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Subject: lifelong discipline Author: Gisela [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 23:29:51 09/07/25 Sun Hi all, I already raised this point a few days ago in another forum (www.voy.com/249741/, Let's Talk Spanking), but when I read the discussions in the Baring The Bottom Questions Thread, especially the conversation between Alison and Anna, I thought it might also be interesting here. So I'm just posting it here again. I myself was raised in the strict manner by my father in the 1950s and 1960s. When I got married at the age of 20, my husband took over this task and continued to perform it conscientiously until his death four years ago. Of course, I was never happy when he ordered me to bend over the bed for the cane. But I never questioned his right to do so, and as a result, it gave us more than 45 happy years of marriage. Most of the time. But I am an old woman from a different generation with old-fashioned ideas. What interests me would be further thoughts on the subject of domestic discipline in today's times for adult women. Not only, but especially from you younger ones. Would you accept it? Do you perhaps even do it? In my generation, it was hardly a question, but so many certainties have been shaken today. So girls, what is your attitude towards this? And to all men, would you take on the responsibility of disciplining your wives accordingly, or is it more convenient to just let things run their course? I am looking forward to reading the results. Yours, Gisela [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: lifelong discipline Author: Deborah54 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:27:01 09/08/25 Mon I have been subject to strict discipline for most of my life. My parents, particularly my father, kept me in line until I went to college. After college, I married a man who is a strict disciplinarian. He continues to spank me to this day when he deems it necessary. I am not spanked as often as I was in the early years of our marriage, but my panties still come down for a spanking a few times a year. I am in favor of DD. I would recommend it to young women, but ultimately the choice is theirs. I recognize that times are different now. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: lifelong discipline Author: Ross M [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:52:29 09/08/25 Mon I would absolutely take on the responsibility of disciplining my wife, but only if she responded to it well. Although I have spanked my wife as a consequence for misbehavior, it was really foreplay for sex. She is not the type to accept a spanking as actual punishment that is not for the purpose of sex. But I would be a real disciplinarian if she was accepting of domestic discipline in our marriage. I do not require this in a relationship. I was also raised in the 50s/60s, but I believe in equal rights for women, including her right to choose to be independent. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: lifelong discipline Author: Alison [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:26:36 09/15/25 Mon i was spanked periodically as a girl, then a young teen, by my mom, who always did it, as she was alone as a parent after my father passed. She was introduced to my now stepfather when i was 13.. From the time they married, i was introduced to regular rules and punishment, and hearing my mom regularly punished in their bedroom, until i left the house, to move in with my fiance. My mother told me stepdad believed in a firm hand, and i found when i went to college, while i did not miss being shamed, bare and in pain, that i was not as "good" as i needed to be. i procrastinated, stayed out late, and my grades suffered. Something that was dealt with when home from college and my grades were known. i was introduced to my now fiance, at a church function. he is 5 years older than me, and after talks between him and my stepfather, it was made clear that once i moved in with him, that i would have rules, spot discipline for breaking rules, as well as a weekly maintenance session, known tongue in cheek as "date night" - while i dont look forward to it, i find i am a better fiance and adult with it in my life.. As stated earlier by someone, there are not many men who i would ever allow this from, and society does seem to still view this as kink or abuse.. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: lifelong discipline Author: Kevinbr4 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:47:54 09/27/25 Sat Greetings. Re this topic, I have experience. First of all, I believe that girls should be firmly disciplined regularly well into their 20's and beyond into thier adulthood. I have had many twenty something female friends that still get it at home. They make wonderful friends. They are mature and respectful. Some of us go back to the old Yahoo days. And I have had plenty of older women that still get it too. In fact, I mentor select women from time to time. All ages.Even seniors. Moms, wives, etc. I am a very firm disciplinarian for them. I even disciplined an elderly dying woman who wanted to get the hairbrush the way her Mom used to lovingly give it to her. I believe that with love, many women of all ages do very well with domestic disciplining. It can be very emotionally and physically bonding. I have close friends with whole families where all the older daughters and the Mom gets it regularly. Of course it is not for every young lady. I'm not saying this. But if I/we had daughters, yes, they would be. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: lifelong discipline Author: Gisela to Kevin [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:21:58 09/28/25 Sun Of course it is not for every young lady. I'm not saying this. Perhaps it really isn't for all young ladies. But the crucial question is who decides that. In my life and my social circle, the girls and women who were disciplined weren't asked. It would be downright absurd to ask the person being punished whether she agrees to the necessary punishment. Even though, in my experience, you would surprisingly often hear a "yes." But that was decided by men. Their fathers, and later their husbands. That may sound terribly old-fashioned, but I think it's exactly right only this way. