d be one of a number of dancers. So more chances to make friends, but more chances to be lost in the shuffle. Glencastle is also a larger and great if you want a fun dance experience without the pressure to be a worlds-level dancer, but few boys. Smaller schools were better for my dancer who wanted to be competitive. So that leaves the smaller ones, Bellator, Cashel, Kinsella, McNamara McCarthy, and Milwaukee, though MM is pretty big too.

Every school has their own vibe, based on the teacher and parents. This is an individual sport, a team sport, and a performance group. So each aspect is different and you need to see what your dancer wants out of their career in dance before you look at schools objectively. They all have their own strengths in each of these aspects.

If I had a boy dancer, I’d be at Bellator or Kinsella, they turn boys into champions.

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[> [> Great post -- Excellent advice, 10:56:48 06/19/24 Wed (NoHost/172.59.172.244)

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[> [> Good post but mean girls/moms are a thing -- You aren't wrong but...(more inside), 12:09:06 06/19/24 Wed (NoHost/184.105.111.53)

You wrote:
Your initial post seemed more focused on your feelings. Remember that a lot of these parents have been friends for years and it is hard to break into those groups. And if both of you are experiencing this, you may want to think about your behaviors and your son’s as well as those around you.

While none of this is wrong in terms of adapting, it still doesn't excuse the moms and mean girls from being mean...

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