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| Subject: Belt spanking | |
Author: Loran [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 10:12:11 08/25/23 Fri Hi. I mentioned in another post that my husband occasionally spanks and he now uses his belt across my oldest son’s butt. For these spankings my son bends over the edge of his bed. Are there other parents reading that also spank with a belt and what position is used? |
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| Subject: Stepdad spankings | |
Author: Skylar [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 09:51:25 11/06/23 Mon Hi there. I’m Skylar and in high school. Three years ago my mom married my stepdad and he does most of the punishing of me. That punishment is sometimes a spanking but I don’t think he should be doing it. It should be my mom if she thinks I need one but she is letting him do it. What do you think? |
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| Subject: Intro | |
Author:  Pascal[ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 15:10:25 12/22/23 Fri Hello, I am Pascal, I am 18 years old and I have two brothers, Rich and Alain. My language is French but I also know Spanish and French Feel free to talk to me.. |
| Subject: Reports of Correction | |
Author: Kristina [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 17:43:06 12/20/22 Tue This thread is for sharing reports of correction/discipline you have to give to your children |
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| Subject: Karen's into and HOH question | |
Author: Lorica [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 11:02:23 08/24/23 Thu I have found this interesting group and in the introduction thread I read, from Karen, "I just got married in the Church Brad and I attend we are a very strict church we believe in the husband being the head and spanking the wife if needed . I went from my dad’s authority to my husband we are both 18 and were spanked growing up my dad used a belt his dad a split tail strap . We are both attending college in the same town" My husband and I have always attended a church that believes in Biblical correction of family and we have spanked ours when needed. Our church, like Karen's, also endorses the husband as HOH and spanking his wife if necessary. This led me to wonder, in this group, Christian Family Discipline, how many others are corrected by husbands as I am? I expect it would be a very high percentage, but perhaps not. I hope others will reply to say if in their churches, their homes, Christian Family Discipline includes wives, or is limited to offspring. God's love and blessing to everyone, Lorica |
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| Subject: For Heather | |
Author: Lisa S [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 19:32:10 11/18/23 Sat Any updates on maintenance? Or on pre-event spankings? |
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| Subject: Gender roles and spanking | |
Author: Jessika[ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 10:24:57 11/29/23 Wed I'm curious about what people here think of gender roles when it comes to spanking. In traditional families, the mother is present with the kids more and therefore has more opportunities to handle disciplinary matters. And yet, "wait until your father gets home" is a common trope for a reason. Just based on my own experience, I just sort of naturally associate physical punishment (and authority in general) with a masculine role. Mothers are seen as more caring and nurturing, while fathers are seen more as authority figures, protectors, and providers. The Bible has lots of verses about using physical punishment, but all of these verses address "fathers", never "mothers" or even "parents". In terms of the recipients of this sort of punishment, many verses use the term "sons" but never daughters. However, it occasionally does use the gender- neutral term "children", so unfortunately that doesn't protect my butt from punishment. For modesty reasons, I understand that some people believe that the parent of the same-sex should handle the spankings, especially for older kids. I'm spanked by my dad and modesty isn't personally an issue for me. Kids shouldn't have anything to hide from either parent, regardless of gender. But I understand that this sort of thing makes a lot of people uncomfortable for reasons of culture or belief, and I totally respect that. Some of this may be stereotype, but from talking to others, it seems there are differences in how mothers spank versus how fathers spank. Use of the hairbrush seems more common for mothers, while use of the belt seems more common for fathers. This may also overlap with the issue of age. For example, using a hairbrush is easier over the lap, while a belt is easier when the kid is bent over. It also happens that it's easier for smaller kids to be over the lap. I also get the impression that when fathers are the primary spankers in a household, the spankings come to an end at a later age. This probably has to do with the way fathers typically spank being more applicable to older kids. Physical presence also has an effect. For someone my age who is pretty tough physically, the parent with enough upper body strength to swing a paddle effectively is probably going to be the more effective disciplinarian. But things like physical height have a psychological effect as well. I'm taller than my mom but shorter than my dad, so I literally feel smaller when I'm in trouble. I have to look up at him rather than looking down like I would with my mom. Having a more authoritative voice also makes a difference. When my dad tells me to "bend over", his tone carries authority in a way that a more feminine