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: lifelong discipline Author: stephany [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 19:06:25 03/25/26 Wed I'm 21, living at home and still punished with the cane. Never asked if I wished this, but I think I need it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: lifelong discipline Author: Kev [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:10:35 04/13/26 Mon Hi Stephany. Sweet. My Dear Mom used her cane/rod on her five girls until they were around age 19, and left home. BTW. All the girls did just fine. Had nice families, etc. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: lifelong discipline Author: Kev [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:06:14 04/13/26 Mon Hi Gisela. Oh yes, the young ladies do consent to this. For example, older girls who want to return home, but must agree to be disciplined under the While living under our roof rule. Most older girls agree, and even say that it helps them with bonding and thier behavior. I have had so many of these 20 somethings for good friends. Even older women. (I mentor select women from time to time). Most all of them are in consent. Trust me. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: lifelong discipline Author: Kevinbr4 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:33:42 09/28/25 Sun Interesting. As you mentioned, many will say yes. So no crucial question. For most 20 somethings, true. The parents have decided to continue the young ladies disciplining. However, I know many young ladies who have moved back home and have agreed to being disciplined again. So you can't say that it would be crazy to expect someone to agree to be punished. Furthermore, I know plenty of families where the Moms and the 20 something daughters WANT this For their family. Even with my spanked children friends on here, they all share with me that they want to have strict parents. Just not at spanking time. So I think that yours views on this subject are very old fashioned, as you mentioned. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: lifelong discipline Author: Platinum Ice [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 20:41:41 09/28/25 Sun Well, I wouldn't allow any man to touch me without my permission. Light, playful spanking might be acceptable between consenting partners, but anything else would be a violation. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: lifelong discipline Author: Gisela to Platinum Ice [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 02:05:27 09/29/25 Mon Thank you very much for your honest opinion, Platinum Ice. And technically speaking, you're certainly right. But I've been comfortable my whole life with my husband imposing punishments for my behavior without asking for my consent. I suppose it's a question of character and, in my case, upbringing. Being punished also means also handing over responsibility for your own behavior to your disciplinarian. The punishment (whether actual or only potential) balances the account for you personally, so that you no longer have any guilt in this regard. At least, that's how it has always worked for me and it has given us 45 very happy years of marriage. I know that this won't be the solution for many women — but it was for me. Warm regards from Switzerland — Gisela [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: lifelong discipline Author: Ross M [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 20:03:36 09/29/25 Mon If you choose to allow your husband to punish you, then it is consensual, and who's to say you should not accept it? If you didn't want the relationship, you would not be here saying you are happy. The problem for a husband is that, he better be sure his wife is okay with being physically punished. If he simply makes an assumption that doesn't bear out, it could be assault and battery. Though I'm into domestic discipline, the conditions must be negotiated before implemented. Once we know how things are supposed to work, then there is no need to ask for punishment. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Domestic Discipline Chat Author: Diana [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:19:02 03/26/26 Thu I grew up with spankings and am still spanked. I went from being spanked by my parents to being spanked by my husband. Please join us at Domestic Discipline Chat to discuss adult spankings. The url is: https://www.voy.com/251358/ [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: lifelong discipline Author: Scott (To Gisela) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:22:10 04/04/26 Sat I think there are certain women for whom lifelong discipline makes sense. The lucky ones understand this and seek out discipline from their husband or other trusted individuals. I have mentored a number of women, mostly unmarried and on the younger side, who want strict discipline to address troublesome behaviors that they struggle with. Generally, these women find self-discipline to be ineffective and desire discipline like they got (or should have gotten) growing up. As an experienced father of now grown girls, I am happy to help my mentees out as best I can. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: lifelong discipline Author: Brenda (to Scott) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:35:26 04/05/26 Sun I agree that lifelong discipline is appropriate for many women. I happen to be one of them. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: lifelong discipline Author: Al [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:23:29 04/05/26 Sun I've mentored too, Scott. It's a pleasure to help young adults and amazing how many can still benefit from correction. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]