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Date Posted: 19:24:11 01/17/05 Mon
Author: Joe Chung
Subject: Re: Need some serious advice
In reply to: Robert 's message, "Need some serious advice" on 17:32:07 01/17/05 Mon

>and was invited to attend this week's
>Sunday service

They seem pretty desperate for numbers, which is typical.

>and I was warmly greeted by everyone
>and pretty much they were were happy to see me and
>wanted me back, in particular Sam Zun who kicked me
>out in the first place.

Robert, did Zun even bring up the subject of your being summarily expelled without so much as a hearing?

>My question and position is
>this. I do not want to be back in that group, but I
>can't help but like I'm slowly getting sucked back in,
>so If I don't want back in. I'm still hurt over what
>happend to me, but what can I say or do That might
>allow me to state my position but not hurt them? Many
>of those people had nothing to do with me getting
>kicked out so I don't want to hurt/offend them?

A former member of the Arlington UBF may have been in a similar position. He brought it up here at http://www.voy.com/60734/6/7739.html .

>UBF
>can be very persuasive, so does anyone out there have
>any experience of leaving/ being expelled only later
>to have UBF try to bring you back in, especially maybe
>some of your old UBF friends, and what did you do
>about it?

UBF would love to bring people back in at any opportunity, with the possible exception of a few people who actively oppose them. To this day, there are people who claim to be "praying for me." Whenever they meet you, they will never neglect to invite you to their Sunday meeting. To UBF, those who left are wandering like prodigals. It would not surprise me if the Cinti UBF people saw you as just such a prodigal. Your showing up at their Sunday meeting would probably generate some buzz because to them it would be like a prodigal son returning. In fact, someone's "coming back" to UBF is the greatest joy for many in UBF; I've seen this happen with two or three people who reentered UBF. This is because in their eyes, someone "coming back" validates and vindicates UBF; they were right, you were wrong (they may not say that to your face, but that's what's in their minds). Don't give them the satisfaction. That's my advise.

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Replies:

Re: Need some serious advice -- Robert, 21:43:59 01/17/05 Mon

Re: Need some serious advice -- Joe, 00:10:32 01/18/05 Tue

Re: Need some serious advice -- Mike K., 07:19:15 01/18/05 Tue

how about this suggestion? -- Nick T., 08:36:46 01/18/05 Tue

Re: how about this suggestion? -- bruce, 08:48:48 01/18/05 Tue

Re: Need some serious advice -- Anonymous, 17:35:56 01/18/05 Tue

Re: Need some serious advice -- Tony Lang, 05:49:09 01/19/05 Wed