voice might not. As a woman who believes in traditional family values, when I get married someday, I will be submissive to my husband's authority. So, in a way, submitting to my father's authority is good practice. These are just my personal perspectives based on my experiences though. I definitely don't want to imply that mothers aren't good at handling discipline. There's another side to this that I haven't gotten into. As I said before, mothers are typically present with the kids more than fathers are. And mothers are usually more involved with all aspects of parenting in general, not just discipline. This added context means that a mother who spanks has to balance the nurturing side of her nature with the need to effectively discipline. As I said, my experience being spanked has been from my father, but I can also see how this motherly role can be an asset rather than a liability for discipline. Maybe children are more responsive on a psychological level to being disciplined by their primary caregiver. Anyway, these are my perspectives based on my experiences. Others are totally welcome to have differing perspectives. |
| Subject: Activity | |
Author: Spankerk[ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 09:31:38 11/17/23 Fri Is this chat active at all? It is a subject I am very interested? |
| Subject: The Importance of Corporal Punishment in Christian Education | |
Author: Monty [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 19:04:46 11/14/23 Tue To those of you have children enrolled in a Christian school, did have children enrolled, or are considering enrolling, how important is it that the school use corporal punishment for a quality Christian education? When my eldest was entering the first grade, my wife and I took a tour of a local Christian school, which was about to start its first year of operation. We learned that they used hand spanking as a form of discipline. I was surprised by this, as the public schools as well as the local military academy had ceased corporal punishment years before. My wife and I spent many hours discussing and praying on the matter. We determined that our main concern was that the school was untested, and opted to send our children to public school. I am old enough to have seen first hand the rapid decline of corporal punishment in school. When I was attending school, every teacher had a paddle and they had a tremendous amount of freedom regarding its use. There were no requirements for a set number of swats, that the teacher be of the same sex, or having a witness. As you can probably imagine, there was no “opt-out” mechanism either. Some teachers would take you into the hall, while other made you take your punishment in front of your classmates. Some paddled rarely, other teachers so frequently that it seemed that a day did not go by without some poor soul being on the receiving end of the paddling. Some wrote notes home to parents, some didn’t. I even had two teachers who would make you sign the paddle, so that your punishment was memorialized through the ages. In those days, no one questioned this way of doing things. It was accepted that teachers had the authority to spank and if you were sentenced to a paddling, the only thing you could do was bend over and hope they had mercy on you. We also had a smoking lounge for the high school seniors, just to give an idea of how different things were. Some years after graduation, in my mid 20s, I became a middle school teacher in a district about an hour away from where I attended school. At that school, only the principal had the authority to paddle, and I believe its use was rare. In my second year of teaching, they began requiring a witness. In year four, they started sending opt-out forms. By year five, my final year as a teacher, the principal deemed the whole process so cumbersome that he opted to discontinue paddling. The sanction remained on the books for a few years before being officially banned. Looking back, it is shocking just how quickly attitudes towards corporal punishment changed. I hear stories of how out of control classrooms are these days, and I could make the argument that it all could be fixed if they would just bring the paddle back. Although, it is hard to say if that is objectively true or just the opinion of an old man reminiscing on days gone by through rose colored glasses. |
| Subject: Pastor at Home | |
Author: Mark [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 09:36:49 03/08/23 Wed Does any parent or those on the receiving end have a pastor who comes to your home to discipline? |
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| Subject: Weekly maintenance here | |
Author: Nora [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 11:29:29 01/16/23 Mon Hello to everyone. I am 35, married and mother of to lovely kids (son 10, daughter 7). Since June 2022 we have used weekly mainteenance spankings which work wonders on them. Until this time both of them had on average around two punishment spankings a week. Since they get their weekly maintenance on Friday 4pm the number of punishment spankings decreased drastically. Both of them only have two since June. The maintenance spankings are not as hard as their punishment spankings but hard enough to make them cry. We use a small lexan paddle on their bare butts and thighs.. Both of them are much more relaxed at the weekend and during the week. Both have noticed that since then the atmosphere in our family has been much better and there have been far fewer arguments. Most time when the maintenance is done there is cuddling time and after around an hour the world keeps on turning. |
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| Subject: Cooperation | |
