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Date Posted: 19:19:05 05/20/16 Fri
Author: Sue (thank you, Patti)
Subject: Quote from Patti

I know you all are probably getting sick of me posting so much lately, but Patti wrote this recently and it has stuck with me so strongly, I've read it dozens of times. I am analytical and always looking for "answers." I think it's something a lot of us do when a crisis appears out of nowhere and causes immense trauma:

"You said that you didn't want to move forward until you "understand". Stop. Stop immediately. That is completely unrealistic and simply not possible. None of us can ever "understand" this. We are not them. We did not choose to put ourselves in this situation as a result of our self-loathing, our families of origin, our societal and religious pressures. There is no way we can or will ever "understand". In the same way, our spouses, can never understand what this does to us."

This is extremely powerful advice. Thank you, Patti

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