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Subject: Re: Do you think most kids are spanked bare bottom?


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Gary Steven
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Date Posted: 22:16:08 06/08/24 Sat
In reply to: Laura 's message, "Do you think most kids are spanked bare bottom?" on 10:41:51 05/01/24 Wed

Mom did most of the spankings when I was growing up and she always spanked our bare bottoms. I was fifteen last time she spanked me. I also spanked my children bare bottom. My daughter got her last spanking at eleven and my son at twelve.

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Gary Steven
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Date Posted: 22:20:08 06/08/24 Sat

I'm sorry, I didn't fully answer the question. When I was growing up, most of the kids I knew got bare bottom spankings and home and sometimes at school. I found out many of my children's friends also got bare bottom spankings.

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Date Posted: 22:33:23 06/08/24 Sat

Hi Gary, I have a question about the time period you grew up in and how that affected your own parenting. You punished your children with bare bottom spankings until they were 11-12 while you received your last one at age 15. Why did you not spank them into their teen years like you were?

You once wrote of a bare bottom public spanking you and 4 other kids in your family received in a store. I’m curious if your own children have ever been spanked by you in front of any onlookers including each other. I’ve always wanted to ask you if the way you were punished growing up significantly affected the way you disciplined your children as a parent.

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Gary Steven
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Date Posted: 07:22:20 06/09/24 Sun

I didn't like spanking my kids and for the most part they were good kids. There were times I felt a spanking was necessary and like my mother, I always did it bare bottom. There were rare times that my kids misbehaved in public and that resulted in a quick trip to the bathroom or other private spot where I did pull their pants down and spank them. Onlookers at that time weren't as open minded about corporal punishment as they were in the 60s and 70s. When I was growing up, people really didn't give a second thought to a parent spanking a child bare in public. But that has changed. Also, it was pretty humiliating as a child to have my bare butt spanked in public. Which was part of the punishment. They were however, spanked in front of each other and family and once or twice in front of friends. I spanked my son a few times when I went to pick at the sitters I had. One of my sitters had a boy his age and they had gotten into some trouble. I gave him a spanking bare, in front of her and her son and when I finished my sitter asked me to pull her son's pants down and spank him too. Also, I was fifteen when I got my last bare bottom spanking from my mom, and was threatened with it several times after until I finally moved out. From the time I was eleven until my last spanking at fifteen. I wasn't spanked as often. Maybe three or four times a year. With my own kids, they averaged three or four spankings a year even when they were younger. The most I gave my son was six in one year when he was eight and my daughter five when she was eleven. There were other punishments I could use and I reserved spankings for certain behaviors. The last time I spanked her, she had been to a friend's house and came home well after dark. I told her to be home before it got dark. So she was already in trouble. She knew she could have called to let me know she was going to be late and I wouldn't have been as upset and there probably wouldn't have been any punishment, or maybe just restriction. But she didn't and when she came home she actually argued that it wasn't dark, which it was. Plus telling me I was being unfair to her and so forth. I decided a spanking was in order. So I made her pull her pants and panties down, lean over a chair in the kitchen and I gave her eleven swats with a belt I used specifically for spanking. Plus an extra four because she argued with me. After the spanking, I sat her down and told her. "You know, I think you are really too old to have to get a spanking and I don't like being put in a position of having to do it. But as long as you keep doing things you know you will get spanked for, I will keep spanking your bare little butt, and that's going to get real embarrassing as you get older. You're a smart girl and you need to make a choice. Because I will keep spanking you as long as I feel you earned it." That was the last time I ever had to spank her. She still got restrictions and even the threat of a spanking on occasion, but I never had to do it again. It was basically the same with my son. I told him the same thing when after I gave him a spanking at eleven. I only had to spank him one time when he was twelve and then never again. There were times he also got threatened but I never had to do it. My kids are now awesome adults.
I hope I sufficiently answered you're quedtions. Please feel free to ask me anything else.

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Date Posted: 12:45:31 06/09/24 Sun

You did answer my questions sufficiently and I appreciate you being open to more questions because I certainly have plenty of them. Answer whatever you feel like at your own leisure.

You exclusively spanked your children bare bottom the same as your own mother. Were your reasons for this the same as hers? That being said, you never spanked outside of the family or family friends including sitters it seems. If attitudes toward this type of punishment were still positive, do you think you would have spanked your children publicly in front of strangers? You openly acknowledge that it was very shameful being spanked bare bottom in public and a very important element is you say this was a deliberate part of the punishment your mother inflicted. Did you want to spare your boy and girl that element of humiliation you experienced in your upbringing?