Author: Emily [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 16:53:23 10/01/23 Sun How well do your children cooperate when it’s time for a spanking? My daughter used to be a yeller but the last couple years she does a very good job with cooperation. She stands up after our talk and will bare her bottom and allow me to put her over my lap without a fight. She takes the spanking well with minimal struggle for her age. Getting the belt was a different story but if the belt happens again I will change things up so it's easier for her. |
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| Subject: New to Maintenance Spanking | |
Author: Heather [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 18:55:09 08/23/23 Wed My husband and I are thinking about starting maintenance spankings for our three boys who are 5, 8 and 10. I posted on another board asking about it but didn’t give much context. I read some of the posts here and it seems like a lot do it. I would love to know your thoughts about my situation. Two Saturdays ago my 10 YO son had a full day soccer tournament. Afterwards the boys were just getting on my nerves. But they didn’t break any specific rules or anything. When we got home my husband immediately left to pick up some pizzas as we were going to do a family movie night. I sent my 10 year old to take a shower. While he was showering I decided to spank the 5 and 8 year olds. It was the first time I had ever spanked them without them breaking a specific rule like lying or disobeying. I explained to them that they didn’t break any rules but it had been about 2 weeks since any discipline and I thought it would be beneficial. When my 10 year old was out of the shower he came downstairs in his pajamas unaware that he was about to be spanked too. I explained the same thing to him and administered one to him. My husband returned home shortly after with the pizzas and we watched a movie and ate. The boys bottoms were hot and sore but they were extremely well behaved and docile. My 10 YO even fell asleep halfway through the movie (I guess playing soccer then being spanked will take the energy out of anyone!). The next morning at church they were still very good. The following Saturday night we went to a MLB baseball game. A couple of hours before leaving I thought about spanking them again. But they didn’t do anything. After some thought and prayers I decided to do it again. I explained that I wanted them on their best behavior and I don’t always need a reason. Our 5 YO was exempt because he wasn’t going to the game (he could care less and would have been bored) so while my husband drove him to my parents house for the night I spanked the 8 & 10 YOs. While at the game they were very well behaved. My 10 YO even asked if he should hold our hands so he wouldn’t get lost, something we like him to do while in public but as a 10 YO he’s starting to not like (it’s been a struggle with him to hold our hand in crowded places). Anyway we loved the results we were seeing, and I loved knowing they both had red little bottoms under their shorts (very cute!). So that sent me searching the web and I found maintenance spankings and these forums. My husband and I are thinking of doing it every Saturday night. Saturday nights are family night so they will hopefully associate it with family and love. We are thinking of reviewing rules, recent behavior, Bible verses, etc. during this time. |
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| Subject: How my dad spanks me | |
Author: Jessika[ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 19:02:17 11/05/23 Sun All of my spankings start with my dad giving me the command to "strip", which means I have to take absolutely everything off. Hesitation and stalling aren't allowed. I can go from fully dressed to completely naked in 10 seconds because of how much practice I get. Modesty isn't allowed when I'm being spanked. There are reasons for this that I may get into another time. Once I am naked, my dad will tell me why I'm about to be spanked, although I usually already know. At this time, I can ask to discuss the reason, and he will hear me out and explain further if needed, but once he says the decision is final, I am not allowed to say another word on the matter. I usually don't bother asking to discuss because I usually already know exactly what I did wrong. The spankings are almost always done in my bedroom and there are three types of spanking my dad uses. The first is a "reminder" spanking. That's what he calls it. It sounds somewhat similar to what I've seen others refer to as "maintenance" spankings. A lot of parents will simply verbally correct their kids. It's the same basic concept here, except the verbal warning is accompanied by a spanking. It sounds harsh, but the important thing I really want to emphasize here is that reminder spankings are NOT punishments. At most, I feel a mild sting and my butt turns pink. My dad just uses his hands for these reminder spankings. And yes, I did use the plural word "hands". The position he has me in is pretty unusual. I'm on all fours on my bed with my head and chest lowered down onto the bed so that my butt is sticking up. It's kind of similar to the "Melting Heart" yoga position. I've also heard it compared to the knee-chest position in medical exams. My dad pulls up a chair directly behind me and sits down. I guess the original intent of this position was to be embarrassing, but I'm so used to it by now that it doesn't bother me at all. As for the actual spanking, my dad will alternate using his hands to do overhead slaps on my butt, kind of like playing bongo drums. Afterwards, he will rub my butt for a bit. The second type of spanking is what he calls a "discipline" spanking. This is used