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>Hello Isabella and everyone. I hope I do not intrude >posting here. I am a mom to two daughters, and I do >believe in a strict discipline. Spanking is the main >method of disciplining our daughters who are 9 and 13 >years old. Other than that, we endorse them with as >much love as we can muster. > >I have tried to put myself in your sister’s shoes, >thinking about the best way to deal with Julia who has >not been properly spanked yet. I do agree with your >judgment here. The girl needs to be spanked, and when >I say spanked, I mean her bottom needs to be glowing >red afterwards. > >If it was up to me, I would have scheduled a time, >preferably at the evening and have a discussion with >Julia. I would have chosen her bedroom, as the safest >place to break down the news. It would have been >something completely new to her, and I think it would >have been crucial to make her first safe and loved. > >I would have touched on her overall behaviour, and the >fighting incident. It would have been a long >discussion. But, not in the format of just scolding >her. At 9 Julia is completely capable to be reasoned >with. She would have understand why her behaviour >cannot be tolerated any longer, and why mummy has to >make a change to her punishment. > >Then I would have told her that from now on she will >be submitted to spankings as her main form of >discipline. I would have not told her the details yet, >to not overwhelm her thoughts, and scare her. A bright >girl she surely is she would have probably be denial >at first, she would have been crying, or trying to run >away. I believe it would have been best to embrace her >deeply in those moments, without yelling, nor fighting >with her over it. Julia would have needed time to calm >down and accept her new reality and mother’s embrace >would have been the safest place to do it. > >Next, I would have stood Julia in front of me, between >my thighs, and I would have said that mummy is going >to make you ready for spanking. I would have asked her >not to move, and to follow my instructions. I would >have been considerate and gentle about taking off her >pants, and panties for the spanking. If she would have >tried to stop me or would have taken a hold of her >garments, I would have explain her again the new rules >and ask for her cooperation. I believe that it will be >a true test for her mother to keep her cool head in >this situation. Julia has to feel that mother is in >control of the situation. It has to be done in a >calmly manner, without fighting or having a tug of war >over her panties going down. I truly believe that love >to our child is ever persistent, even, or foremost, >during preparing the child for a spanking. > >I would have taken down her garments and asked her to >step out of them. I would have taken a moment to fold >her clothes and put them away, and I would have also >retrieve my previously prepared Lexan paddle. I do >prefer small lexan paddle over wooden paddles, and >hairbrush. Simply because it is light weight, and it >does not bruise the bottom. I believe the spanking has >to be long and hard to be effective. The paddle >specifically made for that purpose seems like a >logical choice to me. > >I would have then asked Julia to my right side, and I >would have led her over my lap. For Julia it would >have been the very first time being spanked. I would >have not trusted her to keep hands away from her >bottom nor stay in place. To make sure the spanking >would have been done in a secure way for Julia, I >would have taken her right arm, and I would have >pinned it to her back. It would have been much easier >now to control her body movements and keep her in >place. > >I would have started first with a hand spanking. Julia >is already 9 years old, even if it would have been her >first spanking I would have not shown her any >benevolence. I would have warn your sister that Julia >will say anything, and I mean anything to make mummy >stop spanking her. No matter how much Julia would have >been crying, begging me to stop I would have not >stopped until I would have been satisfied with results. > >Now let us talk about the results. With the hand >spanking I would have spank her for about 5 minutes, >non-stop. Also hard, from the first smack. When I >spank my children, I do it in a way I know they hate >the most. Meaning that my hand is traveling around >their bottoms. Many times, overlapping with previous >smacks, building that heat, and slowly moving all >around the bottom and top of the thighs. I would have >done the same for Julia. She would have been crying >lustily, saying everything to make mummy stop spanking >her, and I would have told your sister again, just how >important it is to resist her daughter’s wishes and >continue with the punishment. I would have also warned >her that soon she would have stopped asking and she >would have start whimpering and howling from the pain. >It is all to be expected, and everything is fine. A >good indication to reassure your sister that she is in >fact not harming her daughter in any way would have >been to point out the fact that she can see her naked >bottom all the time. It would have just gotten pink, >then a bit red, reddish, darker red. No harm done at >all, it would have all faded away the next day or two. > >Once that portion of the spanking would have been >over, I would have swiftly continued with the paddle. >I hope that the first swat of the lexan paddle would >have been an eye opening moment for Julia. I believe >she have never felt so much sting and pain in her >entire life, and that would have been just a single >stroke. The second portion of the spanking would have >followed exactly the same as the first. Another 5 >minutes with the paddle, non-stop. Julia’s bottom >would have turned deep crimson by the end of it, and >she would have completely lost it. Crying, yelling. It >would have been a final moment of the spanking, and >most important to follow through with. > >After the spanking would have been done, I would have >spend a lot of time soothing Julia in my arms. My >children usually jump at me with her legs to my sides, >and their crying faces buried in my chest. I believe >that the first soothing session would have been even >more important than the spanking itself. Julia would >have needed to be loved, and she would have needed a >lot of time in my embrace. > >I also thought of doing something more for Julia to >cope with her first difficult spanking, and to give >Julia and her mother a bit of bonding time. Julia is >just 9 years old. Exactly as my daughter is. I believe >she is not too old for mummy to present her with a hot >bath in milky water to help with the stinging bottom. >It would have been a kind gesture, and reassurance of >love. > >I would have called my husband to prepare a bath, >still holding Julia in my arms. Then I would have >lifted her gently and carry her like a little princess >to the bathroom in my arms, slowly lowering her sore >bottom in the water. I would have wash her, have a >little fun with her hair, I would have also give her a >lot of tickles while washing her body. I would have >also used this occasion to talk with her some more. Of >what was to come, and I would have imposed her with >clear rules and new boundaries. Finally saying that >mummy would have spanked her again, and again if she >had kept misbehaving. > >I would have rolled her tightly in the fluffiest of >towels, and I would have carried her back to her >bedroom. I would have laid her on the bed, and I would >have help her dry. Again, I would have given her lots, >and lots of giggles and hugs. I cannot stress enough >how important this part would have been for Julia, to >feel loved and forgiven. > >Finally, I would have taken a gown or a night shirt >from her drawers and I would have helped her get >dressed for the night. I believe that Julia is not too >old to finish her day by reading her favourite book to >the bed. She is just 9, and it would have been another >lovely gesture to build up your bond. > >With that I would have soothed Julia to bed, and it >would have been over. In the morning, I would have >inspected her bottom to check for anything suspicious >going on, and from there only time would have shown us >if Julia had understood her lesson. > >I would have also warned you sister, that she would >have to be consistent in spanking her daughter. Clear >rules, boundaries and the promise of harsh spanking is >a great recipe for well-behaved child. > >I hope it will all go well, and please update us on >Julia.

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