What was the age gap between your two kids? Were they close in age or far apart? How old was your son the last time his sister witnessed him get a spanking? How old was your daughter the last time her brother witnessed her? The last time you spanked them at age 11 and 12 I am assuming they were not private, but you belted your daughter in the kitchen where her brother may well have also been, and while it appears you had no explicit goal to embarrass them you did spank them in front of each other and in front of other people. You no doubt knew this would be very embarrassing for them, but was this in any way a deliberate part of the punishment like what you experienced or more of an unfortunate coincidence for the youngsters? What age was your son when you gave him a bare bottom spanking in front of his friend’s mom? Did you use an implement or was the spanking by hand? Almost a rhetorical question but, did your boy cry as a result of this punishment?

You mentioned you used a belt when your daughter was 11 while I remember your mother tending to use an open hand. Did you most often use an implement like that belt or were you more of a hand spanker?

I’m curious, what had your son done when he was 12 to earn that very last spanking? Was that punishment with a belt or by hand?

A quick break from the questions to quickly compliment you, because I love how you had a heart to heart with your daughter and told her that you did not ever want to spank her but you had no choice and would continue to do so if she gave you no choice. I like that you told her that it would continue to always be bare bottom no matter what, which I’m sure was a major deterrent for her for a reason you openly discussed with her: as she gets older it’s going to be a very embarrassing punishment. With older children like that, I think it’s appropriate to acknowledge the embarrassment factor because once they turn around 10 it becomes naturally embarrassing because they have developed a sense of modesty by then. If you had spanked your daughter completely clothed she likely would have been embarrassed as it’s an embarrassing punishment at the baseline, but enforcing a bare bottom spanking is a very powerful deterrent and makes for a very effective and memorable punishment, being both painful and embarrassing. This increases ten fold if other people are watching, particularly opposite sex witnesses. It leaves no doubt that both what they’ve done and what is now happening as a result is shameful. That being said, it seems spankings for your two kids were most often private affairs. Bottom line is if parents are going to spank they need to look their kids in the eyes and tell them they don’t EVER want to do it but will if they are left with no choice. Kudos to you on that.

Finally, if I still have you, I want to ask about you personally. When you were last spanked at age 15, what exactly had you done that made your mother spank you? Was it with an implement or by hand? Was it private or public? I’m drawn back to that public spanking you described in the store, I believe you were 7 at the time. I have a strong feeling that was not the last time you were given a bare bottom spanking in a public place in front of strangers. Am I wrong? If I’m right, how old were you the last time you experienced that type of punishment? Also, a very harsh element of that punishment was the fate of the two oldest kids. You remembered being embarrassed being spanked in front of those witnesses but I recall you saying the embarrassment the oldest girl must have felt must have been enormous and I completely agree given the context. I also feel especially bad for the oldest boy, as I’m sure as tweens those two kids had developed a significant amount of modesty by then, as your mother was no doubt aware, which was completely disregarded as part of the punishment. For goodness sake you remember the embarrassment you felt and you were just 7. I can’t remember if they were your older brother and sister or older cousins, perhaps one and/or the other, but I do remember the 12 year old girl was named Carmen. The oldest boy (I believe 11 years old) and Carmen had to wait while the 3 younger kids were given over the knee bare bottom spankings by hand, knowing they would soon be getting the exact same very soon, while they watched the crowd of strangers steadily grew, all of whom were going to watch them take down their pants and underwear and submit to a bare bottom hand spanking. Extremely humbling for them I’m sure. Extremely humbling for you all I suppose but most especially Carmen. Despite being the oldest, and a girl, your mother enforced her humiliation in front of over 30 people, and it seems that was no accident. Anyway I digress, because this incident has stuck with me ever since I read your post about it (a post that has disappeared into the void it seems). I really just have one question about it: was Carmen at 12 the oldest child you ever witnessed spanked bare bottom in a public place like that?

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Date Posted: 19:20:32 06/09/24 Sun