for behaviors that I definitely know better about but aren't related to deliberate disobedience or lying. ADHD-related stuff like laziness, procrastination, forgetting to do stuff, etc. are what I usually get discipline spankings for. These are meant to hurt for the purpose of helping keep me on track. He uses a leather strap with a handle for this. It hangs on my wall, and I have to hand it to him. I'm in the same position as before but he is standing up instead of sitting so he can swing the strap down with some force. He will sometimes rub some baby oil on my butt before he begins the spanking so that it stings more. Afterwards, rubs my butt for a while to comfort me. The third type of spanking is a "punishment" spanking. This is for things such as lying, deliberate disobedience, and being uncooperative during a spanking. The purpose of a punishment spanking is to overwhelm me with enough pain to make me really regret my actions. He uses a big wooden school style paddle for this. It's also hanging on my wall, and I have to hand it to him. I'm in a different position for this. I have to stand in front of my bed and bend over. I'm not really bending over my bed in the sense that my body is resting on the bed. Instead, it's really my head and shoulders that are on the bed and the rest of my body is off because my dad requires me to keep my butt sticking out the entire time, and it takes some effort to do that. The bed is mostly there so the paddle doesn't knock me over. Now this is where I should be very careful with how I explain this so no parents get the wrong idea. This kind of paddle is very severe. It's meant to be used over clothing so you can imagine what it's like bare. And if the person on the receiving end moves around while it's in mid-swing, that could be very dangerous. I'm 20 years-old, meaning I'm an adult who could face adult consequences for my actions in the "real world" such as prison, job loss, etc. So the punishment spankings I get are age appropriate. I am also used to taking hard spankings and I have the sort of toughness you would expect from someone with my experience being spanked. More importantly, my dad has enough experience spanking me that he knows what my butt can safely handle. Basically, what I'm getting at is don't just start using a paddle like this on your own kids and just assume that it will be fine. After a punishment spanking, there is unfortunately no butt rubbing just yet. Instead, my dad has me immediately sit down on a hard wooden chair for anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes. I'm not allowed to squirm while I'm on the chair. I have to keep my butt planted firmly in the chair. If he catches me squirming, he will give me a warning. If I keep doing it, he will have me stand up and bend over again for more paddling followed by my time in the chair being reset. This has only ever happened one time, and that was enough to prove just how serious he is. After my time in the chair is done, he will rub my butt. After I'm spanked, my dad will hug me. I will also thank him for spanking me. I'm not required to do this, but I don't want him to feel bad about spanking me as a result of my bad decisions, so I think it's important to let him know that I appreciate what he is doing to help me grow as a person. I am then allowed to put my clothes back on. |
| Subject: Husband paddles all four regularly | |
Author: Pastorswife [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 06:25:25 09/24/23 Sun My husband has been the head pastor at a fundamentalist church for the last eleven years and keeps a paddle in his church office that gets used occasionally. At home however we have twk daughters 11 & 15 and two sons 13 & 17 who take trips to his home office for anything he considers direct disobedience on a very regular basis. Once he tells one of them they’ve earned a paddling Im required to take them to his office and prepare them for their paddling. |
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| Subject: The paddle | |
Author: Madison [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 14:28:28 01/15/23 Sun I mentioned I teach at a school that makes relatively frequent use of the pair. It's a private religious school, and our corporal punishment policy involves the student, a same-sex teacher or administrator to give the paddling, and another same-sex teacher or administrator to witness. Prior to swats being delivered, the student is always fully explained to why it's being done, we pray with the child, give them a couple of minutes to pray by themself if they wish. Then they bend over either a desk or hands against the wall (I prefer against the wall when I'm the one doing the paddling, personally.) and they receive between two and five swats. It's usually only two or three, unless it's a very serious or repeated issue, but they are delivered hard, with intent to get through and make an impression. I teach fifth grade mostly, and I would estimate about 60-70% of my students who get paddled go home to another spanking. |
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| Subject: How do you feel when you spank | |
Author: Michael [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 22:10:00 03/24/23 Fri Some parents feel disturbed and troubled when they spank. My wife and I and most parents in our church community believe that is not how they should react. If a parent spanks in the right spirit and circumstances we think that is exactly how they should NOT feel. Secure in the knowledge that the spanking is beneficial for the boy or girl and the family, a parent should regard administering a spanking as a warm, bonding, fulfilling experience. |
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| Subject: I hope it's OK for me to be here | |
