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Date Posted: 20:30:33 05/22/16 Sun
Author: Sue
Subject: Re: And still nowhere
In reply to: Todd 's message, "And still nowhere" on 20:16:54 05/21/16 Sat

Ok, so if you'd never cheated on her at all, she'd be gay. You're doing what a lot of the rest of us have done to ourselves ... What if I'd been nicer, less critical, never called him/her a so and so when we got in that big fight, been more attractive, etc etc etc? It's all an effort to take control of the uncontrollable. That way we feel like at least we weren't completely hurt. If it's somehow our fault, it's just not as bad.

But end the end, here's the one irreducible, irrefutable fact -- our spouse is gay and there is NOTHING on earth we can do to change it. If you hadn't cheated you'd be in the EXACT SAME boat.

I've read your posts, Todd. You are a loving man. That's another reason you're looking to blame yourself.

Just stop. (Ha, I should take my own advice.) She's gay. She's gay. She's gay.

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