To answer the first question first, I spanked bare for the same reasons my mother did. First, the embarrassment of being spanked bare, lasts longer than the pain. Especially if witnessed by others. Second, you don't have to hit as hard to get your point across. When you spank over clothing, you have no real idea just how much damage is being done. I have seen photos of children who were paddled at school over clothing and there was massive bruising and even worse. You can be hitting a lot harder than you realize or you might be having little or no effect at all. On bare skin there is no doubt. Third you can tell by the effect when you have done enough. When the bottom is a bright shade of pink that's all you need to do.
Next question. No, I didn't spank my children in front of strangers. Public spankings were done in the restroom, car, or other semi-public location. You never know about the stranger watching you spank your kids. In this day and age it might be someone who wants to report you for abuse or on the other hand it could be a pervert wanting to post pictures on the dark web. At home was a different matter. My kids were not bashful about their bodies and often saw each other undressed, so there was no real reason to make spankings at home private. There were also times they misbehaved together and got spanked together witnessing each other's spankings.
Next, my children are four years apart in age.
Next, the spanking I gave my son in front of the babysitter and the one I gave her son at her request was given with a plastic paddle shaped cutting board. I gave them three swats each over my knee. Yes they teared up some and their bottoms were a little pink. But no real damage other than hurting their pride a little.
I spanked my kids mostly by hand throughout their childhood. There were times I used implements such as a small leather belt, a paddle or hairbrush. I was always a little tentative about using implements because I didn't want to leave bruises or welts. It's funny but both of my kids preferred that I use the belt or paddle instead of my hand because I hit harder with my hand than with the implements. My son's last spanking was ten swats with a paddle. He had earned a detention at school and like my mother I believed, if you get in trouble at school, you get in trouble at home. He took it better than I expected and later told me he was glad I didn't use my hand. My mother used her hand from the time she started spanking us until about age seven. That was the first time I remember her using a hairbrush on me. As we got older, instead of her hand, she usually used a flyswatter, hairbrush, "cute little deer" paddle or a belt.
My last spanking, That was given with a flyswatter. My sister who was ten at the time and I were both two hours late coming home and missed dinner. We hadn't told mom where we were going and she was not happy. When we walked in, she chewed us out pretty good then pulled a chair away from the table. She made my sister pull her shorts and panties down and lay across the chair. She raised up her oversized T Shirt and wore her out the with flyswatter. Karen kicked and bawled her eyes out. And I admit, I was pretty anxious standing watching and waiting for my turn. When she let her up, she didn't even bother to pull her clothing back up, she stood bawling and rubbing her red behind. Then it was my turn. I was told to pull my pants down and bend over. I guess an act of defiance or stupidity, I only pulled my pants down. Mom pushed me over the chair, and began spanking me over the seat of my underwear. My underwear offered no protection at all. She stopped, dragged me up and informed me that when she tells me to pull down my pants, she wants to see my bare ass. then told me to drop em. Once my bottom was bare, I was bent back over the chair and she wore me out again. It was very uncomfortable sitting on those hard wood chairs eating our dinner cold after she got done with us.
The spanking in the store you asked about was in a Sears and I was eight at the time. We were totally off the chain that day acting out in public and we all knew better. In fact we were reminded of the last time we acted up in public just a few months before in another department store. On that day, mom took us out to the car and one at a time our bottoms were bared and we went over her knee. Then five crying kids had to sit in the back seat on that warm day with burning bottoms and wait until my aunt and grandmother finished their shopping. While were sitting in the back, my mother turned around and told us, "If you ever act like that again in public, I will pull down your pants and bust your bare butts in the store, right in front of God and everybody." Having heard that threat and experienced such a spanking in the past, I knew it was no empty threat. That day a few months later, we actually were behaving ourselves.... for a while. But my cousins, Carmen and her brothers, started acting up with Carmen being the ring leader. It wasn't long before my brother, who was the eleven year old you asked about, got into the act. I finally gave into the peer pressure and joined in on the "fun". It was about that time, that mom caught us and "the party was over". She took us back to the Shoe Department and sat in a chair and repeated the statement she had made only a few months before. Then she made my youngest cousin Jimmie who was six, bare his bottom and turn over her knee and wore him out. I was next since she went from youngest to oldest. I am not ashamed to say I was crying before my pants came down, and got to hear that famous line, "I'm gonna give you something to cry about." and she did too. Then my cousin Robbie who was nine was next and the crowd started to gather around at that point. My brother Rodney who was eleven was next and Carmen was the last one to get spanked. She had just turned thirteen a few weeks before this event. So yes, it had to be especially embarrassing for her as a newly fledged teenager to turned her aunt's knee and have her bare bottom spanked in front of a mostly approving crowd. She probably put up the biggest fuss, crying and kicking as mom spanked her. I could have had more sympathy for her, had it not been for the fact she was indeed the ringleader. Unfortunately for the five of us, the story didn't end. We were told we were getting another spanking when we got home and once we got to my grandmother's house we were all made to strip from the waist down. My mother spanked my brother and me with a flyswatter and my aunt gave each of her kids ten licks with their father's belt.
I vaguely remember there was one more time after that, mom spanked my bare bottom in public, but at the moment, I don't remember where it was or what it was for.
But as far as bare bottom spankings in public go, I also at age eleven, did get a bare bottom spanking at school in the empty classroom from one of my teachers.

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