Author: Jessika[ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 02:12:37 10/26/23 Thu Hello, I'm not a parent. I'm 20 years-old but am still spanked by my dad. Unfortunately, people tend to be VERY judgemental about that in other forums so I'm just making sure that's not the case here. I have struggled with autism and ADHD my whole life, so even though I'm an adult, it's really hard for me to function like one. We've tried medication and therapy. Spanking was really a last resort but it's been proven to be very helpful for me, so now it's regularly used. I used to think that my dad was just being really mean to me by spanking me but now I've come to understand that it's actually been very beneficial for me. It's not that the pain itself is what helps. Having structure in my life is what actually helps, but the spanking is just to make sure I stick to that structure. |
| Subject: Church spanking room spanking of 12 year boy | |
Author: Doreen [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 03:27:47 09/26/23 Tue I attend a church that is a very strict old fashion country church in a farm area. I also work in the church and take the minutes for there meetings on Sundays. Well their was a church meeting called a budget meeting where members can come to hear the latest news. There was a boy around the age of 12 or maybe 13 years old who was acting up at the meeting. His mother kept telling him to be quiet but the boy kept on making noise interrupting the meeting. There were two elders there at the meeting and they were women and they were very strict with anyone interrupting there meetings. After the meeting one women approaches the women with her son and tells them could you report to the spanking room. Her son was trying to pull away from his mother but his mother held his hand tightly so he could not get away. She followed the two women into the room when I was called in also. I did not know why they wanted me there so I came in and they wanted me to document the spanking which was about to take place. One of the elder women sat in a leather church chair and told the women to bring her son over to her. Her son was screaming and crying and trying to run out the door which they locked. Once the two women got the boy under control and over the elders knee the other elder pulled down the boys pants and underpants all the way down to his ankle's than he was fully bare bottomed over the elders knees ready for his spanking. The elder gave the women's son a long hand spanking as his mother looked on, the hand spanking must of lasted 3 or four mins. It was very loud so you might of heard it in the hallway. As the other elder who was holding the boys wrists was scolding him. Than the other women who was holding his wrists went over the the desk and took a long thin rod and handed it to his mother to use on her son. She called it the rod of correction. His mother must of spanked the boy after the long hand spanking administered a least what I counted was 40 times with the rod. The boy was kicking his legs back and forth crying but the two women had him fully restrained. The mother stopped at one point but the elder told her to continue the spanking until he learns his lesson. I never seen a spanking like this with two elders and the mother. I could tell you one thing the boy was well spanked by the red bottom he had. You think they did the right thing with the elders spanking the boy and the other elder holding his wrists? |
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| Subject: General Update | |
Author: Kristina [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 13:04:38 09/17/23 Sun Hope everyone has been doing well and children continue to be blessings to their families :) How has everyone's back to school transition gone? My daughter is focused this year she says shes gonna get all A's , we shall see, I will settle for her doing her best Was at church today, it went well the message for both Sunday school and the adults was about honoring your mother and father, and the importance of discipline in keeping children and us as God's children on the right path. Was a good message and have a feeling there were quite a few children with warm bottoms this afternoon. I was definitely putting up with less this afternoon, it was good for them of course. Does anyone else's churches talk about the subject and have you heard any teachings that made you even more resolute using old fashioned parenting methods? |
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| Subject: Post/Pre spanking cornertime | |
Author: Emily [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 17:55:22 10/16/23 Mon Does anyone have a routine for the child that includes having them stand in the corner before or after the spanking. I have not done this but have heard of parents having their child stand in the corner sometimes with their pants and underwear down. If you do this what benefits have do you feel this has? |
| Subject: School Behavior | |
Author: Emily [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 13:38:08 09/22/23 Fri What do other parents do to address bad behavior in school? Do you discipline the child at home or do you just leave it at what the school as done to address it since it occurred there? My opinion as always been that I expect my daughter to have even better behavior when other adults are in charge of her. Her school for elementary anyway really doesn't do much discipline wise. They don't really do detention or writing lines much, spanking while legal in our state is not allowed at our school district so I feel that it's my job to punish bad behavior at school. |
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