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Pat
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Date Posted: 09/27/06 8:37pm
Hi, Amz,
You express such uncertainty about what you want to do. When you are not absolutely certain, you shouldn't go through with it! Abortion is forever, and you can't take it back. Your baby is depending on you for your protection, and you are the only person who can protect your baby.
Let me tell you a little about the situation we faced. We had months on end with no income whatsoever, and the total time like this was about six years. And we had seven children to provide for. That's about as extreme as you can get, I think. But we survived, and no one ever went hungry, and we didn't seek help from the government. We were able to make it, and sometimes the help we got came from a very unexpected place. At the time we had all those children (two are adopted), we were financially secure. But things changed. And they can just as easily change the other direction. The point is, things don't stay the same. I think if we could make it, you can, too.
Our closest children were 14 months apart, and several were two years apart in age.
Another thing to keep in mind is that your daughter will suffer if you have an abortion. Either you will not be able to mother her as well, or she will sense something is wrong and feel insecurity, or she will find out what happened, and she will feel survivor guilt. She will be afraid that if she doesn't measure up, you will do away with her, too. And there is a chance you will be seriously injured or killed if you have an abortion. It is happening a lot more often than we're being told. Your daughter could lose her mother.
I echo the statements made by other women here. Our children are incredibly close. They are so close that they help each other when one of them is in need, to the point where they even live together to share expenses if need be, including the married ones. It's not easy, but they make it work. At one point, four of them and one wife were all in the same household. I have lost track of the number of different arrangements like this they have had.
Ask yourself some questions. You would be harming your daughter's sibling. Can you really do that? Should you have to harm your baby because you have financial problems? Could you choose adoption instead? If not, aren't you saying that your problem is temporary and by the time your baby is born, you would welcome him or her into your lives?
You have plenty of time to work out your situation. Think outside the box. Start thinking of ways you can improve your situation. I know one woman who was desperate, and a friend helped her find a better apartment that was cheaper and closer to work, and that solved her problem! Crisis pregnancy agencies are very helpful, and can help you plan solutions to your problems.
Please protect your baby.
We will be here for you no matter what. We will be praying for you, and we love all of you.
Hugs,
Pat
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